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IN THIS EDITION:  The craziest thing about this "rookie
mistake" I made back in the day is that you might actually
look forward to making it yourself sometime soon.  Weird...

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YOU'RE NOT LAZY


Yesterday we woke up to a surrealistically perfect
morning in Estes Park, Colorado.  If you've never been
there, it's got to be one of the most beautiful places
in the continental United States.

It's also like 2500 meters above sea level.  

So given that we were like five miles from Rocky Mountain
National Park, we geared up and spent the day up in the
truly "high country".

Now, given a recently passed law here in Colorado, the
whole state is now "high country".  But that's not what
I'm talking about.

In our case, most of our day was spent at between 3500
and 4000 meters.

That, of course, is eleven or twelve thousand feet for
those of you here in the States.

It was truly a life experience to be there.  But let me tell
you, it's 100% true that altitude makes you LAZY.

You just don't feel like doing ANYTHING when oxygen is a
relatively rare commodity.  Everyone around you is yawning
and all you can think about is a nap, especially if you
stand still for a more than a minute or so.

So it's no wonder that once we got back to camp our big
plans for barbecuing and making "smores" collapsed into
a sleepfest within mere minutes.

Now check it out.  Some guys make the assumption that if
they're not getting as much done as they'd like--and are
flat-out unmotivated to change that--then it MUST be because
of laziness.

BUT...unless you've been trying to complete two-mile-high
projects (which is unlikely), then I've got a major surprise
for you:  It's probably NOT because of laziness at all.

This comes as a true revelation to most, but you can see what
I mean here:



Stop Procrastinating, Start Being Productive



It has been said that "you learn in your 20s and EARN in your
thirties".

Right now you have the opportunity to be on schedule with that
mindset, play catch-up if you need to or even be AHEAD of the
game if you're young enough.

But no matter what, you're going to have to GET THINGS DONE
in order to make it happen.  Being motivated and ACTING on it
is truly the first step to success.

If you haven't been as productive so far in this life as you
know you should be, then this will be your game changer:



Productivity = Success



Everyone I know who's ever experienced what's behind that
link above has been SUPER glad they did.



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THE WEIRDEST "ROOKIE MISTAKE" I MADE PERSONALLY


Several years ago I was a guest on a podcast hosted by a guy who
specializes in helping "newbies" learn pickup.

As the conversation turned to online dating I was asked to share
about my own experiences and perhaps give some recommendations to
guys who were listening.

I brought up that when the "light bulb" goes on and a guy gets good
at writing women and screening them he can find himself going on
quite a few "first meetings", expecting most if not ALL of them
to go reasonably well.

As a direct result, he can find himself telling a whole lot of
women that he'd indeed be interested in seeing them again.

Before he knows it, there might be 15 or 16 women out there who are
expecting to go out again sometime, and this can actually happen
within the brief span of a couple of weeks.

Not giving much thought at the time to the true weight of my words,
I casually mentioned that I'd personally experienced that exact
scenario.

Now, once the podcast aired the comments on the guy's blog started
to pile up, most of them saying that I must be a complete liar and
that there's NO WAY I could have been "dating 16 women at once".

To most of the guys who were listening the thought of having a
high quality problem like that was unfathomable.

But wait a second...I just uttered the magic words "high quality
problem", right?

The very next notion that I had made perfectly clear in the podcast
was that my FAILURE to manage the number of women who expected to
see me again after my respective "first meetings" with them had
been a rookie mistake.

But the audience wasn't hearing that part for some reason.

Nevertheless, make no mistake about it:  I had messed up by letting
it get to that point.

In other words, though a guy who's focused on learning pickup may
think that collecting women is some sort of holy grail of
success, it's actually NOT any measure of true success at all, if
you're all about bringing high quality women in your life.

As crazy and unintuitive as it sounds, guys who are genuinely
skilled with women know better than to string along too many women
at once.

What's up with that?

Simply put, if you or I or any other guy has a dozen or more women
who are waiting to go out with him, we'd have to go on at least one
date every day for twelve consecutive days in order to get around
to actually seeing them all.

That's with no breaks.
 
What's more, don't kid yourself: if you're even remotely
interested in dating any high quality woman at all, you'd better
see her more often than once every twelve freaking days if you want
to keep doing so.

That's just the logistical law of the jungle.  Otherwise, she's
going to get the message FAST that you aren't all that interested,
regardless of what your reality is.

Then, on top of all else, there's this.  When you've got that
many women hanging around in your inbox, you're going to soon
realize that you've got favorites.

That's right.  Out of the double-digit number of women you've
agreed to see again, you're going to actually prefer a subset of
them over the rest.
 
When push comes to shove, you'd rather call one of those women than
the others.  And you will.

On top of that, if you've got about four or five women in your
"preferred" group, you'll probably find that one of them is always
available for you to hang out with.

By now you can see where I'm going with this.  

No man of REAL character who has REAL skill with women is literally
"dating" sixteen women.

That's not because he can't arrange to have 16 women in his life,
but rather because it's a logistical impossibility to see them
all.

Well, at least unless he'd like to have his life completely dominated
by forced dates with women he'd rather not even be with.

And I haven't even mentioned the baseline fact that leaving all
among the "second tier" of non-preferred women hanging is not
exactly an ethical thing to do, either.

So then, what in the world would cause a guy to get excited about a
newfound ability to "collect" women, at least for a short while?

It's simple.  It's because he suddenly realized that he CAN.

Whenever any of us has gone a long time without really attracting
women, once we start actually seeing positive results of our
efforts it's a perfectly reasonable matter of human nature to feel
like a kid in a candy store.

We'll feel like we want to play "catch up" and date ALL the women
we can as soon as possible.

We'll want a blonde one, a brunette one and a redhead.  

We'll want to hang out with a former gymnast with a spunky
personality one day and a tall, leggy sophisticated woman the next.

If the "sickness" gets particularly intense, we may actually still
obsess over the one or two women who we can't seem to get to go out
with us even in the face of having lots of other women we kind of
like waiting by the phone for us to call.

I'm telling you, it can get ridiculous.

But once we inevitably burn out from that kind of schedule and/or
get enough angry voicemails from women we've made empty promises
to, we'll be done trifling with the complicated and counter-
productive existence commonly associated with our "collecting" phase.

Mark my words.

Both our curiosity and our ego will be satisfied, and then we can
finally get on with the business of dating as many women who we
really like as we can reasonably handle, all the while raising the
bar as necessary and appropriate.

For most guys I've ever met who were good with women, that number
is somewhere between three and six.  For me it was five.

And that's a FAR, FAR better way to go.

Yes...you can absolutely, positively date multiple women while you
evaluate what it is you really want from a long-term relationship.
 
But as always wisdom, maturity and character drive a "big four"
man's thoughts and actions.

Handle your dating life the right way and you'll actually see
quality prevail over quantity before your very eyes.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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