[X&Y] You Did Everything Right...But She's "Not Feeling It"? Try This Instead...
Published: Mon, 10/03/16
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
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GUYS WHO KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING WITH WOMEN DO THIS
When you think about approaching attractive women, starting conversations
with them and getting dates with them...
...how do you feel?
Do you feel confident and in-control, like you know EXACTLY how to do
everything right to make it happen?
Or...
Do your palms start sweating just THINKING about all of this...as if your
chances of dating success are pretty much zero, so why even try?
If you fall into the second group, that's got to stop. And this video is
where everything starts turning around for the better:
The Legendary Advanced Dating Techinques
99% of all regular guys are frustrated when it comes to women.
But both David DeAngelo and I here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be
this way.
As you may know, David D. was one of my mentors in getting better with
women over a decade ago.
Now he's back, with his ultimate Advanced Dating Techniques system.
For the next couple of days, he's offering this legendary, dead-on accurate
system for half price:
The Best Deal Ever On David DeAngelo's Ultimate Program
If you’re NOT getting the results you want with women by now, then a
couple of not-so-great things are probably going on with you.
1) The idea of meeting women and getting dates feels like an impossible
dream...and your lack of success is beginning to affect other parts of
your life as well.
2) You have no idea where or how to change things. So, you just keep
doing more of the same: failing with women...or worse, not even trying
anymore.
Succeeding with women is not “magic".
And, despite how you may feel right now, learning to do it is not about
how much cash is in your wallet or what you look like in the mirror.
He learned the TRUTH about dating success directly from “The Masters”...
average guys who cracked the secret code and started experiencing
dating success like you and I never thought possible.
David then gathered these experts in one place and recorded an in-depth,
18-hour “live” video program with them, with just one goal in mind...
...sharing these priceless secrets directly with you:
Guys Who Know This Are Better With Women. Period.
You're going to be seeing this everywhere this week, as it's the biggest
thing going right now. So use the link above and I'll give you three
killer bonuses to go along with it:
1) My 2007 "Interview With Dating Gurus" session with David D. that
helped put me on the map as far as dating experts go. AND...for the
first time ever, I've been authorized to give you my in-house edit. It's
smoother cleaner, and crisper than the original (and I bet you didn't
even know it existed!)
2) You'll get the full written notes on my "Dating Gurus" interview in
PDF format. This is RARE beyond belief these days.
3) You'll also get Rob Brinded's 2009 "Dating Gurus" interview. It's
so weird and different that I actually turned it off the first time I heard
it! But the truth is it's GENIUS, and Rob and I are now on the same
team these days, of course.
Add it all up, and you have the best chance ever to get all of David
D.'s legendary secrets to success with women...the very same ones
I used myself with great success:
Advanced Dating Techniques For 50% Off...Plus All 3 Bonuses
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ARE YOU TOO "SAFE"?
One of the "big four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get nowhere with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of security in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is very different than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she does crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she does want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of fact
that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when
you first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the opposite side of
the spectrum.
We're too "safe".
Again...to be clear, I'm not saying you should become flat-out dangerous.
I'm talking about something completely different here.
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", so we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentlemen".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed and
went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we
come home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous"
activity we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to
Chili's or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch chilling with
Netflix...again.
Taking the "safe" option is not adding value to a woman's self-
perceived boring life, is it?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that causing a woman to feel comfortable
and secure in your presence is crucial to success. But can you be
TOO "safe"?
=====
GUYS WHO KNOW WHAT THEY'RE DOING WITH WOMEN DO THIS
When you think about approaching attractive women, starting conversations
with them and getting dates with them...
...how do you feel?
Do you feel confident and in-control, like you know EXACTLY how to do
everything right to make it happen?
Or...
Do your palms start sweating just THINKING about all of this...as if your
chances of dating success are pretty much zero, so why even try?
If you fall into the second group, that's got to stop. And this video is
where everything starts turning around for the better:
The Legendary Advanced Dating Techinques
99% of all regular guys are frustrated when it comes to women.
But both David DeAngelo and I here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be
this way.
As you may know, David D. was one of my mentors in getting better with
women over a decade ago.
Now he's back, with his ultimate Advanced Dating Techniques system.
For the next couple of days, he's offering this legendary, dead-on accurate
system for half price:
The Best Deal Ever On David DeAngelo's Ultimate Program
If you’re NOT getting the results you want with women by now, then a
couple of not-so-great things are probably going on with you.
1) The idea of meeting women and getting dates feels like an impossible
dream...and your lack of success is beginning to affect other parts of
your life as well.
2) You have no idea where or how to change things. So, you just keep
doing more of the same: failing with women...or worse, not even trying
anymore.
Succeeding with women is not “magic".
