[X&Y] You Don't Have To Choose OR Chase. You Can Do THIS Instead...

Published: Sat, 12/19/15



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IN THIS EDITION:   When it comes to relating to women, you can be a
chooser or a chaser.  But there's actually a third option.
 
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I'M STILL GETTING AMAZING REPORTS OF HOW WELL
THIS WORKS


I told you about this a while ago, and a TON of you guys were
all over it...in no small part because everything else this guy
has ever done has been really super effective:


 
Proven Results



Apparently, this program from him is no exception.  In fact, it's
become his most popular one ever.

I keep hearing from guys about how it works shockingly well
on women, so I wanted to make sure that if you didn't check
it out before you got another chance to:


 
Proven Results



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YOU DON'T HAVE TO CHOOSE OR CHASE.  YOU CAN SIMPLY
ENJOY INSTEAD.


I've written to you quite a bit about choosing vs. chasing. 

The key premise there being, of course, that if you want to have
complete control over your dating life you've got to see yourself
as a man who has OPTIONS among women. 

Otherwise, you'll find yourself chasing one woman at a time...
especially if you think she's your only chance at getting a
girlfriend.

Basically, if you feel that SHE'S the one who'd be settling for
YOU were she to actually go out with you, you're CHASING.

Yeah, yeah.  You know all of that already.

So the reason for this particular newsletter, then, is to introduce
you to a very viable THIRD option when it comes to how you might
relate to women.

I call it "enjoying women"...mostly because that's the best description
of what's actually going on.

That's right...you don't necessarily have to choose OR chase any
particular woman.  You can simply ENJOY her.

Now, you might be wondering to yourself why you wouldn't be
enjoying a woman even as you choose or chase her.

Well, as per the true, dictionary definition of the word "enjoy",
you certainly might.  In fact you SHOULD.

But what we're talking about here is enjoyment of women apart from
ANY indication of choosing or chasing.

In other words, you can be a chooser, a chaser OR an enjoyer.

Here's how it works.

Typically, whenever we see a hottie we immediately decide whether
we're potentially interested or not.  If the decision is an
affirmative one, our thoughts turn to asking her out. 

We've conditioned ourselves in today's modern culture to make a
move.  Never mind for now how effective we are at actually getting
around to it; the point is that's what's naturally on our mind.

When you make that bold move, you'll either be in choosing mode
or chasing mode...probably from the very start, and depending on
what your mindset is.

But wait...what if you sort of deferred judgment for a bit?

Or, even if you DO know you're attracted, what if you deferred
ACTING on it for a bit?

In most pickup circles hesitation is considered a crucial error in
ANY situation where you encounter a beautiful woman.

But hang with me here for a moment.  What I'm about to show you is
magical, under the proper circumstances.

When you decide to be an enjoyer, you're indeed deferring
immediate action.  In fact, that's the MAJOR differentiator between
enjoying and choosing or chasing.

But you're holding off on making your bold move for a very
specific reason:  To avoid moving directly into the courtship
process.

A-ha...see where I'm going with this?

No?

OK then, let me elaborate a bit.

First off, it's probably best to tell you up front that enjoying
is a strategy that's indeed best used when interacting with women
who are already in your social circle rather than women you, say,
see at the airport and who you may never see again.

If you find a woman you know attractive, enjoying her effectively
lets you savor her presence for the time being, see what she's like
and flirt a bit with her to see how she reciprocates.

In other words, it gives you a chance to sit back and evaluate her
at a deeper level for as long as you like, all without the pressure
of an actual "date".  Instead, you relax and let everything sort
itself out over the course of simple social interaction.

See the magic there?  First dates are stereotypically where all of
that happens.  You literally beat the system by exercising a bit of
patience relative to asking her out so soon after realizing you're
interested in her. 

That might sound good, but it gets better.

Normally, were you to decide to date a woman from the group of
people you normally associate with you'd be socially tied to her.

In other words, it wouldn't go over so well if you were to start
actually dating other women in that social circle at the same time,
right?

But you CAN "enjoy" as many women in your social circle you want,
and simultaneously.  This can only mean that any decision you DO
make to eventually choose one will be an informed one.  Nice.

There's even more, though. 

I've saved the best for last.  Here's the true genius of it all.

I'm convinced that women instinctively know when you're an
enjoyer, and they follow your lead accordingly (as women almost
always do).

So if you were to choose one woman, the others would back off if
they're high quality women.  They'd recognize that you've initiated
the courtship process with a mutual friend, who they wouldn't want
to create drama with.

But when women SENSE you're in enjoying mode, they recognize that
YOU also are to be enjoyed, and that's what they tune themselves
into, as if automatically.

With that established, the whole actual process of taking
inventory of all of those women by flirting with them, seeing
what they're like, etc. can be structured any way you wish. 

In fact, don't be surprised if and when any and all women in your
social circle who aren't exactly interested in anything serious
right now with anyone start hinting at opportunities to get
frisky.

The degree to which you can exercise discretion (i.e. keep your
mouth shut) will be the degree to which women will hint at this.

If you've ever noticed how there always seems to be ONE guy in your
group of friends who somehow gets the attention of ALL the women
without actually dating ANY of them, now you know his secret.

Unfortunately, unlike him most guys will NEVER get this whole
idea of being an enjoyer.

But as of right now you're in the know.  And having seen how the
whole enjoyment concept works, doesn't that lift a lot of weight
off your shoulders in a way?

It should.  That's because all of the sudden you don't have to
actively pull the trigger so soon on each opportunity with women
that comes your way, especially if we're talking about your
established, recurring social circle.
 
Here are two quick notes before closing.

First, remember a while back when I shared the old story about two
bulls on a hill with you?   Looking at all the cows in the valley
below, the younger one excitedly talks about "running down there
and getting one!"  But the older bull calmly suggests that they
"walk down there and get 'em all".

I've just shown you the pragmatic, objective way to "walk down
there and get 'em all".

Second, recognize that online dating may be the ULTIMATE venue for
enjoying women. 

Think about it.  Every woman's profile is a social circle unto
itself. 

You can evaluate and enjoy women you start interacting with online
as much as you'd like--and STILL go out on "dates" with them all
the while.
 
 
 
 

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