[X&Y] Better Than Leftovers...And Definitely Better Than Shopping On "Black Friday"
Published: Fri, 11/25/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: It's time to drop that turkey sandwich and go
hang out with some women.But wait...What are the best days and best times to actually
schedule a meeting with her?
Getting this right is one of the "hidden" factors that will make or
break your dating life. In today's "Feature Story" you'll get the
objective, practical ideas you'll need...for this weekend and
beyond.
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IT'S "BLACK FRIDAY"...SO I NEED A MIND-BLOWER, RIGHT?
The Friday after Thanksgiving usually means two things: shopping
and leftovers.
Since neither of those ideas typically sound all that exciting to
most of us as guys, I'm going to mix things up a bit.
Sure, I'm giving in to "peer pressure" and running a "Black Friday"
special of my own for you...but THIS one's going to be different from
others you've seen.
Nope...I'm not going to make you go stand in line at 3 am hoping to
get one of the two TVs I actually have in stock that match the
price shown on TV. After all, I'd have sent you this newsletter a
LOT earlier today were that the case.
Instead, if you're alert enough after all the "festivities"
yesterday to cash in on THIS "Black Friday" deal, you'll be able to
do so from the comfort and privacy of your own home (or iPad).
So what is it, already?
I know I have to go "all out" for this, so in a word...it's
EVERYTHING.
You can get the package featuring my first five major programs
bundled together--Virtuosity, Online Dating Domination, The Leading
Man, The Master Plan and The Man's Approach:
That saves you a whopping $188 ALREADY.
But RIGHT NOW I'm also going to give you The Difference...which is
another $97 value.AND...for the first time ever I'm even going to fork over Chick
Whispering too...that's worth yet ANOTHER $47.
There are no coupon codes to remember or anything. Just order the
"All Five Major Programs" package and get SEVEN...full and complete
versions of each, sent right to you today:
And yes...you can even set it up as a three-month "easy purchase":
Now that should brighten up an otherwise "black" Friday...no doubt.
When you click the links above, you'll be conveniently teleported
directly to the order page.
But if you'd like to take the tour of what's included in each of
the respective program, no worries. Simply visit the main
website and surf through the links to at the left side of the
page:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com
Oh, and since some of the web-based ISPs are still slow on the draw
delivering e-mails lately, I'll actually make this a "Black
Weekend" special...but it's absolutely, positively ending Sunday
night at 11:59 pm PST (GMT -9).
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FEATURE STORY: THE BEST DAYS AND TIMES TO SCHEDULE DATES
Here's one particular factor that almost never gets discussed by
ANYONE in the field of dating and seduction advice.
That's WHEN to schedule a date. I mean, what are the best days--and
specific times on those days--to arrange meetings with women?
The answer is "it depends", which is precisely why you may not have
seen much written on this subject.
By now, however, you know how much I enjoy covering completely
original topics...and this certainly applies. So let's go for it.
The very first thing you want to do when planning what day and time
to schedule the date is to ask several crucial questions. How to
proceed will depend on the answers.
For starters, ask yourself, "What is the goal of this meeting?"
If you have met someone online and never seen her in person before,
the goal should be to simply find out if there's any good reason to
schedule a real date.
This means, of course, that the first meeting shouldn't be treated
as a date per se, and therefore shouldn't be SCHEDULED as if that's
what you have in mind.
For example, you'd want to meet Tuesday morning for coffee before
work rather than Friday night at 7.30 pm. That way a brief
timeline is firmly built in as opposed to the expectation that an
entire evening is going to be spent together.
However, if on the other hand you've been dating someone for a
while and you'd like to go exclusive with her, you'd do well to
arrange a date where you've got plenty of time--perhaps on that
weekend night where there's no question that she's been given first
priority above and beyond any other women.
You may even schedule a full-on "weekender", which definitely
should only ever be reserved for women you are serious about.
This leads to the second question, naturally. "What priority am I
giving this particular woman I'm going to meet with?"
Let's face it, how much you're into any particular woman will
contribute to the kind of vibe you want to send out when together
on dates. Therefore your strategy as to when to schedule those
meetings must be in line with that.
If you're still on the fence about her, you may want to meet for
lunch and/or drinks after work on weekdays, just so you have some
quality time with her without that expectation for a long,
drawn-out experience.