And, despite how you may feel right now, learning to do it is not about
how much cash is in your wallet or what you look like in the mirror.
He learned the TRUTH about dating success directly from “The Masters”...
average guys who cracked the secret code and started experiencing
dating success like you and I never thought possible.
David then gathered these experts in one place and recorded an in-depth,
18-hour “live” video program with them, with just one goal in mind...
...sharing these priceless secrets directly with you:
Guys Who Know This Are Better With Women. Period.
You're going to be seeing this everywhere this week, as it's the biggest
thing going right now. So use the link above and I'll give you three
killer bonuses to go along with it:
1) My 2007 "Interview With Dating Gurus" session with David D. that
helped put me on the map as far as dating experts go. AND...for the
first time ever, I've been authorized to give you my in-house edit. It's
smoother cleaner, and crisper than the original (and I bet you didn't
even know it existed!)
2) You'll get the full written notes on my "Dating Gurus" interview in
PDF format. This is RARE beyond belief these days.
3) You'll also get Rob Brinded's 2009 "Dating Gurus" interview. It's
so weird and different that I actually turned it off the first time I heard
it! But the truth is it's GENIUS, and Rob and I are now on the same
team these days, of course.
Add it all up, and you have the best chance ever to get all of David
D.'s legendary secrets to success with women...the very same ones
I used myself with great success:
Advanced Dating Techniques For 50% Off...Plus All 3 Bonuses
=====
ARE YOU TOO "SAFE"?
One of the "big four" factors that really matter to high quality
women is what I refer to as "the ability to inspire confidence".
Essentially, this means that assuming you can create attraction
with a masculine, confident presence the next step is to make a
woman feel safe and secure in your presence.
When a woman who is already attracted to you begins to trust you,
then you can begin to establish an ongoing relationship on solid
ground.
When her fear goes away, then she feels free to act on her feminine
attraction to you.
Conversely, if she senses she's potentially in any kind of physical
danger when you're around, gets a negative vibe from you or is
"creeped out" in any way you'll get nowhere with her.
And that's a fact.
So yes, you've got to give a woman a sense of security in your
presence. She has to know that you represent protection and
goodwill rather than the opposite.
But there's a plot complication.
Providing security to a woman (or inspiring confidence, if you
will) is very different than being "safe".
Understanding this is an extraordinarily important component to your
overall success with women, yet I can't recall ever seeing the topic
discussed elsewhere.
Here's what I mean.
A woman doesn't want to feel as if she is physically endangered at
any time, but she does crave a man who can bring a sense of
adventure and excitement to her life. Without the latter, she's
bored to tears.
Similarly, she doesn't want to be "controlled" in a manipulative
manner, but she does want a man who is an assertive leader. And
without the latter, she'll lose respect for you.
Additionally, you can't become utterly predictable, stuck in a
rut of doing the same things over and over again. Yet, you most
certainly can't be irrationally compulsive either...that's just scary.
Yes, you've got to know how to differentiate all of this, which
isn't always so easy to do.
As guys, the vast majority of us miss the mark insofar as how
we represent ourselves to women.
For example, we may fail to recognize that women are generally
compelled to consider their personal safety when on a date with
a man, whereas we seldom are concerned with such.
It's not that we're violent "bad guys", it's simply a matter of fact
that most men can overpower most women. Women are naturally
very aware of this.
So the more we can do to take that preoccupation off the table for
them, the better. But some guys just can't connect the dots, and
blindly wonder why women keep pulling a disappearing act on them
sooner than later.
In some cases, it's simply because we didn't make her feel secure
in our presence.
For example, it's a good idea not to crowd a woman's space when
you first meet her. Avoid jokes about killing people. Don't gesture
with your hands full while cleaning loaded firearms at the dining
room table. Stuff like that.
Fair enough.
But most guys, I'd contend, are actually on the opposite side of
the spectrum.
We're too "safe".
Again...to be clear, I'm not saying you should become flat-out dangerous.
I'm talking about something completely different here.
We avoid disagreeing with her opinions. We dare not even try so
much as to hold her hand even when she's laughing, playfully
hitting us on the shoulder and staring at our lips in anticipation.
And, ironically, it's precisely because we're hypersensitive to
"scaring women" that we end up this way. We don't want to "impose
on them", so we chalk up our Failure To Deploy as "being a
gentlemen".
Meanwhile, there's a woman somewhere who wanted to be kissed and
went home feeling frustrated or even rejected.
Worse, because we rarely leave the basement ourselves once we
come home from our jobs at Cubicle City, the most "adventurous"
activity we can come up with when we're with her is the same trip to
Chili's or Applebee's followed by crashing on the couch chilling with
Netflix...again.
Taking the "safe" option is not adding value to a woman's self-
perceived boring life, is it?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2016. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.