[X&Y] Revealed: The Infamous "Whitelist" And "Blacklist"
Published: Tue, 05/10/16
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Do you REALLY know what you want in a woman?
Here's how to make sure...
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THE INFAMOUS "WHITELIST" AND "BLACKLIST"
What I'm about to describe is a mission-critical step that every
man must take before seriously upgrading his dating life.
It's not complicated, let alone metaphysical or "out there". In
fact, it's about as pragmatic as a first grade homework assignment.
But yet, like so many important things in life, what often seems
obvious AFTER discovery may have been ignored or unnoticed for
years and years...perhaps even decades or an ENTIRE LIFETIME.
And such is the secret I'm going to share with you right now.
You already know that I talk a lot about deserving what you want.
A big part of doing this involves taking the measures necessary to
be the kind of man the woman of your dreams is dreaming of.
And that, in and of itself, is a step most of us fail to take in
this culture of immediate gratification and quick fixes.
But based on my interactions with both men and women, there's an
even more shocking aspect to how people go about relationships.
By and large (whatever that means), the vast majority of us HAVE NO
IDEA what we really want in a woman.
We may feel as if "we'll know it when we see it" or something like
that, but beyond ticking the obvious checkboxes (i.e. "um...really
hot and kind of fun to be with, I guess.") we don't ever
objectively identify the exact details of who the woman of our
dreams REALLY is.
Maybe it's because there's a stigma around being "too picky".
Maybe it's because we've been brainwashed to believe that either 1)
nobody really ever gets who they want, or worse... 2) ...that we're
shallow for having high standards in every way.
Well, let me support you 40,000% in being "too picky". And if
someone ever tells you you're "shallow" for wanting it all, send
him or her to me. I've got your back.
So with that formality out of the way, what do you do to make sure
you're on the right track here?
Simple. You make an Excel spreadsheet.
In it, you list the TOP TEN traits you deem important in a woman.
I don't care what they are. You are the sole judge of what's on
the list.
Make a column for each trait.
Then, in each of several rows below type in the name of a woman you
are currently dating or want to date. You can even list women
you've known or dated in the past for reference.
Once you have the names written down, rank each woman from 1-10
under each respective trait in accordance with how you feel she
measures up to the ultimate standard you have in mind.
Then, add up the numbers at the end of the column. Out of 100
possible points, each woman will have a grade.
Now I know what you're saying. This sure seems like a stone cold
way to evaluate women.
Well it may look that way at first glance, but the truth is that
most of us as guys tend to evaluate women very subjectively.
Going purely by a "seat of the pants" impression of how much we
like a particular woman can get a bit confusing--or even
MISLEADING--when we know several women, can't it?
This is especially true when ALL of those women are FANTASTIC, and
ALL of whom are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT as individuals.
The "Whitelist" I just described to you is a way of GROUNDING your
mindset, so you can effectively temper your subjective, emotional
response to women with factors you've decided were important AHEAD
OF TIME.
Notice I said, "ahead of time". No fair making your Whitelist
AFTER you start dating someone.
Even though I did suggest running the numbers for previous
girlfriends as a reference exercise, trust me when I tell you
you're VERY LIKELY to weigh your Whitelist in favor of women you
WANT to score well if you already know them and like them.
So for that specific reason it's best to have a clean slate.
And now, here's what's arguably even more important than the
Whitelist: you've got to make a "Blacklist" as well.
This list has no limit with regard to the number of entries that
can be on it. And it doesn't require any scaling from 1-10.
Rather, it's completely binary..."Yes" or "No".
And on that list are all the absolute DEALBREAKERS that should
unequivocally disqualify ANY woman you are seeing.
Again...I don't care what's actually ON the list. That's up to you.
A big part of doing this involves taking the measures necessary to
be the kind of man the woman of your dreams is dreaming of.
And that, in and of itself, is a step most of us fail to take in
this culture of immediate gratification and quick fixes.
But based on my interactions with both men and women, there's an
even more shocking aspect to how people go about relationships.
By and large (whatever that means), the vast majority of us HAVE NO
IDEA what we really want in a woman.
We may feel as if "we'll know it when we see it" or something like
that, but beyond ticking the obvious checkboxes (i.e. "um...really
hot and kind of fun to be with, I guess.") we don't ever
objectively identify the exact details of who the woman of our
dreams REALLY is.
Maybe it's because there's a stigma around being "too picky".
Maybe it's because we've been brainwashed to believe that either 1)
nobody really ever gets who they want, or worse... 2) ...that we're
shallow for having high standards in every way.
Well, let me support you 40,000% in being "too picky". And if
someone ever tells you you're "shallow" for wanting it all, send
him or her to me. I've got your back.
