[X&Y] Why Being "Sex Focused" Might Backfire On You
Published: Sun, 03/01/15
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Think all women are "dead lays"? Or worse...
they're not interested in even GOING THERE with you? If so,
this newsletter is for you.
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ARE YOU STILL PUTTING THIS OFF?
Passion. Focus. Ambition. Being a "man with a plan".
All of those traits are magically attractive to women.
But if you've fallen into the habit of being a procrastinator,
then you're probably NOT portraying yourself as that kind of
man.
Worse, it means your personal productivity--and likely your
confidence--has taken MASSIVE hit as well.
Yesterday I told you about this:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/fyf
Ironically, some of you put off checking that link out...
probably "until tomorrow".
Well remember, today was "tomorrow" yesterday. That can
only mean that TODAY is the day to FINALLY get this handled:
It's good stuff...go ahead and take a look:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/fyf
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WHY BEING "SEX FOCUSED" MIGHT BACKFIRE ON YOU
Being in the business I'm in, and being a man, I'm often
asked by guys how to get women to have sex with them.
Ironically enough, my answer typically involves some
iteration of, "Well, genius, stop trying so hard to get
them to have sex with you."
But as many of us have already encountered time and again
in life, one of the most oft-repeated blunders in the
business world is "If something isn't working, do twice
as much of it."
Such a ham-fisted redoubling of efforts tends to turn up
from time to time in the dating world also, doesn't it?
Particularly, it seems, when guys aren't getting women to
agree to all of the sex they want as often as they hoped.
Yeah, well. "Hope" is not a strategy.
Sure, male or female, we are all sexual creatures. But
there is SO MUCH more depth to us all.
Perhaps ironically, that's exactly the key to being more
sexually fulfilled. And therein lies today's point.
Make sure you are ready for this one, too...it's something
you've never heard before (which I major in, if you're just
getting acquainted with this newsletter). Here it is:
Men who prioritize raw sexual fulfillment over
actually building a relationship with a woman are
almost universally the LEAST sexually fulfilled
people I know of.
In other words, guys who are trying to "get laid" are
usually the LEAST "laid" guys I know.
Is this attributable to the old theory that "the more
you chase something the more elusive it becomes"?
Maybe in part, but there's much more to it.
Okay, then. Is it because most women are wise to such
motives and don't give in? Unfortunately, that's not it
either. There seems to be equal numbers of women these
days who are okay with casual sex.
Well, what IS IT already?
The answer lies in the very telling likelihood that the
guy who views women as walking life support systems for
their vaginas is the VERY SAME ONE who constantly kvetches
about how all [women] are "dead lays" with absolutely zero
sexual skill, drive or creativity.
Bad sex = Low fulfillment
And here it is: I submit that maybe the problem ISN'T the
women in this case.
Come on now, you can't really believe that all women are
passive, asexual and/or even frigid, can you?
Well, maybe if that helps you sleep at night.
But really, why should a woman's full sexual potential be
squandered on a guy who, when it comes down to it, is USING
her?
Make no mistake: It won't be.
Show me a guy who has a healthy respect for women, and
furthermore actually ENJOYS women...and I'll show you a guy
who's partner is so fired up in the bedroom (and the kitchen,
and the closet, and the shower...) that the smoke detectors
have to be disconnected.
Most women know all too well that one man's "dead lay" is
another man's "Siren/Vixen" ("S/V"). And "I/J"s don't
experience "S/V"s so much.
Go and try to figure THAT out. And when you do, deserve
what you want.
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