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IN THIS EDITION:  So you've gotten over being needy and desperate.
Now what?

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CHICK WHISPERING IS THE COOLEST SKILL ON EARTH


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We can all agree that makes perfect sense.

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THE CURE FOR "NEEDY DESPERATE DISORDER"


Most of us know (or at least know of) a beautiful woman who's fully
aware that she's hot stuff and has the Facebook page to prove it.

Have you ever gone and looked at the comments on her pictures?
They're virtually all the same aren't they?

Basically, it's a non-stop stream of pre-approval gushed mostly by
guys who have never even met her, let alone gone out with her.
Yet, they go on and on about how beautiful and sexy she is, perhaps
even coming off as downright creepy.

No matter what, all of these guys share two things in common:


1)  They have NO chance with her, and...


2)  ...they're all desperately hoping that their shameless,
over-the-top compliments and pick-up lines (in a public forum, no
less) will somehow earn her favor.


Truth be told, the vast majority of them are completely dateless.
Essentially, Facebook pages like that are one big haven for guys
who are desperate for female attention, brought on by excessive
neediness for female approval.

The crazy part is that we're talking about a honkin' MASSIVE number
of dudes here.  Ultimately, the vast majority of men fall into that
category...even though most really want OUT of it.

I still clearly remember one particular guy who summed up the
situation perfectly the day he decided to hire me for 1-on-1
coaching:  "I KNOW it's an attraction killer to gush over her and
to send her two dozen texts every day, but I just CAN'T STOP."

Being needy and desperate truly is like a disease, isn't it?  If
you want the cure, I've got exactly what you need on Amazon:


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I'm proud to report to you that every guy I work with gets over the
problem eventually.  Some handle it sooner than later while others
find they have quite a deep pit to dig themselves out of.

You may be one of them.  And if you are indeed a survivor of the
dreaded disease I'm talking about, more power to you.  You're most
likely already seeing a major positive change in how women respond
to you.

But today I want to address an unexpected twist on all of this
that's rather bizarre, when you get right down to it.

Lately I've come to the conclusion that guys who successfully get
over "Needy Desperation Disorder" (NDD) aren't necessarily out of
the proverbial woods just yet.

Sometimes a fascinating phenomenon kicks in that's not unlike what
other guys go through when they find the cure for that other
dreaded ailment, "Mr. Nice Guy Disease".

They let the pendulum swing fully in the opposite direction.

That's right.  Just like the former "Mr. Nice Guy" somehow believes
he needs to turn into a total jerk instead, I've discovered that
NDD survivors sometimes go out of their way to avoid ANY appearance
of interest in a woman AT ALL. 

And yes, we're talking about precisely the women they're wildly
attracted to.

Somewhat predictably, these guys end up giving me another call.

"Scot man, I've conquered being needy and desperate and now I'm
getting some seriously terrific women to go out with me.  It's
GREAT...until they stop returning my calls after the second date.
What's up with that?"

Well, here's the answer.  A major mistake guys make is going out of
their way to appear non-needy when they're actually NOT needy.

For example, their pride over kicking the NDD habit gives them
renewed resolve to NEVER give any woman a compliment...ever.  This
gets combined with a newfound cavalier attitude toward getting in
touch with her more than once every several days.

The irony, though, is that even though they've succeeded well
enough at NOT being needy or desperate, this sweeping shift in the
opposite direction universally comes off as full-on DISINTEREST to
women.

If you think about it, how could it NOT be perceived that way?
Women are human, so they're going to gravitate toward taking
situations at face value just like you would.

And if a woman actually likes you, she's going to start fearing the
worst.

So please don't be confused when she launches a "pre-emptive
strike" against you under such circumstances.  That is, she sees
the proverbial "writing on the wall" and dumps YOU before you get
the chance to hurt her feelings.

What a revelation, right?  And get this...the more popular and
confident a woman is, the less time she'll have for guys who seem
indifferent towards her.

Sure, women with lower self-esteem might revert to chasing you
despite their frustration with you, but that's the thing:  Guys who
AREN'T needy or desperate tend to attract women who aren't either.

As such, when you get the "heave-ho" from a woman you actually like
but who you've also been ignoring, don't see that as "rejection" or
a sign that she didn't like you.

SHE was the one feeling rejected, LONG before you did.

One of the biggest tragedies in the dating world has got to be when
two people who are actually crazy about each other end up breaking
up because of some unfortunate game-playing, misunderstanding
and/or miscommunication.

What we're talking about here would certainly apply.

So if you can relate to the situation I've just described, remember
this.  If you're NOT actually needy or desperate, you're not likely
to APPEAR that way.

When you have dating options, a woman instinctively knows that
she's got potential competition at all times.  That social proof is
all she needs to feel comfortable that you and she are in each
other's "league", as it were.

At that point, it's more than just okay to let a woman know she's
earned your attention, it's sort of a moral imperative.  You've got
to let a woman know you at least find her interesting, or else she
won't feel comfortable expressing interest in you.

And you WANT that, remember?  Killing neediness doesn't mean you've
lost all emotion and don't actually appreciate when a woman likes
you anymore.

So it once again comes down to LEADERSHIP.

The key to deserving what you want is balance.  For sure, you don't
want to pre-approve a beautiful woman as the image of perfection
before you've gotten to know her some.

Indeed, you take a step back and evaluate her overall quality a
bit.  Sometimes it actually only takes a brief moment to establish
your frame.

But when she duly impresses you, it's definitely the right thing to
do to acknowledge that.  And if you like to talk to her, call her
up.  If a flirty text comes to mind, send it.

The point is that if you've gotten past fear of loss and
desperation, it actually becomes FUN to interact with women.  So
feel free to enjoy it.  She'll appreciate your honesty, which is a
big part of being a man of character.


Be Good,

Scot McKay





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