That's assuming, of course, that you know how to "decompress" from
work effectively before meeting a woman shortly thereafter. If you
haven't figured that out, then be sure to never schedule ANY
meeting with ANY woman for those times.
But assuming you've got that part handled, it leaves those
prime-time weekend evenings for women you're already pretty much
psyched about.
And make no mistake, gentlemen. Weekend evening dates tend to send
women into "steady girlfriend mode".
Meanwhile, when weekends are conspicuous by their absence from your
dating schedule with a particular woman, she instinctively knows
she's not being considered as "girlfriend material" just yet.
Something to keep in mind.
The third question to ask is a two-part one. "What is the woman's
lifestyle like, and how does it mesh with mine?"
Not everyone works 9-5. For example, if she's a waitress you're
likely going to have to think out of the Friday/Saturday night box
no matter how much you like her.
Such a woman may be the perfect candidate for one of my all-time
favorite experiences to share with a woman seen as "girlfriend
material": The laid-back Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date (I
hesitate to use the acronym, but suit yourself).
Never underestimate the chemistry-packing potential of the Outdoor
Weekend Afternoon Date.
Bring your dogs out to the park together and see if they get along
as well as the two of you do.
Or take an hour drive to the winery out in the country just to get
away from the stress of town. Women will love you for planning
this sort of thing...when all you had to do otherwise was sit around
and watch sports on a Sunday afternoon anyway.
Face it...BOTH of you need to get out of the house, and this does the
trick.
On the other hand, a certain woman you are dating may be, say, a
flight attendant. This presents yet another scheduling challenge.
The BAD NEWS is she'll be gone for three days in a row, and
probably never the same ones from week to week. BUT...the GOOD NEWS
is she'll also be completely open on the days she IS in town.
This means that if you're not exactly a 9-5 guy yourself, you can
feel free to schedule that Holy Grail of amazingly decadent events
with the decidedly mischievous vibe...the one that invariably
supercharges chemistry to the max.
I'm talking, of course, about the infamous Weeknight Date That
Begins At 11pm And Ends Around Dawn.
If her name is "Dawn", so much the better if she's around at the
end...but I digress.
Heck, even if you ARE a 9-5 guy it's worth planning a day off from
time to time just to experience this once in a while. Suffice it
to say that NOTHING ignites femininity more when it's done right.
And by "done right", I mean get a drink or two, listen to some
music, then walk hand-in-hand in your city at 2am with nobody else
on the street like you own the place.
Make her laugh too loud and feel like she's probably waking
everyone up. Then kiss her to make sure things quiet down.
If you can, lie down in the street downtown at 3am and watch the
lights change. It worked for the guy in "The Notebook", even after
he pretty much did everything else wrong...right?
Magical. Memorable. Incredible. You can imagine where such an
evening can lead.
No matter what kind of schedule your lifestyle and hers are on
however, you ALWAYS do well to know exactly what a woman's timeline
looks like when planning a meeting with her.
For instance, it's a good idea to know if she's got a 6a flight to
catch on a Saturday morning before assuming she'll be able to stay
out all night on Friday. See what I mean?
Here are a few final "silver bullets" for you.
First, if you are budget-minded, realize that a woman's
expectations that money will be spent are HIGHEST for evening
dates--especially weekend evenings.
To make a great first impression while genuinely getting to know a
woman, the casual daytime dates are almost always the biggest
winners.
Second, if you have a sneaking suspicion that a date has the
potential not to end well for ANY REASON, yet you want remain
optimistic assuming it will, I'd HIGHLY suggest scheduling the
meeting for EARLY evening.
This way, whether it's on a weeknight OR a weekend, if things get
cut short sooner than later you'll still have the opportunity to
make the most of the evening otherwise with whatever "back up plan"
you choose.
So for example, you may be somewhat intrigued by a woman but have
felt a strange vibe from her over the phone for the past couple of
days.
You meet for a quick "happy hour" drink at 5.30 on Friday night
with the agenda purposefully left open for the rest of the evening.
If things get weird or flat-out fly south, you can be over and done
with the whole thing by 7. But if everything's cool after all, you
can continue to hang out with her for a while longer. Not bad
either way.
Finally, the flip-side to allowing that built-in "margin for error"
on a date would be scheduling a first meeting with a woman that you
have the gut feeling may turn out VERY WELL.
