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IN THIS EDITION: If you've ever found yourself paralyzed by the thought of meeting and talking to women, then this is for you.
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TURN YOUR SOCIAL LIFE INTO A BONANZA
Yesterday I announced I was opening up my schedule again to talk to you for 25 minutes via phone or Zoom.
I hope and trust today's newsletter will inspire you to take the important step to inviting women you actually desire into your life.
After all, nothing will impact your life more than the woman you share it with.
Depending on where you are in your journey to success with women, a Ten-Plus coaching program, Laser Coaching or a particular digital program in the Member's Portal will be right for you.
Right now, you and I can strategize together on a finely tuned plan of action, customized just for you.
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THIS WILL OVERCOME FEAR OF APPROACHING
It's a well-known fact of life that once you get a girlfriend, you tend to suddenly have more opportunities with women than ever.
That often has everything to do with both increased confidence with women and a perception that the stakes are lower every time you talk to one.
Since you're already "taken" you have nothing to gain or lose--socially or sexually, for that matter--when talking to even the most beautiful woman.
Well, here's a variation on this theme that represents the next logical step.
What if you don't exactly have a steady girlfriend at the moment?
What if you don't even particularly WANT one right now?
Can you somehow harness the confidence and freedom from fear of rejection that guys with girlfriends so often enjoy?
Yes...you most certainly can. And here's what I believe to be the magic formula.
All you really, honestly need is "two bonanzas".
According to Dictionary.com, the word "bonanza" was originally used in the mining industry and means "a source of great and sudden wealth or luck; a spectacular windfall".
For the purposes here, let's define "bonanza" in this context as "a woman who you find hot and sexy who is also attracted to you in return".
Every time I'd meet a woman I'd been talking to online who dramatically exceeded my expectations in real life, it would be the first word I thought of.
I also recognized "bonanza" women as representing an ongoing abundance of good fortune to come.
Whenever I met one and we connected, it was as if I'd take a deep breath and relax. No more heavy lifting was necessary.
If you are in an exclusive relationship, I trust she represents a "bonanza" to you. Otherwise you're already settling.
But if you'd rather date multiple women right now, all you need are TWO "bonanza" women in your life to enjoy the same psychological bliss and exponential favor from even MORE women than ever before.
At this point you may be ready to throw rotten veggies at your computer screen.
"But Scot, I can't even get ONE half-way decent woman to go out with me...and you're talking about TWO who exceed expectations already?"
Hang in there with me. I promise I'm not suggesting anything particularly advanced here.
I often draw the analogy between approaching sexy women and skydiving. The short version is that at SOME POINT you've got to go ahead and jump out of the plane.
To be perfectly frank, MOST guys I know don't have any women in their lives because they aren't MEETING any.
You've got to go where the women are. Hint: that's not in your living room watching the tube.
We can talk about that when when you get on my calendar.
Next, you have to really, actually TALK to some and gather the boldness to get their numbers and make plans.
For sure, if you've got a recurring pattern of negative responses from virtually all women you interact with, that's something else we can talk about.
The good news there is if you're seeing a consistent pattern then you almost always have control over changing it.
Nevertheless, were you to have a mere TWO women in your life who you were pleased with, you'd all but conquer your fear of rejection FOREVER.
Additionally, your confidence, along with your desirability to those two women would activate a super magnet to attract even MORE women.
YES...just like what happens for guys who have girlfriends.
Here's why that's true. If you happen across one sexy girl who is interested in you, it might be easy to chalk that up as some sort of fluke.
In other words, maybe you "accidentally" met her, or perhaps she has some weird taste in guys that just so happened to work out in your favor.
But when you have TWO hot, sexy women who agree that you're terrific, the whole dynamic changes. There's validation in numbers.
You can no longer dismiss it as a fluke or some sort of happy accident.
Plus, you then have OPTIONS. This is magical. There's no need to fear losing one of those women because even if that happened you'd still have another to go out with.
And then there's the simple psychological truth that no matter what ANY woman could ever say or do to assault your confidence, there are at least TWO other women who'd flatly disagree with whatever reason why she chose to "reject" you.
You no longer have any urgency or desperation with regard to meeting women.
Any emotional pain caused by rejection is greatly diminished. After all, you already have multiple women who adore you.
You're then bolder and less "needy".
Then, you start seeing more interest from more women as a direct result. And unlike guys in relationships, you can actually ACT upon those options.
This all sounds terrific to you, I'm sure. Yet I can already hear someone saying it all still sounds out of reach.
If that's YOU I hear, I challenge you to jump out of the plane. Do that knowing it's only going to take TWO successful approaches to cure what may have been a lifetime of fear.
Are you willing to risk unfavorable results a few times in order to enjoy the "bonanza" that likely awaits you?
I assure you that I'm not being irrational here. I have not lost focus on what it's like to be dateless.
Rather, what I'm telling you is most guys who finally break the ice and actually approach some women are THRILLED with the results...even if they've only stood on the sidelines worrying about it for YEARS.
TWO BONANZAS. That's ALL it takes.
And yes, I've experienced what I'm talking about here personally. It really was like flipping a switch and turning on the light when it happened.
Suddenly I was fearless. I indeed talked to women as if I were emotionally invincible.
Better still, when I went out on dates with the third or fourth "bonanza" woman I could potentially add to my social life, I relaxed and did what I already knew worked the other times.
There was no longer any freaking out over trying not to mess up.
Can you believe the ONLY real difference between the multitude of men who NEVER get the success with women they want and the tiny percentage who do may really only be TWO "bonanzas"?
Could this really explain why you see guys who aren't exactly "Mr. Perfect" out there with beautiful women?
And most importantly of all, can you get excited about an initially intimidating challenge of attracting just TWO high quality women with the promise of forever CURING yourself of "approach anxiety"?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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