[X&Y] Discouraged In California

Published: Sun, 05/14/17



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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Here's a letter from a reader who's finding
nothing but frustration in the online dating realm.  Read on
for my surprising response to what he has to say...

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READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
 
 
Hi Scot,
 
I am amazed that you are such a fan of online dating, even though
you were one of the few that was fortunate to meet your wife on a
dating site.
 
You make it sound like a veritable Garden of Eden for men looking
for a relationship or marriage.
 
The experiences of my friends and I do not mirror the luck you seem
to have had and we live in a good market here in Southern
California.
 
In our experiences the women we encounter are never as good looking
as their pictures, frequently lie about their weight and age (and
sometimes even their marital status), and have all sorts of
emotional baggage.
 
The few that do have their acts together and look half way decent
are so inundated with responses that they don't reply to anyone or
are simply on the sites to feed their egos.
 
So who really needs to get involved with women that have more
problems than we do?
 
I am just curious how you were able to develop this great stock of
women to choose from and how you avoided kissing a veritable army
of toads before you found your princess?
 
 
Thanks,
 
Marshall (aka "Discouraged In California")



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Hello Marshall, and thanks for writing.

Man, I've been EXACTLY where you are before...way back in 2003
shortly after my divorce.

But sure enough, after TONS of "trial and error" I finally cracked
the code when it comes to online dating and started seeing
TREMENDOUS success.

But I assure you that "luck" had nothing to do with it.
 
I've got some BAD NEWS and some GOOD NEWS for you and your friends.

First, the BAD NEWS. 

A staggering percentage of guys who try online dating end up as
frustrated as you guys are. 

Very few men see any success whatsoever, and MOST quit in shame and
disgust within 90 days (and that's generous).

Almost invariably, so many fail at online dating simply because
they have NO IDEA how it really works and/or NO IDEA how to truly
get a quality woman's attention...and keep it.

On the other hand, there's GOOD NEWS...as promised. 

(And by the way, since I'm officially "retired" from online dating
nowadays, of course, I don't mind sharing this with you--although I
would have been CRAZY to back in '04 or '05 when my online dating
life was firing on all cylinders.)

Here's it is:  Guys who DO know the ropes literally end up with ALL
the women...even as they do better at screening out the "wannabes". 

And amazingly, there's a practical "secret" these guys know that
literally separates them from the herd.

Perhaps the best news of all is that their "secret" is 100%
repeatable by just about any guy.

What's the "secret"?

Almost invariably, guys who really do well at online dating have
the golden advantage of having learned from someone else. 

That's right.  They've gone to another guy who knows the shortcut
to winning at online dating.
 
And by "winning" I mean getting most of the women you really want
to meet to respond to first e-mails, actually meeting them in
person AND having them actually meet your real-world expectations
because you screened them effectively.

That's IT.  That's ALL there is to it.

But hold on a second...as easy as it all sounds, the weird part is
these guys STILL remain a very small minority.

Why is that?

Well,  ironically enough, it's because to join their exclusive
ranks literally requires a man to break stride from what arguably
is his very nature as a man.

You see, as much of a cliché as it is, it's absolutely true that
most guys will NEVER, EVER ask for directions...no matter HOW "lost"
they get.

Further, for whatever reason most guys will NEVER invest in their
own success as far as women go. 

College?  Sure. 

The driving range?  Absolutely. 

Skills with women?  Nope...they'll "wing it", even to the bitter end.
 
Meanwhile, those few guys who are actually meeting the finest women
you see online are fully capitalizing on this huge tactical error
made by the vast majority of guys.

And to them, it's a beautiful thing that the rest of their fellow
brethren online remain clueless.

Here's the real-world truth about how all of this pans out, in
plain English.
 
Since women are not usually so interested in dating multiple men at
once, if a certain guy can narrow down a search to say, ten
first-tier women and then end up meeting 6-8 of them, it stands to
reason that VERY FEW guys can possibly be experiencing that level
of success. 

It's just simple arithmetic.  The hottest women on a dating site
are the extreme minority...I'll grant you that.  So when one guy
has six or eight of them, he's basically not leaving much for
anyone else
 
So yes, to the guys who are failing at it, online dating looks like
a hopeless venture at best and an outright scam at worst. 

Meanwhile, for the guys who "get it" it's like shooting fish in a
barrel.

Seriously.
 
Again, having been BOTH of those guys before, I really can tell you
that it takes skill more than it takes luck, without question. 

And no...regardless of what you might want to believe, your level of
success has little to do with what your stat sheet looks like. 

I'm living proof of that (and haven't heard anyone successfully
argue the contrary on my behalf yet, either!)

So then, what can you do right now to start ascending to the head
of the pack here?

We've already established that if you really want results, you just
can't "wing it" anymore.

You can shorten the curve with my jam-packed Online Dating
Domination 2.0 program:


 
http://www.onlinedatingdomination.com/subscribers



In fact, let me make a "no brainer" for you. 
 
Until Tuesday night, I've activated the "odd50" coupon code that
gives you a whopping 50% off.

You won't see any mention of it on the web page, but it will
be automatically activated for you at checkout.
 
That way you really have no more excuses.

Or, if you'd prefer 1-on-1 attention from me personally, sign up
for the Online Dating Success Package:


 
Online Dating Success Package


 
Of guys who have chosen one and/or the other of those two paths,
one has dated a former contestant on The Bachelor, another went out
with the TV weather girl in Minneapolis, another went from utterly
dateless to having his profile featured by Match.com on the front
page of Yahoo, and yet another reported an unthinkable 100% success
rate having written to over 40 women in The Bay Area. 

And oh, I almost forgot...a guy right here in San Antonio actually
met a Spurs Silver Dancer (i.e. NBA cheerleader) ONLINE.

So there's definitely a track record regarding the secret I'm
sharing with you today that speaks loud and clear.

But you've just got to make it happen.  "Hope" is not a strategy.
 
 
Be Good,
 
Scot McKay


P.S.  To you guys reading this who have never tried online dating
yet, let this newsletter ENCOURAGE you rather than DISCOURAGE you.

Marshall and his friends can turn their online dating fortunes
around, no doubt. 

But YOU have the golden opportunity to bypass ALL the frustration
and get the online dating site of your choice working for you to
fill your life with amazing women RIGHT AWAY. 

Think about it...




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