A weekend morning breakfast meeting is the GOLDEN TICKET here.
Think about it. It's a casual type of first date that gives the
FIRST IMPRESSION that the meeting is meant to be a short one.
But if you REALLY HIT IT OFF, you can bounce to Starbucks for a
better second round of coffee than IHOP had.
If that goes well, the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date can kick in
later.
I'm telling you, this is a masterpiece.
I have fond memories of several Saturday morning breakfasts that
morphed into all-day events, with the woman becoming a pleasant
part of my life for weeks or months thereafter. In fact, I still
have the receipt from the $14.63 spent at IHOP the first time I
ever met Emily.
Remember, if you are a "big four" man then you don't have to worry
as much about "leaving her wanting more" as other guys do.
Instead, if you really dig the woman you met at breakfast, you can
make her practically fall in love with you by dinner. From there
the only limits are your own.
So definitely give the decision to what day and time to schedule
dates the attention it deserves. The payoff is bigger than simply
getting better control over your dating life. Getting this right
can literally make or break how your relationships with specific
women turn out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.
Oh, and since some of the web-based ISPs are still slow on the draw
delivering e-mails lately, I'll actually make this a "Black
Weekend" special...but it's absolutely, positively ending Sunday
night at 11:59 pm PST (GMT -9).
=====
FEATURE STORY: THE BEST DAYS AND TIMES TO SCHEDULE DATES
Here's one particular factor that almost never gets discussed by
ANYONE in the field of dating and seduction advice.
That's WHEN to schedule a date. I mean, what are the best days--and
specific times on those days--to arrange meetings with women?
The answer is "it depends", which is precisely why you may not have
seen much written on this subject.
By now, however, you know how much I enjoy covering completely
original topics...and this certainly applies. So let's go for it.
The very first thing you want to do when planning what day and time
to schedule the date is to ask several crucial questions. How to
proceed will depend on the answers.
For starters, ask yourself, "What is the goal of this meeting?"
If you have met someone online and never seen her in person before,
the goal should be to simply find out if there's any good reason to
schedule a real date.
This means, of course, that the first meeting shouldn't be treated
as a date per se, and therefore shouldn't be SCHEDULED as if that's
what you have in mind.
For example, you'd want to meet Tuesday morning for coffee before
work rather than Friday night at 7.30 pm. That way a brief
timeline is firmly built in as opposed to the expectation that an
entire evening is going to be spent together.
However, if on the other hand you've been dating someone for a
while and you'd like to go exclusive with her, you'd do well to
arrange a date where you've got plenty of time--perhaps on that
weekend night where there's no question that she's been given first
priority above and beyond any other women.
You may even schedule a full-on "weekender", which definitely
should only ever be reserved for women you are serious about.
This leads to the second question, naturally. "What priority am I
giving this particular woman I'm going to meet with?"
Let's face it, how much you're into any particular woman will
contribute to the kind of vibe you want to send out when together
on dates. Therefore your strategy as to when to schedule those
meetings must be in line with that.
If you're still on the fence about her, you may want to meet for
lunch and/or drinks after work on weekdays, just so you have some
quality time with her without that expectation for a long,
drawn-out experience.
That's assuming, of course, that you know how to "decompress" from
work effectively before meeting a woman shortly thereafter. If you
haven't figured that out, then be sure to never schedule ANY
meeting with ANY woman for those times.
But assuming you've got that part handled, it leaves those
prime-time weekend evenings for women you're already pretty much
psyched about.
And make no mistake, gentlemen. Weekend evening dates tend to send
women into "steady girlfriend mode".
Meanwhile, when weekends are conspicuous by their absence from your
dating schedule with a particular woman, she instinctively knows
she's not being considered as "girlfriend material" just yet.
Something to keep in mind.
The third question to ask is a two-part one. "What is the woman's
lifestyle like, and how does it mesh with mine?"
Not everyone works 9-5. For example, if she's a waitress you're
likely going to have to think out of the Friday/Saturday night box
no matter how much you like her.
Such a woman may be the perfect candidate for one of my all-time
favorite experiences to share with a woman seen as "girlfriend
material": The laid-back Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date (I
hesitate to use the acronym, but suit yourself).
Never underestimate the chemistry-packing potential of the Outdoor
Weekend Afternoon Date.
