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WHAT'S INSIDE: The past few days I've revealed examples of BAD dating advice. Now, let's talk about who NOT to get advice from to begin with.
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THESE 67 EPISODES ARE MADE OF "UNOBTANIUM"
In addition to the first 9 episodes of The Chick Whisperer with Steve "The Dean" Williams, the rest of the first 67 shows are also now "retired".
They're great shows, with great guests like Doc Love, David Shade, Dr. Robert Glover, Mark Manson, and basically a Who's Who of OG mens's dating and seduction experts.
But because of limits to how many shows most podcast services list, you won't find them ANYWHERE on the web anymore.
Not on the RSS feed. Not even on the main site for The Mountain Top Podcast.
Well, as of today I've expanded the Lost Episodes collection to include them ALL:
The Chick Whisperer - Lost Episodes
This is EVERY episode from the very beginning in 2007 through 2014. Eight years' worth of action-packed, practical ways to be better with women.
And I figured what the heck? I made the whole package the latest "Pay What You Want" promo.
Sure, you can snap up the whole collection at a great minimum price. If you've loved the show for years now, kick in a few extras as a donation for the good of the cause.
But most of all, as the intro used to say, "Sit back, relax, and enjoy..."
67 Lost Episodes - Pay What You Want
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5 PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NEVER TAKE DATING ADVICE FROM
For the last couple of days I've suggested not taking advice from miserable people.
But there's more to that topic.
Let's put it this way...
If you're trying to fix the transmission in a '92 Volvo I'm probably the LAST guy you should come to for advice.
Similarly, if your plan is to architect an NFL-style defense for the Pop Warner football team you're coaching, I probably can't help you there either.
But having been immersed in the art and science of dating and relationships for eighteen years now, I trust I'm able to point you solidly in the right direction toward success with women.
Experience be darned, however, that could also be because I don't fit into any of the following five categories of people who nobody should EVER take dating advice from:
1. Psychiatrists
I'll admit that years ago I flirted with the idea of getting my PhD in counseling or something so as to serve you better.
Maybe I'll get around to doing that someday.
But one thing I'm definitely not going to do is become a Psychiatrist.
Yes, there may be an exception or two out there who are actually pretty valid dating experts. My good friend
Dr. Mark Goulston
comes to mind...but then again, he was world-class for decades before his recent tragic passing.
But wow...if I had a fiver for every guy who's ever come to me dateless because his psychiatrist has been acting as his "dating doctor" I could buy a new pickup truck.
Man...
And don't even get me started about how "when the only tool you've got is a hammer, everything starts looking like a nail".
To many, many psychiatrists every dating issue starts looking like a psychosis...or worse, a drug prescription.
2. "Naturals"
By now it's abundantly clear to you that I wasn't born with some sort of silver spoon in my mouth when it comes to getting girls.
I got better with women by learning the hard way through LOTS of trial and error.
And my guess is you wouldn't have it any other way.
You see, when a guy is a "natural" who has always been mobbed by women wherever he goes, then he probably isn't be able to put a finger on exactly why that's the case.
After all, he would never really have had to think much about it.
As such, it would be kind of difficult for him to impart his skills to others.
So, in that context he just might end up giving random advice that doesn't have any real cause/effect relationship.
For example, "Yeah, man... Get a few cats. Women LOVE dude with cats." Or, "Just be yourself." Great.
3. Women Who Don't Like You
Let me get this straight..
She just told you that you're not her type when you went up and introduced yourself to her.
Worse, you did something (or nothing) to piss her off so she started saying mean things to you.
Then, as some sort of twisted coup de grace she offered some "advice" to you regarding any future interactions with women you might meet.
Are you actually going to take that advice?
I know that might have made you laugh, but I can't believe the number of guys who actually follow suggestions from women who don't give a rat's behind about them.
This can happen even within your social circle with women you already know. You just rub them the wrong way and in their arrogance they try to "fix" you.
Remember always, unless you're seeing a pattern somewhere over the course of your interactions with lots of women, what you're dealing with here is ONE person's opinion.
She does NOT speak for every other woman out there, especially if other women tend to actually like you.
4. Relatives
The people who love you the most in this world probably also are the ones who are the least likely to tell you the truth about succeeding with women.
For example, I'm sure your mom and your grandma have told you to be a "nice boy" and wear a tie on dates. You know, stuff like that.
By now, you know that none of that works.
That's because it's virtually impossible for any woman who wears the "mother" hat in your life to even think in terms of your non-platonic "lover" exploits, let alone advise you about them.
A woman is either tuned in to one role or the other in your life, but never both.
As for your Dad, chances are he had a hard enough time trying to talk to you about the "birds and the bees".
Do you think he's going to risk any REAL awkwardness trying to understand what you're truly dealing with when it comes to women?
I mean, let's hear it for dads who are better about this sort of thing, but unfortunately they really are rare.
The only possible exception here might be if you're young and have a big brother who happens to be good with girls.
But even then, watch what he does rather than listening to what he says.
5. Misogynists
First off, negativity is contagious.
Second, women follow your lead.
Third, it's hard for them to like you when you don't like them to begin with.
Add it all up, and it can only mean that if you take advice from a man who hates women you're likely to fall into the trap of thinking negatively about women yourself.
From there, women will follow your lead ...and they won't like you.
You may laugh, but I'm repeatedly shocked by how many guys out there appear to have an openly adversarial relationship with women but call themselves "dating coaches".
Oh, and "5a" here would be misandrists. They're no help either, if that's not obvious enough already.
Despite the list I just shared, there really are some great places to get good, solid input on how to
get better real-world results with women
.
Obviously, a big part of my life involves making sure X & Y Communications is one such outlet for you. But there are certainly others, of course.
Basically, when you get down to it, the proof is in the pudding, right?
The best advice is what WORKS. For better or worse, that's not necessarily to be confused with what sells, what sounds good or especially what's comfortable.
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