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WHAT'S INSIDE: By now you know all about the "big four" man. But what does the "big four" woman look like to us?
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A "BIG FOUR" WOMAN. WANT ONE (OR SIX)?
In this newsletter we're talking about "big four" women.
But obviously, there's more nuance to it than this newsletter allows for. And the more you know, the better you get.
It's especially powerful to know how to recognize and attract "big four" women as a "big four" man.
That's why I built the audio program The "Big Four" Woman for you:
The "Big Four" Woman
It won't break the bank, and it's about an hour's worth. I've included a full transcript and some great bonuses, too.
So why not treat yourself on a Saturday afternoon to mastering this all-powerful skill set so you can finally start attracting the right women?
The "Big Four" Woman
Nobody else is teaching this at all, let alone at this level.
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THE WOMEN'S VERSION OF THE "BIG FOUR"
It has been years now since the first time the question came up during a coaching call.
Is there a women's equivalent of the "big four"?
In other words, just like the "big four" traits in a man represent what high quality women desire most in a man, are there also four distinct traits in women that really cause the highest quality examples of us guys to recognize greatness in them?
The answer was actually relatively easy to come up with.
Not only is that answer a resounding "yes", there's a surprising twist: It's actually the same list...only the female equivalent, of course.
That's right. We as human beings, male or female, tend to want something similar from our relationships with MOTOS (members of the other sex).
As such, the "big four" are not gender specific, save for the obvious and highly necessary substitution necessary to ensure proper sexual polarity.
Let me show you exactly what I mean:
1) Confidence
You've heard that "confidence is sexy" a hundred times. And every time you've heard it, there's been no elaboration as to whether that fact applies to men or to women in particular.
That's because it indeed applies to everyone.
There's nothing worse than a woman who doesn't believe she's competent (except, of course, a man who doesn't). When she second guesses herself or shies away from social situations it's a turn off.
When she's sheepish around you in public you wonder not only who she really is under there, but also what she's going to be like in private (i.e. behind closed doors).
You betcha. We as guys love women who know they've "got it" and carry themselves accordingly.
2) Femininity
Feminine women want a masculine man. And yes, you as a masculine man want a feminine woman.
So it makes perfect sense that the sexual polarity factor is equally important in the women's version of the "Big Four" as it is in the men's version.
Of course you want her to visually appear as if she's 100% woman, by your very definition of the word. Beautiful, radiant, even stunning.
But you also want that joyful energy, playful attitude, that sweet heart and that supportive spirit.
Somehow, the qualities that make her potentially a great mother turn you on, also. When was the last time you heard an attractive woman singing a lullaby? Admit it...you stopped in your tracks as if the Sirens themselves had begun to join together in chorus.
Hard-edged resolve doesn't cut it. Neither does corporate ambition. All of that's your job.
Likewise, the word "butch" is quite possibly the biggest attraction killer known to man as far as you're concerned.
Manicures, sundresses and hair that smells great are what do it for you. And that's no coincidence. It's nature.
And yes, she needs to feel safe and secure. But so do you.
I hear someone already, "What is this, McKay, some sort of joke? I don't need some woman to make me feel safe and secure."
The heck you don't.
Don't get me wrong; this isn't about a woman acting as your "protector", per se. It's indeed likely that you don't require that.
But I'm pretty sure that among your biggest, gnarliest nightmares when it comes to relationships are that she's going to either humiliate you in public, second guess your dreams and/or fail to stand beside you when everything's on the line.
We as guys don't want to even think of our woman ever letting us down. We want to believe in her like she hopefully believes in us.
Any other state of affairs leaves us flat-out unfulfilled.
3) She Actually Likes Men
This one needs a minimum of elaboration, doesn't it? We see (and well, mostly hear) women around us all the time who clearly can't stand men. A fair share are downright militant about it.
And like virtually every man who can't stand women, they're utterly miserable and unhappy.
If you as a man don't like women, you can't expect women to like you. That gets to the very core of masculine leadership.
But when you think about it, what business do we have trifling with any woman who can't stand men in general, somehow expecting it to turn out differently for us?
You can trick yourself into dealing with it if she looks good enough. But it's way better to find a woman who looks good AND likes you.
4) Character
Perhaps the biggest, gnarliest nightmare of all is getting involved in a long-term relationship with a woman only to wake up a few years (or even months) later with someone completely different next to you in bed.
Maybe it was a ruse all along, or maybe she changed.
Whatever.
When she switches religions, attitudes or even (...ahem) sex partners on you; you'll know more than ever how important bringing a woman of strong, upstanding character into your life really is.
And that goes double if she can't seem to tell you the truth about anything or follow through with what she says she's going to do.
There you go. It's a pretty convincing list after all, isn't it though?
Truth be told, I definitely still advocate, as always, putting together your own version of "The Depth Chart" detailing the top ten traits in a woman you can't live without.
That list needs to include your own subjective criteria based solely on personal taste.
But ultimately, just about anything on that list really is going to fall under one of the "big four". Go ahead and put your own list to the test, and let me know what you come up with.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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