[X&Y] She Tells You How Many Other Guys Want Her
Published: Sat, 03/07/15
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IN THIS EDITION: Yeah, yeah...every guy in town wants her, and she's
making sure YOU know it. What's the point?=====
IF YOU DON'T TALK TO HER FIRST, THEN NOTHING ELSE IS EVER GOING TO HAPPEN
Think about that statement for a second. It really is true, isn't
it?
Being able to start a conversation with a woman is SO foundational
that you really could make a solid case for it being the MOST
important skill you can have.
The problem is that most of what you've read out there would tell
you that you need to say the PERFECT thing at the PERFECT time in
order to get anywhere with a woman.
Who needs THAT kind of pressure?
Well, here's the much more rational--and effective--approach:
Imagine not having to pressure yourself into "getting it right"
every time you find yourself in the position to talk to a beautiful
woman.
Imagine knowing the secret to getting HER to carry the
conversation...gladly.
And what if you could cause her to feel strong sexual attraction
for you...without having to DO anything?
I'm telling you, this is PURE GOLD. And even so, it won't break
the bank. Take a look.
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SHE TELLS YOU HOW MANY OTHER GUYS WANT HER
One thing I've noticed is how quick most guys are to completely
dismiss their chances with certain women. It's as if they're
literally looking for an excuse to bail out.
Indeed, for years I've been talking about how the "Too Good To Be
True Factor" influences so many of us, such that we tend to talk
ourselves out of success with women before even giving them a
chance to form their own opinion on the matter.
Because success is so hard to imagine as reality, we automatically
assume it CAN'T happen. Therefore, we sort of sabotage things in a
very real way just to make sure we're right about that.
Pretty sick, isn't it?
But sometimes we as guys will even go so far as to interpret
POSITIVE signs as NEGATIVES. These cases, of course, really are
the most tragic ones because the woman herself is left wondering
what the heck just happened.
Basically, both people lose out on getting to know each other...even
though they actually WANTED that to happen. He makes a wholly
incorrect assumption, and she ends up feeling "rejected".
Man, what a tangled web we weave, huh?
Today I'm going to give you a primo example of an indicator of
solid interest that I'd say MOST guys misinterpret as a put-off.
That's when a woman starts telling you how many guys she has
interested in her. Even if--make that ESPECIALLY if--she makes it a
point to do so.
Just to clear the air up front, I'll be the first to throw on the
table that it's a MISTAKE for a woman to do that. I mean, it's a
BAD IDEA for anyone--woman OR man--to say or do ANYTHING that's
likely to be misconstrued socially.
But rest assured nonetheless, women really have NO IDEA that you're
taking such statements as code for, "Hey, get lost...I have enough
guys trying to hit on me already. They'll never get anywhere, and
you won't either."
Unless she's as overtly blunt and negative about the matter as in
the example above you should open your eyes to a potentially
different interpretation of what she's saying...a RADICALLY different
one, and more likely the INTENDED one.
You see, it's overwhelmingly probable that she's actually bringing
the matter to your attention in an attempt to INCREASE HER VALUE in
your eyes.
That's because she LIKES YOU and hopes you'll LIKE HER.
Let me illustrate this for you.
If you're from the US or the UK and have ever rented a car
elsewhere (e.g. Europe, the Pacific Rim or the Middle East) you'll
quickly notice something as you try to find familiar music on the
radio dial.
People in non-English speaking countries really do LOVE American
and British pop music.
BUT...they're about six months to a year behind. And when they
decide they like a particular song they REALLY, REALLY like it.
Welp, about two years ago when we went to Europe the French and the
Spaniards had just discovered "Call Me Maybe" by Carli Rae Jepson.
Good God Man. We couldn't avoid that shiznit for 2000 miles worth
of roadtripping through southern Europe a couple of weeks ago.
Between that, "Gangnam Style", some Justin Bieber song and "Scream
& Shout" you'd be led to believe these stations had a four song
rotation...at least until they break stride with three songs by Bruno
Mars in a row, invariably punctuated by "Someone Like You" by
Adele. Geez.
OK, so making lemonade out of lemons I did make one interesting
observation. Check out this lyric from what's an otherwise
completely worthless, overproduced pop monstrosity with a
completely incongruous flow to it:
"And all the other boys try to chase me, but here's my number...so
call me, maybe?"
Aha...see that? The girl clearly likes the guy...a LOT. And before
giving him her number, she drops EXACTLY the kind of line I'm
talking about here.
Rhetorically speaking, it goes without saying that she's NOT hoping
the guy "gets lost".
So like other women who would have us know how popular they are
with other dudes, she's attempting to tap into the power of
perceived social proof to gain approval from him also.
You know, just in case he isn't yet in the fold with those who
quickly adore her.
Can you see how that's working there?
After all, as all good salespeople know "people buy on the approval
of others".
Following logically, you can now see that it's all nothing more
than good old-fashioned approval seeking.
Yes...the ill-advised type that tends to make people look needy or
even desperate when overplayed.
There you have another reason why women probably shouldn't play
that particular card.
But alas, they do. And they sure LOVE to, don't they?
Well, from now on you'll know what she's REALLY trying to tell you
when that happens.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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