[X&Y] How To Turn Valentine's Day Into A Clear Advantage
Published: Mon, 02/06/17
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IN THIS EDITION: Today is February 6th, and it's time to
acknowledge that Valentine's Day is upon us. Allow me to surprise
you with a take on the whole thing that you might not expect from me...
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IT'S THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR...
...to meet women online.
That's the two weeks bracketing Valentine's Day, of course.
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HOW TO TURN VALENTINE'S DAY INTO A CLEAR ADVANTAGE
You know, I might feel like an insufficient dweeb this Valentine's Day
had I not dropped a two-carat rock on Emily for Groundhog Day over
the weekend.
Not.
Okay, I'm not going to go on that rant. But chalk that brief outburst
up to my pet peeve regarding how diamonds are marketed so heavily
anytime there's a holiday around.
Here's the real point. The de rigueur stance among stylish dating
experts these days tends to be to blast Valentine's Day and
everything it stands for with every bit of raw firepower the arsenal
can support.
Me? I'm thinking I'm still on the fence about it all.
I mean, maybe Valentine's Day can be kind of "nice", but only if you are
in a steady relationship.
Well, as long as that's a happy, fulfilling relationship.
And THEN only if your significant other isn't, well, a selfish narcissist
who packs a smokin' "entitlement-ality".
And ONLY if you are in the particularly ill-advised and ineffective
habit of depending on a calendar to tell you when it's time to stoke
things up with some extra passion and romance.
But then again, THAT would only mean you're probably trying to
force-feed warm, fuzzy, romantic feelings into a specific time and
place instead of letting them happen naturally and spontaneously...
...which never ends well.
So wait a minute, that can only mean that NOBODY (except for
opportunistic women...and that's a BIG "maybe") really benefits
from Valentine's Day, huh?
Okay, so well...um...I tried to be optimistic here. But you can see
how that's nearly impossible.
Therefore, I'm in solidarity with all the other stylish dating coaches,
I suppose.
The truth is Valentine's Day confronts us with a major crater in our
schedule that demands to be filled.
Either that, or the opposite--a massive obstacle that must be
overcome.
What do I mean?
Well obviously, anyone who is dateless on (or around) Valentine's
Day is likely pouring mostly imagined social pressure on him or
(especially) herself. That's obvious.
But even people who are living wildly successful dating lives are
faced with a potentially serious plot complication around February
14th if they are dating several people at the same time.
Ever thought about that one?
It seems mandatory that vaultloads of money are to be spent.
Worse, your hierarchy of "favorites" could be exposed to the cold
scrutiny of everyone involved.
We're on record around here as being full supporters of dating more
than one person at once. Life is too short to let serial exclusivity run
its course one person at a time.
The goal is to deserve what one wants, which involves practice,
leading to a solid level of experience in evaluating what one wants in
a potential long-term relationship.
But the fact remains that since it all goes down on ONE specific
day in the calendar year, one's priorities will show through (since
we're in the Valentine's spirit) like a red thong under a white skirt.
So how can this issue be dealt with effectively?
Well, you could tell everyone involved that you're going to "just
say no" to Valentine's Day this year. Hey, it has been done before.
But I'll tell you straight-up that the women you're dating will ALL
feel de-prioritized by that pronouncement. Somehow, that you
would bypass V-day altogether is just hard to believe for most
women.
What you CAN do, however, is set expectations (especially with
people you haven't been dating for very long) that there's no
pressure to spend lots of money.
Hey, if you've got extra ca$h to drop and can pull off doing so
without coming off as a needy approval-seeker, go for it.
But for the rest of us, this simple matter of clear communication
makes much more sense. Most women will be relieved by this
notion--especially if they're dating others also. If they throw a
fit, you're dating the wrong women anyway, right?
The most important thing to any high quality woman is that you're
spending time with her--especially if you're not in an exclusive
relationship.
Just buy cards, and leave it at that. Better yet, be creative. I
know one guy who even bought one of those packs of valentines
the elementary school kids use and handed them out. Classic.
And if you suspect that isn't enough?
Well, the good news this year is that February 14th falls on a
Tuesday.
That means you can take women out Friday, Saturday, AND
Tuesday if you'd like, and all of them we'll feel good about the
scheduling.
Somehow, Sunday and Monday feel like they would generate
some questions...but you could probably get away with taking
women out those nights also.
And I didn't even mention Saturday and Sunday afternoon.
But what about the other problem?
You know, the "dateless" one.
Well, have I got a solution for you. (What, did you think I was
going to leave you hanging? Not a chance.)
The first order of business is to get outside of your own head,
stop being self-conscious about it and realize that at least 99.9%
of the rest of the human population is up in arms over Valentine's
Day also.
Guys, women everywhere are absolutely bristling with nervous
energy over whether they'll have a date on Valentine's Day or
not.
There is probably no other time of year that women are more
approachable than right now, at about a week to ten days out
from V-day.
Nowhere is this MORE evident than ONLINE.
When I was at the peak of my online dating action, I was
floored bynhow women would become MUCH more direct around
Valentine's Day.
I'd get more messages from women than usual.
Women I knew who had dropped off the map would suddenly
write or call out of nowhere.
And women I wrote to would not only respond even more often
than usual, they wanted to cut to the chase more quickly also.
It wasn't at all uncommon for women to want to bypass e-mail and
lengthy phone conversations completely.
They just wanted to maximize their chances at meeting a guy and
hopefully avoid sitting home alone on Valentine's Day.
And mind you, these women were often the particularly attractive
ones. The self-imposed pressure, ironically enough, seems to be
even higher the more desirable they are.
I'll tell you what. If that isn't a massively valuable enough secret for
you, here's another : If you think the week BEFORE V-day
is a bonanza, you haven't seen anything yet.
The week AFTER Valentine's Day is arguably the most primo
opportunity you are going to get all year long to meet the most
stunning women out there.
Why?
Well, if they didn't get a date for Valentine's Day, the weight is
immense. They feel left out...like they missed out.
Even better, there's no longer any social pressure to spend money
or go through the trappings of the holiday.
Seriously, guys. The next two weeks of your life are absolutely
mission critical if you have "online dating" written anywhere on
your radar screen.
It's time for YOU to step up and be that very guy women might miss
out on if they don't meet you between now and the 14th.
I couldn't be more serious about what I'm saying. This is no joke.
By now you know that my program Online Dating Domination 2.0 is not
for guys who want to wade around in the kiddie pool. Over 90% of all
guys FAIL at online dating--even with more unbelievable women online
nowadays than ever before.
Why do they fail?
Simple. We as men don't ever seem to ask for directions.
Meanwhile, there are very specific steps you can take to rise above
the average frustrated guy online.
So few guys ever actually get around to asking direction that when
those few guys DO learn the ropes, they end up meeting and going
out with their top choices among women on whatever dating site they
are on.
We're not talking about a "numbers game". This is called total online
dating domination.
Right now I am very aware that the clock is ticking away on this
opportunity even as we speak.
That's why I'm going to do more than just put non-stop, practical info
in your hands that you can start using right now to meet women online
this week.
I'm going to give it to you for half-price.
That's right, just use the coupon code "odd50" to get a full
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Here's the link:
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Guy seriously...the time to meet an amazing number of women
is RIGHT NOW.
That's all for now.
Be Good (or should I say "Love"),
Scot McKay
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