So with that formality out of the way, what do you do to make sure
you're on the right track here?
Simple. You make an Excel spreadsheet.
In it, you list the TOP TEN traits you deem important in a woman.
I don't care what they are. You are the sole judge of what's on
the list.
Make a column for each trait.
Then, in each of several rows below type in the name of a woman you
are currently dating or want to date. You can even list women
you've known or dated in the past for reference.
Once you have the names written down, rank each woman from 1-10
under each respective trait in accordance with how you feel she
measures up to the ultimate standard you have in mind.
Then, add up the numbers at the end of the column. Out of 100
possible points, each woman will have a grade.
Now I know what you're saying. This sure seems like a stone cold
way to evaluate women.
Well it may look that way at first glance, but the truth is that
most of us as guys tend to evaluate women very subjectively.
Going purely by a "seat of the pants" impression of how much we
like a particular woman can get a bit confusing--or even
MISLEADING--when we know several women, can't it?
This is especially true when ALL of those women are FANTASTIC, and
ALL of whom are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT as individuals.
The "Whitelist" I just described to you is a way of GROUNDING your
mindset, so you can effectively temper your subjective, emotional
response to women with factors you've decided were important AHEAD
OF TIME.
Notice I said, "ahead of time". No fair making your Whitelist
AFTER you start dating someone.
Even though I did suggest running the numbers for previous
girlfriends as a reference exercise, trust me when I tell you
you're VERY LIKELY to weigh your Whitelist in favor of women you
WANT to score well if you already know them and like them.
So for that specific reason it's best to have a clean slate.
And now, here's what's arguably even more important than the
Whitelist: you've got to make a "Blacklist" as well.
This list has no limit with regard to the number of entries that
can be on it. And it doesn't require any scaling from 1-10.
Rather, it's completely binary..."Yes" or "No".
And on that list are all the absolute DEALBREAKERS that should
unequivocally disqualify ANY woman you are seeing.
Again...I don't care what's actually ON the list. That's up to you.
But whatever you write down on the Blacklist, you've got to promise
yourself RIGHT NOW that if you ever see any of it show up in a
particular woman you are dating, it's breakup time.
No ifs, ands or buts. No passing "go" or collecting $200.
If you build the Blacklist and live by it as closely as you do the
Whitelist, your chances of having to deal with excessive,
mind-numbing and potentially life-altering drama will go WAY, WAY
down.
In fact, most guys who overlook what I'm sharing with you today are
almost sure to end up with the wrong woman...and as a direct result
likely to end up in divorce court.
If you think I'm kidding, simply look at the public statistics.
So like the Whitelist, it's crucial that you create the Blacklist
BEFORE you start dating. That is, BEFORE you start dating someone
who is so hot she causes you to excuse what may have been a clear
"dealbreaker"...if only you had written it down before meeting her.
The Blacklist "clears your head" about what you DON'T want, much as
the Whitelist gives you clarity about what you DO want.
Think of both lists as two halves of a pact you make with yourself
at the very beginning of your journey to becoming amazing with
women.
When it's in writing on paper...perhaps even endorsed with your
own signature, you'll always have an immediate an undeniable
touchstone to your reality as perceived long before ever being
"clouded by beauty vision".
yourself RIGHT NOW that if you ever see any of it show up in a
particular woman you are dating, it's breakup time.
No ifs, ands or buts. No passing "go" or collecting $200.
If you build the Blacklist and live by it as closely as you do the
Whitelist, your chances of having to deal with excessive,
mind-numbing and potentially life-altering drama will go WAY, WAY
down.
In fact, most guys who overlook what I'm sharing with you today are
almost sure to end up with the wrong woman...and as a direct result
likely to end up in divorce court.
If you think I'm kidding, simply look at the public statistics.
So like the Whitelist, it's crucial that you create the Blacklist
BEFORE you start dating. That is, BEFORE you start dating someone
who is so hot she causes you to excuse what may have been a clear
"dealbreaker"...if only you had written it down before meeting her.
The Blacklist "clears your head" about what you DON'T want, much as
the Whitelist gives you clarity about what you DO want.
Think of both lists as two halves of a pact you make with yourself
at the very beginning of your journey to becoming amazing with
women.
When it's in writing on paper...perhaps even endorsed with your
own signature, you'll always have an immediate an undeniable
touchstone to your reality as perceived long before ever being
"clouded by beauty vision".
Can you see the importance of building a Whitelist AND a Blacklist?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. A couple of years ago a certain guy in New York state made
the big mistake of sharing his Whitelist with a former girlfriend.
As a result, it went viral on the Internet.
Be sure to file that lesson away in your back pocket. Absolutely,
positively keep your documentation to yourself...for sure.
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