"When someone seeks to do something unto me, ask myself, 'Would I
  ever do likewise unto someone else?'  If the answer is NO WAY, then
  don't tolerate it being done to me either."

Problem solved.  Once the "TGR-R" is applied, one should never be
manipulated from that day forward.

But here's the thing.  Apparently, it's not exactly working out to
spec for some guys.

Even though they KNOW how to avoid manipulation at the cognitive
level, in the real world they're still being jerked around by women
all the time.

What's up with that?

Well, the answer is very simple:  What's opening a big hole in the
armor is pure, vain arrogance.

That's right.  I said it.

You see, a gifted manipulator who is charming actually searches out
arrogance in his or her victim...and preys on it.

Being the inherently dangerous person I've written about in the
past, a "big three", she's confident, irresistibly feminine and can
easily lull you into a false sense of security.

But lacking character, she seeks to use those traits against you
for her own selfish purposes, whereas the true "big four" woman
would have your best interests at heart as you would hers as a "big
four" man.

So then, there are two VERY fertile places where she can freely sow
the seeds of manipulation.

One is where the prospective victim is overly optimistic and
benevolent, and therefore gullible.

Rest assured that your awareness of "TGR-R" has forever solved
that one for you.

But the OTHER type of guy she's looking for is a kind-hearted but
arrogant one.

In other words, she's looking for a great guy whose ego has
been over-inflated to believe he is immune to the manipulator,
even if her track record is nothing short of plainly obvious.

The prospective victim somehow believes he's different and
therefore "better" than the manipulator's previous victims, and so
the bad things that built the manipulator's reputation won't happen
to him or her. 

Perhaps he thinks he'll "tame the shrew" because he's so supremely
charming compared to those other guys. 

Or maybe he just sees himself as such a badass that he'll recognize
and parry any manipulative patterns before she can ever blindside
him with them.

All I can say to any and all of that is that being arrogant is ALWAYS
a mistake.

Thinking oneself somehow "better" than anyone who would place
you in an adversarial position invariably causes you to voluntarily
surrender personal strength.

Read that last sentence a few times if it didn't quite hit you like
a ton of bricks the first time.

Here's the short version to sum up:   If you recognize that she's a
manipulator, RUN AWAY.   Even engaging in a "pissing contest" with
her will always sap your energy and resources without exception,
even IF you manage to avoid being taken by her.


Be Good,

Scot McKay


P.S.  To any of you ladies reading this, you're absolutely correct.

What I've written here today is by no means gender-specific. 

Don't be a Pollyanna thinking you can either outmaneuver OR
"change" a manipulator.  Find yourself a true "big four" man.
Character matters immensely...always.




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