Bring your dogs out to the park together and see if they get along
as well as the two of you do.
Or take an hour drive to the winery out in the country just to get
away from the stress of town. Women will love you for planning
this sort of thing...when all you had to do otherwise was sit around
and watch sports on a Sunday afternoon anyway.
Face it...BOTH of you need to get out of the house, and this does the
trick.
On the other hand, a certain woman you are dating may be, say, a
flight attendant. This presents yet another scheduling challenge.
The BAD NEWS is she'll be gone for three days in a row, and
probably never the same ones from week to week. BUT...the GOOD NEWS
is she'll also be completely open on the days she IS in town.
This means that if you're not exactly a 9-5 guy yourself, you can
feel free to schedule that Holy Grail of amazingly decadent events
with the decidedly mischievous vibe...the one that invariably
supercharges chemistry to the max.
I'm talking, of course, about the infamous Weeknight Date That
Begins At 11pm And Ends Around Dawn.
If her name is "Dawn", so much the better if she's around at the
end...but I digress.
Heck, even if you ARE a 9-5 guy it's worth planning a day off from
time to time just to experience this once in a while. Suffice it
to say that NOTHING ignites femininity more when it's done right.
And by "done right", I mean get a drink or two, listen to some
music, then walk hand-in-hand in your city at 2am with nobody else
on the street like you own the place.
Make her laugh too loud and feel like she's probably waking
everyone up. Then kiss her to make sure things quiet down.
If you can, lie down in the street downtown at 3am and watch the
lights change. It worked for the guy in "The Notebook", even after
he pretty much did everything else wrong...right?
Magical. Memorable. Incredible. You can imagine where such an
evening can lead.
No matter what kind of schedule your lifestyle and hers are on
however, you ALWAYS do well to know exactly what a woman's timeline
looks like when planning a meeting with her.
For instance, it's a good idea to know if she's got a 6a flight to
catch on a Saturday morning before assuming she'll be able to stay
out all night on Friday. See what I mean?
Here are a few final "silver bullets" for you.
First, if you are budget-minded, realize that a woman's
expectations that money will be spent are HIGHEST for evening
dates--especially weekend evenings.
To make a great first impression while genuinely getting to know a
woman, the casual daytime dates are almost always the biggest
winners.
Second, if you have a sneaking suspicion that a date has the
potential not to end well for ANY REASON, yet you want remain
optimistic assuming it will, I'd HIGHLY suggest scheduling the
meeting for EARLY evening.
This way, whether it's on a weeknight OR a weekend, if things get
cut short sooner than later you'll still have the opportunity to
make the most of the evening otherwise with whatever "back up plan"
you choose.
So for example, you may be somewhat intrigued by a woman but have
felt a strange vibe from her over the phone for the past couple of
days.
You meet for a quick "happy hour" drink at 5.30 on Friday night
with the agenda purposefully left open for the rest of the evening.
If things get weird or flat-out fly south, you can be over and done
with the whole thing by 7. But if everything's cool after all, you
can continue to hang out with her for a while longer. Not bad
either way.
Finally, the flip-side to allowing that built-in "margin for error"
on a date would be scheduling a first meeting with a woman that you
have the gut feeling may turn out VERY WELL.
A weekend morning breakfast meeting is the GOLDEN TICKET here.
Think about it. It's a casual type of first date that gives the
FIRST IMPRESSION that the meeting is meant to be a short one.
But if you REALLY HIT IT OFF, you can bounce to Starbucks for a
better second round of coffee than IHOP had.
If that goes well, the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date can kick in
later.
I'm telling you, this is a masterpiece.
I have fond memories of several Saturday morning breakfasts that
morphed into all-day events, with the woman becoming a pleasant
part of my life for weeks or months thereafter. In fact, I still
have the receipt from the $14.63 spent at IHOP the first time I
ever met Emily.
Remember, if you are a "big four" man then you don't have to worry
as much about "leaving her wanting more" as other guys do.
Instead, if you really dig the woman you met at breakfast, you can
make her practically fall in love with you by dinner. From there
the only limits are your own.
So definitely give the decision to what day and time to schedule
dates the attention it deserves. The payoff is bigger than simply
getting better control over your dating life. Getting this right
can literally make or break how your relationships with specific
women turn out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.