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IN THIS EDITION:  Will you be her lover, or "just a friend".  The
clock is ticking...

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3 REASONS WOMEN TEST YOU


Did you know that if you're like most guys, you're probably
triggering something in women that makes them feel compelled
to TEST you?

This happens ALL THE TIME in conversation.

There are at least 3 reasons women test you like this:



Pass Women's Tests



You've got to know how to spot these tests...and never fail them
ever again.

Go check it out here:



Pass Women's Tests



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WILL YOU BE HER LOVER, OR "JUST A FRIEND"?


Not a lot of Americans are all that interested in the game of
cricket.  But over the course of my travels to places where it's
wildly popular like South Asia, the UK and "Down Under" I've become
quite a fan.

Essentially, it's somewhat similar to baseball.  In fact, matches
for the abridged version (called "Twenty20") typically run about
as long as a baseball game.  

But one MAJOR difference is that each side gets its respective
chance at creating offense all at once, as opposed to having nine
separate innings.

This, of course, means that whichever team goes second knows
exactly how many points they have to score in order to win.

As such, a phenomenon known as "scoreboard pressure" often becomes
a factor in the match.  If the team who bats last isn't keeping
pace with the score they need to achieve, they start feeling the
pinch as the game goes on.

Really, when you think about it, it's not all that different from
the psychological dynamic when a team is behind in the late stages
of a football, soccer, basketball or even baseball game.

But I'm just intrigued by the fact that cricket has actually
bestowed a name like "scoreboard pressure" on the whole phenomenon.

That's probably because in a weird way I think it can also apply to
our relationships with women.

Take the "Just Be Friends Zone" for example.

Now certainly, there are times when a woman meets a guy and decides
very quickly that she's just not so into him.  He's a "nice guy",
however, so she slots him as "just a friend" in a matter of
minutes.
 
Hey...it's not like he was rude or disrespectful or anything, so she
doesn't want to flatly "reject" him or be mean to him in some other
way.

But other times something different happens.

She may meet a guy and decide to go out on a date with him because
he "checks the boxes" of what she SAYS she's looking for in a guy,
at least logistically.

But after the first date, she's somehow still not "feeling it" for
him.  She can't place her finger on why, exactly.  And she might
even be frustrated with herself about it because she really WANTS
to find this guy attractive.

So what does she do?  She talks about it with her friends and
decides to give him another chance--hoping everything will sort of
"kick into gear" on the second date.

That's when the "scoreboard pressure" starts.

And guess what?  It's HER who feels it, not the guy.

I mean, geez...the dude could be slopping through these first couple
of dates thinking everything is going perfectly well.

But SHE is the one who's genuinely hoping and praying that some
"spark" will ignite...and soon.

You see, she WANTS him to make that happen.  She's not going out
with him because she wants to have someone else in her life who's
"just a friend".  She legitimately wants a man who turns her on
sexually at a deep, primal level.

But she also won't endure the frustration she's feeling forever.
If she isn't getting horny for him by the end of the second date,
there MAY be one last chance to make it happen on a third date.

But probably not.  The time clock will have expired and she'll
instinctively feel compelled to move on.

Game over.  Score it as a loss for the home team.

What a bummer for everyone involved, right?  All too often we as
dudes are blindsided by the "JBF Talk" we get two or three dates in.

But other times we even see it coming--yet we do nothing about it.

Guys, the good news is that YOU have the power to relieve her
"Scoreboard Pressure", if not keep it from ever being a factor to
begin with.

You do that by being masculine as women define it. 

Have a PLAN when you meet with her.  Show some initiative and
ambition in your life.

Be courageous when necessary and remain calm, cool and collected at
all times.

Have her best interests at heart and think in terms of what's going
to make her feel safe and comfortable in your presence.

And for Pete's Sake (whoever he is) don't for a second think that
you should feel SHAME for being a man.  Be proud of it.  Talk like
a man, act like a man, and acknowledge that SHE'S female fearlessly.

If you can do that there won't be any more "scoreboard pressure".
Only sweet victory...for both of you. 


 

 

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