[X&Y] "Hanging Out" With Women
Published: Thu, 10/13/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: If you're suggesting to women that the two of you
"hang out sometime", what follows could be VERY interesting to you...=====
READ THIS BEFORE YOU TEXT HER...
Or maybe that should read, "Read this B4UTXT her"...
Let me be up front with you. In this newsletter I'm about to share
with you a TOTAL horror story about the kind of disaster that's
very likely to happen if you go about texting women in any way
other than the RIGHT way.
Unfortunately, that story isn't an isolated incident.
By every indication, there are LOTS of guys who have fallen into
the pattern of watching perfectly excellent opportunities with
women go up in smoke because of haphazard (or even flat-out
ill-advised) text messaging.
You could even say that texting ourselves in the WRONG direction
with women has become an epidemic.
Texting is NOT going away anytime soon, so it's time to come to
grips with the simple truth that you've GOT to master how to use it
to your advantage with women rather than to your DISadvantage.
How are you going to do that?
Well, to throw it out on the table for you, I don't have a whole
system just yet on how to get texting right.
But I know two guys who DO...and their expertise is world-class:
Suffice it to say that Christian Hudson and Race DePriest from The
Social Man are the undisputed champions at texting women.
And now you can know EVERYTHING they do...quickly and easily:
Man, there's no WORSE feeling under the sun then that sickening
sensation that you've texted yourself into a black hole with a
woman.
What's more, you'll probably never even know for sure exactly WHAT
she found so "offensive"...at least until it's LONG SINCE too late.
Isn't it time to end the embarrassment and frustration caused by
blowing it with a woman...without even MEANING to?
B4UTXT Her is a bargain-priced way to make sure that NEVER happens
again. Good stuff.
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ARE YOU "HANGING OUT" WITH WOMEN?
No doubt, you DEFINITELY don't want to use that infamous "D" word
when talking to a woman about potentially meeting up with her
face-to-face for the first time.
The idea of "dating" sounds WAY to formal, and pre-loads the time
you'll spend with her with unnecessary pressure.
So then, as you may know already I've always favored the
suggestion, "Let's make plans" instead as a powerful three-word
phrase to convey to a woman that you'd like to see her--doing so
with the power of suggestion but without any pre-expectation or
silly innuendo.
I've watched the coolest, smoothest guys I know use that phrase
with stunning success again and again over the course of my adult
life.
Still, there are guys who apparently prefer to suggest to women
that they "hang out together" when planning "first meetings" (or
whatever you want to call them in lieu of "first dates") with women.
Now, let me be the first to freely admit something to you.
In the past I've been generally neutral about the idea of
suggesting that you "hang out" with woman as a euphemism for asking
her out on a "date".
I've not exactly told you to AVOID that phrase.
But based on several e-mails I've received from you guys in recent
weeks that's about to change.
There's a fascinating pattern going on lately. The implied meaning
of "let's hang out sometime" is changing in women's mind.
VERY strong evidence is pouring in that "let's hang out" is coming
across nowadays as "let's hook up".
That's right...you might as well be ordering up a "booty call".
Now hey, if you believe that's precisely the implied expectation
between you and a particular woman, then "let's hang out sometime"
might actually be your BEST way to phrase what you have in mind...all
in the name of preserving subtlety and a modicum of respect to a
purely sexual fling.
BUT...if you aren't in that frame of mind with a certain women you
are interested in, then you might want to go with "let's make
plans" instead.
It's no big thing, really. If you're over 30 you might recall when
saying, "let's hook up" didn't necessarily imply sex.
Similarly, if you've ever watched action/adventure flicks from the
mid-eighties, you may have gotten a laugh out of the bad guys
referring to shooting someone as "doing him".
Things change.
And it would appear the bell has just tolled on the phrase, "let's
hang out".
Interestingly, EVERY guy who has related a similar unhappy ending
due to sloppy usage of "let's hang out" mentioned that TEXT
MESSAGING was involved.
Guys, you HAVE to remember that whenever you go with a text message
rather than a phone conversation you're losing ALL non-verbal
communication.
As such, you give away much of your masculine power to lead as you
choose--the margin of error for misunderstanding is just too great.
That's why I explicitly recommend that any and all REAL 2-way
conversations (especially when serious content is involved) should
take place on the phone.
Can you see how a phrase like "let's hang out" can particularly
fall victim to "worst case scenario" misinterpretation?
Best to break the habit of using those three words from now on when
interested in meeting up with women...especially if you aren't going
to break the habit of asking women out via text any time soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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