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WHAT'S INSIDE:  How can it be that we're usually our own worst
enemy when it comes to success with women?

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THIS WORKS AMAZINGLY WELL WITH WOMEN


I told you about this about a month ago, and a TON of you guys
were all over it...in no small part because everything else
this guy has ever done has been really super effective:



The Reports Don't Lie



Apparently, this latest program from him is no exception.  In
fact, it's become his most popular one ever.

I keep hearing from guys about how they're getting phenomenal--
even unexpected--results with women from it, so I wanted to make
sure that if you didn't check it out before you got another
GOLDEN chance to:



See For Yourself



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I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW MANY GUYS LET THIS RUIN THEM


All of us are inspired when we hear stories of BELIEF in the face
of DOUBT.  Movies like "The Pursuit Of Happyness", "Rudy" and
"Hoosiers" all come to mind.  

The characters in each respective flick are repeatedly told that
they would or even SHOULD fail, yet their sheer will and
determination carries them to wildly successful victory against
all odds.  And it's human nature for us to LOVE these movies.

So why, then, is it also human nature for us to do the EXACT
OPPOSITE when is comes to our dating lives?  Why do we so often
DOUBT in the face of BELIEF when it comes to approaching the
opposite sex? 

I mean, realistically speaking, the symptoms of this disorder
often extend even into first dates, second dates and possibly
even into 50 year marriages.

Here's a case in point.

This week I was engaged in a discussion about online dating
involving the finer points of sending emails to women. 

While common wisdom suggests that a first email that goes unreturned
signals disinterest, I happen to believe that the very most popular
women online are often so inundated with messages that they
will respond ONLY to second attempts at contact. 

Such women are wise to "cut/paste" first emails from lazy,
unimaginative men and therefore want to know who is REALLY
interested enough to make a real effort. 

While "always" is a precarious term to use when dealing with real
people, my personal "field testing" has shown that women will
respond to a well-placed and effectively written second email
well over 50% of the time.

My friend vehemently disagreed and said he refuses to send second
emails to women.  After all, he's got "proof" it doesn't work. 

He proceeded to pull up an email from one woman who responded to a
second email with, "Don't you get it?  'No answer' means 'NO
INTEREST'!" 

ONE EMAIL from ONE WOMAN had such a profound impact on my friend
that it shaped his ENTIRE OPINION on the matter.  Are you kidding
me? 

Never mind the fact that I could pull up probably fifty or so
positive responses to second emails from my own personal online
dating "files". 

And never mind also that yes...I too had a few emails sent back
to me that read similarly to his.  The overwhelmingly positive
ratio based on greater number of instances flat-out did not
matter to my friend.

What this all comes down to is that we as humans "tree hug" our
limiting beliefs at times to a point where all reason goes out the
window.  

Simply put, when certain among us feel like believing something
to be true we only require a SINGLE SHRED OF EVIDENCE in order
to pronounce it so.   Consider the following example of "Y"
approaching "X":



Y:  "Hello, my name is Mike, what's yours?"


X:  "Uh...my name is UNAVAILABLE, dork.  Now get outta my face. 
No woman could possibly want a total loser like you!"



X then proceeds to shy away from approaching another woman all
night (or all year...or all decade). 

Why?  After this brutal deal, his self-esteem is "shattered" and
he himself internalizes and believes what he has just been told...
by ONE person.  

Conversely, however, had the woman responded in a powerfully
positive way, Mike may theoretically have been left thinking,
"I'm INVINCIBLE...all women LOVE me!"

Either way, logical fallacy is at play here.  There is almost never
any valid way to pronounce absolute truth upon a variable situation
based on a single event.



"ABC airlines crashed last year.  Therefore I'm never flying ABC
airlines because they always crash!"


"My very first date after the divorce was a disaster.  I'm through
with dating."


"My last girlfriend proved to by psychotic.  All women are crazy!"


"The last guy I went out with couldn't keep his paws off of me.
All men are dogs!"



While it's perfectly natural for a bad experience here and there to
"harsh our buzz", the most poignant aspect of this issue surrounds
the fact that some people can even be repeatedly presented with a
steady stream of evidence to the CONTRARY of the negative beliefs
they happen to hold...and STILL not snap out of it. 

For example, I can't tell you how many beautiful women I went out
with who viewed themselves as "ugly" and/or "worthless". 

Why?  Well, of course, that's the last thing their ex-husbands told
them before leaving.

Meanwhile, such women were typically busy at the same time turning
heads so fast that men were getting whiplash. 

Perhaps this topic has hit home for many of you.  What are your own
limiting beliefs that are restricting you from a wildly successful
dating life? 

More importantly, how did those limiting beliefs get there?  If you
take an honest look at the problem you are likely to find that the
opinion of a very small minority has shaped your thoughts. 

If so, why is it you are more comfortable with limitation than with
empowerment?  Begin to see yourself as others truly see you and lose
the "logical fallacies". 

This is absolutely prerequisite to deserving what you want. 


 



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