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WHAT'S INSIDE: You get the nerve to approach a woman, only to find that she's super sharp with a laser-like wit. What should you do?
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APPROACH HER, TALK TO HER, AND KEEP HER INTERESTED
I heard from yet another guy who has noticed how nearly all of the "pickup" teaching out there is from like twenty years ago.
I completely get it.
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...The same one where everybody's nose is buried in their smartphones.
It WORKS.
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Listen and/or read. Your choice.
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DEALING WITH SUPER SHARP, QUICK-WITTED WOMEN
Some of you have asked if I'm really "friends" with the other dating and relationship guru types that I introduce you to from time to time in this newsletter, like I say I am.
Well yes, it's all true. I talk to dozens of them all the time over phone and Zoom and we all get together a few times a year to share ideas, etc.
A while back I was in Vegas for just such a "mastermind" meeting.
And as it turned out, the ideas started flowing even as I was still in the check-in line for the Luxor.
Ahead of me were four guys who, as MTV would say, "appeared to be in their early twenties". They were pretty fired up, and clearly there for the party. Imagine Hawaiian shirts, flip-flops and beer logos and you're on the right track.
And ahead of THEM in line was a somewhat attractive woman in decidedly more "business casual" attire, carrying a computer bag.
One of the four dudes was particularly taken by her, and his other three buddies started encouraging him to start a conversation.
There was no wimping out of this one, so sure enough...he tapped her on the shoulder, introduced himself and asked her what she was doing in Vegas.
The woman wheeled around with a smile, introduced herself and answered the question. As it turned out, she was a badass sales manager from New York City there for her company's national sales conference.
She exuded raw confidence and carried herself with a sense of personal strength that was nothing short of impressive.
And above all, she was super-quick with exactly the right words at the right time--and they were almost always wry and witty.
She lived up to the mid-town Manhattan persona in every way. She had made it there, and could likely make it anywhere.
Our hero had bitten off more than he could chew. From the opening salvo onward he grew more and more intimidated and had less and less to say to her.
At one point I had to take a step backward in line because the guy was literally BACKING OFF from her as the conversation continued.
It was as if she were a jaguar in the wild...beautiful to behold, but you'd better be ready to run for your life at any second.
It was at that precise moment that I felt the slightest smile cross my face. She was a dead-ringer for someone I knew in college. Someone I had fond memories of.
Now, it's not really my style to step in and give unsolicited advice to guys in situations like these.
But I couldn't help but think how POWERFUL it would be to tell a woman like her something like that.
"You know, you remind me of someone I know", said with a warm, confident smile.
And let's face it, it's likely we ALL have indeed known someone like that. And we were probably digging her, even if she was a real handful to deal with at times, right?
So what's the magic in saying something like that?
Simply put, it switches the power dynamics of the conversation over to your favor immediately. Suddenly YOU'RE in control of what's being talked about.
Amazingly, no matter how "alpha" the chick is, she'll probably allow that to happen seamlessly, too.
Never mind the honest truth that she probably prefers it that way and was waiting all the while for you to show some social leadership.
The more pragmatic factor is that you will have created irresistible intrigue in her, and she'll be compelled to follow down that trail.
She'll likely say, "Oh REALLY? What's she like?"
That's when you can say something to the effect of, "Well, I don't REALLY know you yet, so I can't REALLY tell if you're like her. But she's..."
Then you'd list the honest positives about the woman you've got in your mind's eye.
And what the hell...you can casually throw in how much of a troublemaker she is, too. That should perk up the conversation.
Just in case I need to spell it out, the elegant beauty of this interaction lies in the fact that you are not paying compliments directly to the sharp-witted woman you're talking to.
You're talking about SOMEONE ELSE.
This gives the woman the desire to tell you more about herself...probably validating that she is, in fact, like what you guessed she'd be like. After all, you just rattled off a list of POSITIVE traits.
At that point she's selling herself to you, even if in a subtle, conversational way.
Money.
Importantly, note that your initial announcement that she reminds you of someone should be UNQUALIFIED.
You're not saying, "Oh...you remind me of someone I'm CRAZY ABOUT", or "I know someone who's just like you...badass and sexy."
That sort of thing would be both needy AND a bit creepy if you ask me. Remember, you DON'T actually know much about her yet.
You'd simply let your warm, knowing smile subtly communicate that your thoughts are positive ones.
Anyway...back in line at the Luxor our hero ended up "bonking" at the finish line. He was eventually too tongue-tied in awe of this woman to even ask her for her phone number, let alone suggest that they go gallivanting around Vegas together after hours.
That's really a shame, because in case you didn't notice he DID approach her pretty effectively and yes...she DID respond in a positive manner.
The woman was actually very friendly, just devastatingly sharp, that's all.
Eventually we all got to the head of the line and were directed to one of probably two dozen different check-in counters. As fortune would have it, I ended up right next to the woman who the guys in front of me had been talking to.
As we both got our room keys, our eyes met. She smiled.
I said, "That guy between us in line...I think you overwhelmed him a bit, huh?"
"Yeah", she responded, a bit whimsically. "What's up with that? I'm just a girl, right? He was kind of cute, too. Oh well..."
All I could say was, "Yeah, well...he's pretty young. He'll learn."
She nodded with a warm giggle, before heading off to her hotel room.
Meanwhile, out of the corner of my eye I saw the four guys headed the other way.
Hopefully, what happened in Vegas will stay in Vegas. After all, I'm sure that guy who was in front of me in line doesn't want it to happen again.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
X & Y Communications
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