[X&Y] 5 Ways To Meet Women At The Supermarket
Published: Sun, 12/04/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You've heard a few quick tips about how to meet
women at the grocery store in the latest episode of The ChickWhisperer podcast. Here are more...by request.
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DID YOU CHECK THESE OUT YET?
Yesterday I told you about a very cool, limited-time deal that my
friend (and fellow Texan) Rion Williams has going on for you guys.
That alone is a solid reason to check out his website:
But...one thing I forgot to mention yesterday is that Rion actually
has not one but FOUR videos there for you covering some amazing
stuff.
Obviously, the more insight you have into how attraction works the
BETTER...and here's what you can expect to get from Rion when you
click that link above:
*How and why 'sex sells' and is used against you
*What to do if you want to REALLY see through the "social matrix"
(and this is WAY AHEAD of the "basics" that most PUAs serve up)
*How and why sexploitation works to corrupt and influence the
behavior of people and how stop falling for it. (Wait until you
hear Rion blow the lid off of how we live vicariously through
consumer media and products WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING IT.)
*Exactly WHY you have uncontrollable physiological responses around
sexy women...even after trying "affirmations" and other supposedly
effective "mind tricks".
I highly recommend watching these quick vids before Rion takes them
down (again). You don't even have to opt-in to see them:
And now, check it out...you guys really liked the tips Lance
and I gave in the newest TCW podcast about meeting women at the
supermarket.
In response to TONS of requests for more detail on that very
subject, here is a "classic" newsletter from the vault.
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HOW TO MEET WOMEN AT THE SUPERMARKET
"You know, it's dangerous for you to be here in the frozen food
section. You could melt all this stuff."
--Steve Martin in "My Blue Heaven"
Funny thing about today's topic.
The concept is one of the oldest, most overwrought stereotypes in
the dating world. Yet, how many people (other than Vinnie) do you
know who actually have met someone at the grocery store? Have you?
Would you like to?
As promised, today we're going to talk all about how to turn the
local supermarket into your dating playground...or at least
potentially.
And it's easier than you think.
No, this isn't necessarily about "bumping carts" with someone "by
accident". Rest assured there are much better strategies in store
than that (pun intended). So, then, let's get on with it!
1) Inline Flirting
This is the simplest concept, yet completely overlooked by so many.
Basically, if you want to meet someone, form your checkout plan
with some "strategery", will you?
Simply get in line behind someone you want to meet, pick up the
tabloid in front of you and make conversation about it. For some
odd reason, this is like magic when performed by a guy.
Women seem to be entranced by that sort of thing, and to have a guy
actually start a conversation about it really is irresistible to a
woman.
And don't completely rule out flirting with the one who is behind
the register, either. One of life's joys for me is when a woman at
a cash register asks me for my credit card or (God help her) my
phone number.
Whichever it is, it's "way too soon in the relationship for that"
or "I don't know you well enough". Believe it or not, Emily still
deals with this sort of banter out of me regularly...and still
giggles when it happens.
2) Have You Tried This?
Step One: Position yourself considering the same shelf full of
items as someone you want to meet.
Step Two: Find a particularly interesting product.
Step Three: Ask, "Have you tried this?"
Step Four: Expect a one-word answer.
Step Five: Respond by briefly describing some creative use you
might have for it.
Step Six: Continue conversation with intrigued new friend.
Step Seven: Etc...
3) Veggie Tales
This is really a variation on the second bullet point above, but I
want to make sure everyone understands how virtually foolproof it
is to start a conversation.
Hit the produce section.
Find someone you want to meet. Ask either: 1) "What's the best
way to pick one of these?" or 2) "Do you have any secrets for
cooking these?" People love being asked for expert advice.
Men love doing so because, well, we're men, and women will find it
endearing that a guy is interested in cooking. Don't act helpless
here guys, just interested.
4) Bean Stalk
This one is my personal favorite, and the true "secret" silver
bullet of this newsletter.
At a grocery store you have a perfect scenario for meeting someone
that is built in by design. Everyone goes up one aisle and down
the other when they are there on serious business.
If you notice someone you would like to meet is doing a week's
worth of shopping like you are, simply (and this is about as simple
as it gets) start at the opposite end of the aisle as they are, but
work the aisles in the same order.
In doing so, you will pass this person every single time you go to
the next aisle. Hopefully you get what I'm talking about here
without me having to draw a diagram, because I'm lousy at that.
Maybe you'll completely ignore the person on the first aisle.
On the second aisle, possibly some eye contact and a smile. On the
third aisle (exactly), stop and say, "Look, I barely know you and
you are already stalking me."
Another perfectly good option is to ask, "So are you going to
follow me around all day or are you going to introduce yourself?"
Be sure to laugh (or at least smile) after you say this so as to
make it perfectly clear you are kidding.
Either way, playing upon the fact that the other person is already
interested in you is almost always effective. From there, make a
friend.
5) Timing
I would plan my supermarket ventures in the early evening (after
work) or on a Saturday in the late morning to early afternoon time
frame.
Consider the demographics involved and it's easy to understand how
the ratios of single people are going to be better then. This
isn't to say that it's impossible to meet people during the day on
Tuesday, but the odds aren't quite as good.
If you are a "night person", try shopping at 2 am if you have a
24-hour supermarket. You might meet your soulmate. He or she is
probably stocking shelves.
Here's a quick note regarding what not to do.
Ever notice that you don't seem to get the choice of "paper or
plastic" anymore? Just because all the bags are "plastic" doesn't
mean YOU have to be.
One of the major scenarios to avoid is trying to be too, um..."overly
helpful".
Guys please don't chase women around the parking lot offering to
"load their groceries" or even to return their cart for them. You
might as well pour the milk you just bought onto some toast and
contemplate how that relates to this situation.
That said, starting conversation at the supermarket really is
incredibly easy. Once you try it, you'll wonder what took you so
long.
All too often we limit ourselves by thinking that bars, clubs and
other "designated" places are the only "appropriate" venues for
meeting someone.
The truth is you are more likely to meet a high quality human being
and have a great conversation with him or her when you both are in
your "natural habitat" and free of loud noises and obnoxious
distractions (e.g. a hundred other people trying to "pick up"
someone).
An informal poll I've taken suggests that most single adults would
truly enjoy being approached with interest at the grocery store or
similar shopping situation.
So, how about giving it a try this week? By all means, send me
your "success stories".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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