[X&Y] The Difference Between Pickup And Seduction

Published: Fri, 07/10/15



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IN THIS EDITION:   What is the difference between "pickup" and
"seduction"?  And more importantly, is that really all there is to
getting better with women?

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THE RIGHT WORDS AT THE RIGHT TIME TO TURN ANY WOMAN ON


A couple of years ago we went to California on our annual "Griswold
Summer Road Trip".

While there, I took The McKay Tribe to hang out in Huntington
Beach for the day.

Now, in case you've never been there before, H.B. is pretty much
as close to the quintessential California beach experience as you
can get.

So true to form, the beach was literally COVERED in hotties in
bikinis.  Whatever your taste in women, you really only had to
stumble about ten meters to find her.

But here's the part that's going to fry your circuits.  Over the
course of several hours, I saw exactly TWO guys go up and actually
talk to ANY of these women.

No kidding.  

And here's the thing.  One was Emily's then 17-year-old son, who
did a great job.  Within twenty minutes of getting there he was
playing beach volleyball with not one but TWO cuties.  

But check it out.  The OTHER guy I saw actually approach women?
That would be my son, Scot Jr....who was 5 years old at the time.

No kidding.  As soon as I took my eye off of him for a moment
he had already thrown his Frisbee at two very cute Southeast Asian
girls in matching pink bikinis.

Before I could even process the simple fact that he had done it
on purpose, he was already over there chatting up the cuter one
of the two.  

"Hey, give me my Frisbee back!", he laughed.  The girl just
giggled and told him how cute he was.  (Geez, dude...that was
pretty much on point for a "harmless" little kid.  Nice.)

Meanwhile, not ONE other guy said a SINGLE WORD to ANY of the
literally dozens of smokin' hot women all over the place...all
of whom were in bikinis and pretty much bored out of their minds.

More than ever before, I thought to myself, "Man...this is NO
JOKE.  The vast majority of guys in this world absolutely,
positively have no idea WHAT TO SAY to women.  Otherwise, they'd
be meeting these chicks right and left."

It's just that, hey, things get a bit more COMPLICATED when we
get older.  

Let's face it, Junior hasn't had time to process the "high stakes"
of meeting women yet, now has he?

You would think that's contributing to his bravado at his age.

Or IS IT?  

What if ALL OF US relaxed and realized that with the RIGHT WORDS
women would WANT US, even if we're well beyond our "harmless"
years?

So after adding it all up, I'm going to break down and show you
this:



http://www.scotrecommends.com/words



I'll be forthright with you.  What you're about to see is a LOT
"edgier" than I'm generally comfortable with.  I wasn't going to
tell you about it, even though it's pretty much the hottest
thing going right now.

But after what I saw yesterday, I'm more convinced than EVER
that every man could really use the RIGHT WORDS to say to a
woman.

And by the "right words", I don't mean just the ones to
introduce himself and kick off a conversation.

I mean the ones that create INSTANT, IRREFUTABLE and UNDENIABLE
sexual attraction...immediately.

Take a look at this:



http://www.scotrecommends.com/words



Believe me, you'll thank me for this next time you go to the beach
(or anywhere else there are sexy women who NOBODY ELSE has the guts
to approach, for that matter).



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THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PICKUP AND SEDUCTION


Have you been trapped under something extremely heavy for the past
eight or ten years?  

If not, then good.  You've already figured out that the vast
majority world's resources for men who want to get better with women
focus on PICKUP and/or SEDUCTION.

There's "The Seduction Community", of course.  But lately I've also
seen "Pickup Community" coined in several places.  What gives?

It's looks an awful lot like the terms are treated as virtually
synonymous.  Is that the case?  And must EVERYTHING that equals
"dating advice" for men necessarily be classified as one or the
other?

I say, "Not a chance", and, um..."Not a chance".   

For starters, both "pickup" and "seduction" are universally
referenced when talking about the early stages of relationship
management.  But it's there where the terms diverge.

In my mind, "pickup" in particular focuses purely on approaching
and meeting MOTOS (members of the other sex), and perhaps building
rapport, etc.   

In no uncertain terms (at least ostensibly), we're talking about
what is commonly referred to as "Day One" stuff here.  

At some point, "pickup" makes a soft handoff to "seduction", which
inherently refers to inspiring women towards deeper sexual attraction
towards the seducer.  

Whether you choose to buy into the Dictionary.com definition
referencing "enticing someone astray from right behavior" or the
other one reading "an act of winning the love or sexual favor of
someone" is your business.  

But either way, we're no doubt past "pickup" at this point.  

With the semantic differences between "pickup" and "seduction" down
on paper, the logical follow-up question is, "Does this mean
there's a difference between a "pickup artist" and a "seducer"?

Oh HECK YEAH there is.

Having given this some considerable thought, it's apparent to me
that a "pickup artist" focuses on the GAME.  

"Pickup" typically involves "openers", "routines", and other terms
and acronyms that would make IT engineers jealous--perhaps not
coincidentally, I might add.  

The game of "pickup" itself is about acquiring as many "number
closes", "kiss closes" and "lays" as one can, and in the shortest
amount of time possible.  

As the saying goes, "He who dies with the most toys wins."  

Recently I saw a post on a well-traveled message board proposing
that all of the top "PUAs" should have to fill out some sort of
spreadsheet detailing their numbers of "lays", with age groups and
other details.  Then we could objectively decide who "wins".

A "seducer", on the other hand, is focused on the WOMEN themselves.

Remember the dog that chased cars and finally caught one?  Well,
there's your analogy.  Once you "pick up" a woman, you've got to
know WHAT TO DO NEXT.  

That's no longer "pickup", gentlemen.  It's the "seducer" who can
drive a woman wild with attraction and...yes...sexual anticipation.   

I therefore consider the art of seduction to be a more evolved one
than the art of pickup.  Although both are very necessary skills,
if a guy learns some "pickup game" and stops there he's in for some
serious frustration.  

After all, great women generally do not like being "picked up".  

But they LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being "seduced".   

Yeah well, women are human beings just like you, not "targets".

As I've said before recently, they love to buy what they are
shopping for, but HATE to be "sold".  

The truth about REAL, SUSTAINED success with women necessitates
drilling down to an even deeper level.  

Once you've SEDUCED a woman, you must continue to keep her
attracted.  

Are you one of those guys who feels like he's continuously shoveling
coal into the burner trying to backfill all of those "relationships"
that flame out after two or three dates?  

If so, what I've shared with you thus far could be why:  your vision
isn't deep enough.

Don't beat yourself up over this, though.  

After all, as we've already said most of the info out there for us
guys about "how to succeed with the babes" is telling us to dive
into a shallow "kiddie pool" head first.

All of this is precisely why we talk about getting TOTAL CONTROL
over one's dating life around here.  

This means enrapturing women and keeping them enthralled with the
kind of masculine, confident, character-driven greatness that smacks
of utter authenticity and therefore pure staying power.  

This means deserving what you want".  You've got to give women
something REAL.

But the reward is almost absolute control over when and if second dates
take place...and how long you choose to have someone in your life.  

Is this worth it to you?

Actually, you really CAN find the right answers quickly and easily
(like what I told you about in the first part of this newsletter
above), but you WILL have to "think outside the box" to discover
them.  

Can you be the man who manages relationships according to his own
decision-making abilities--but always with the positive concern for
women that causes them to love you for your efforts?  

This is way beyond "day one" and "day two" stuff.  This means
throwing away the calendar and enjoying the freedom of life without
deadlines.    


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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