[X&Y] Not To Be Missed: Letters From Women
Published: Mon, 01/02/12
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT QUESTIONS DO I ASK HER?
I'm getting TONS of questions from you guys about how to make
conversation with women on dates, and how to make sure to
avoid those painful "awkward silences".
Well, as fortune would have it there's a great (and
inexpensive) resource book out there that gives you some
SERIOUS AMMO with which to combat that particular problem.
It's from none other than the world's top "romance expert"
Michael Webb, and it quite literally GIVES you a massive
stash of GREAT conversation starters...whether you are on
a first date or wanting to take things to the "next level"
with a woman you're just starting to get to know:
Mike's been featured in practically every major magazine and
newspaper. He has appeared on over 500 tv and radio shows and
has 18 books to his credit.But that is not what REALLY amazes me. It's that Michael and
his wife have been blissfully married for over 20 years
and have never even had a fight. And its not just pure dumb
luck. When it comes to relationships, this guy knows his stuff.
Since we're friends he recently provided me with a copy of his
other BRAND NEW book 500 Intimate Questions for Couples.
You can check THAT one out here:
This book, like the other I just introduced you to, gives you
a WHOLE BUNCH of great conversations starters.
BUT...this one is geared more toward helping you strengthen
your relationship with a woman you've known for quite a while.
(Sounds like a great "sequel" to the other one, right?)
These questions are guaranteed to:
* Deepen the intimacy in ANY relationship
* Confirm whether or not you and your potential future mate
are sexually and emotionally compatible
* Spark some highly erotic conversations, followed by intensely
passionate physical time together
To help celebrate the new year, Michael is offering a one-time
special offer that goes along with the 500 Intimate Questions
for Couples.
This offer expires at midnight tonight, January 2nd. You'll just
have to see it to believe it... P.S. YES...these books are designed for a co-ed audience. Women
love 'em, as you can see from the testimonials and magazine features.
OK, now it's time to share a couple of letters from women with you...
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NOT TO BE MISSED: LETTERS FROM WOMEN
Here is an e-mail Emily received yesterday afternoon from
one of her readers. Take a look...
Hello Emily,
Here is my question.
How do I show a man I've been dating for six months by my
actions that I will not tolerate sub-par treatment from him?
He is going through tough times with money and personal
survival and our dates are more rare now. Until last month
we were seeing each other one or two times during the week
and we spent every weekend together.
He only calls me to make plans for our dates and I hardly
ever hear from him in between.
We have an agreement that our relationship is exclusive.
I've been arguing that his problems are just an excuse and
that when there is a will there is a way to meet up more
often.
Sincerely,
NAME WITHHELD
And now, here is MY question to YOU.
Did you find yourself empathizing with the woman and
wondering why the guy in her life doesn't "straighten up
and fly right?"
OR...did you think to yourself that it's probably more
likely that the guy is LOSING ATTRACTION for her and
probably just doesn't know how to tell her that point-
blank without risking a very strong "emotional response"
on her part?
Think about this very carefully, and be honest.
You see, to me it's almost OBVIOUS that the latter is the
case.
But the more I see out there in this big world of ours,
the more I believe that not everyone (be they a man OR a
woman) sees the forest for the trees in cases like these.
I mean, let's just put it this way. Almost EVERY e-mail
Emily gets is from a woman who is basically asking,"How
do I get the guy in my life to STOP MESSING UP?"
Compare that to almost every e-mail I get from men, which
tend to ask some iteration of, "How do I STOP MESSING UP?"
What I'm showing you here is a POWERFUL live demonstration
of just how far things have gone in today's "man bashing"
culture.
Apparently, all the commercials where we as men are
invariably portrayed as incompetent, insensitive screw-ups
have successfully brainwashed most of us.
At least, that's what one would think.
Meanwhile, even so-called "dating experts" for women are
teaching the ladies to think of themselves as "goddesses"
who are infallible as they are.
I've even seen more female online dating "experts" than not
actually recommend that women LIE ABOUT THEIR AGE on their
online dating profiles...even as they warn about "lying,
cheating jerks".
So basically, it's no wonder you have women "arguing" that
a man's real-world challenges are just an "excuse" for him
not to give her what she wants...and now.
And since there's an "agreement" to be upheld here, she
shouldn't "tolerate sub-par treatment from him".
There isn't ANY apparent consideration of what SHE might
contribute to the relationship in order to make it great.
And, of course, the simple idea that he may have grown sick
and tired of her and really just wants out of the whole
thing doesn't enter into it either.
Why am I telling you all this?
The answer is very simple: It's time to WAKE UP and realize
that if you are a high-quality man who has a woman's best
interest at heart, then you (yes YOU) deserve a woman who is
willing to offer her feminine gifts to the relationship even
as you gladly offer your masculine ones.
And if you EVER find yourself in a relationship with a woman
who sees "give and take" as a one-way street, MAN UP and sever
the relationship.
You WILL NOT be a "bad guy" if you do.
Meanwhile, I promise you that there ARE women out there who
still believe in the idea of "relationship", although the
evidence is pretty strong that you may have to hurry up and
find one soon.
If you think I'm either kidding and/or over-reacting here, I
invite you to read THIS e-mail message also, which Emily
received just this morning from ANOTHER woman:
Hi Emily,
Do you feel that either gender is better than the other?
I mean I know of people who teach dating advice (friends).
Actually..not really advice, but what they think about boy
girl relationship.
They feel that women are always better than men.
To me, I feel all of us have equal values and status. Just
for personal interest, I have been asking around, so I thought
I would ask someone other than friends.
NAME WITHHELD
Yes, that's for real. All I did was fix typos...that's it.
What you see is what Emily got.
Just for the sake of clarification, this is NOT a woman who
is struggling with whether she as a woman is worth as much
as a man.
Heck, this isn't even a woman who, on the other hand, thinks
MEN are "worthless".
This is a woman who simply believes men and women are both
equally valuable as human beings, and NOW IS ASKING IF IT'S
ACTUALLY OKAY FOR HER TO BELIEVE THAT, vis-a-vis the "advice"
she has been getting.
To BOTH of the women who wrote in, I would offer that the
man AND the woman in a relationship are equally worthy of
respect.
In fact, show me a happy couple and I'll show you a couple
who not only believes that, but also believes in "giving"
more than "taking".
It's like I've always said, if you want to be in control of
your dating life, start thinking about doing what it takes to
represent to MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) what THEY want
in a partner.
From there, they tend to give you what you want in return (i.e.
attention, approval, love and yes...sex) without you really
having to push too hard.
Deserve what you want.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I've got two REALLY COOL things in the works for you this
week. Hang in there for more details soon...
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