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WHAT'S INSIDE:   Mike had it bad for one particular woman.  The
problem is that the closer he tried to get to her, the more she
pulled away...until she disappeared completely.  What's up with
that?

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WHAT MAKES COOL GUYS COOL?


I don't talk about a certain killer little audio program of mine
nearly enough.  But even though I keep it tucked away, it's a real
winner...literally.

You see, a couple years ago I asked myself the question, "What IS
the very essence of 'cool'"? 

I also wondered aloud what makes those guys WINNERS.

You may have asked yourself the same things somewhere along the
way.

Well...as a fellow traveler with you on the perpetual journey to
ever-greater coolness, I did a WHOLE LOT of research and compiled
my findings into what I call The Engineer's Guide To Being Cooler
Than The Salesguy:



http://www.beingcooler.com



If you can excuse the wacky title (that only a former cubicle
jockey from Dilbert Inc. could have come up with) you'll find
that this could be the greatest $27 investment you've ever made.  

After all, what's in there is truly the secret key to being THE
MAN in your social circle:



http://www.beingcooler.com



Take a quick look.  The page is a pretty short read and there are
some added bonuses in there for you too.  Enjoy.



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JOHNNY "ONE-ITIS"


Hello Scot,

My dilemma lies in the fact that I found a great women, even by
your descriptions (e.g. she would even reach over and unlock my
door).

I met her online and everything was going well, till I came down
with a horrible disease called "ONE-ITIS". 

After that this great woman I was with started to distance herself
from me and the relationship ended really quick. 

I've been dating since then but "I will not settle," so I'm becoming
discouraged.

How do I get over screwing-up a relationship with a great woman?

I probably have to go out and deserve more but I'm not sure what
that really means.  Any help on the subject would be awesome.
Thanks for the terrific products.


Thanks again,

Mike



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Hey Mike:
 

Thanks for writing
 
A lot of times you hear that "one-itis" is cured by "dating other
women".  But that's simply a means to an end--an objective activity
that needs to lead to a real mindset in order to be effective. 

Ultimately, having a brain that is clear of any feelings of
DESPERATION or SCARCITY is what cures "one-itis" forever, even in
future relationships. 

If you believe you are a man who attracts terrific women, then you
will naturally begin to realize that there are a lot of them out
there. You won't have that underlying "fear of loss".

And even if there AREN'T "a lot of them" out there, if you are a
truly great man you will still be a rare enough specimen that you
will have this bizarre knack for attracting those who ARE out
there.
 
Having tons of women interested in you is like a magic "delete"
button for the weak, milquetoast attitude of clinginess that
frustrates women to no end. 

If you want to truly supercharge that effect, work to become a man
who takes charge of the evaluation process involved with meeting
women rather than idealizing every cute lil' thang that you meet. 

I don't care if you've known her for six months, there is still a
chance there could be a 'deal breaker' in there somewhere that has
not yet reared its ugly head. 

Notice I said "work" a couple of paragraphs ago.  This truly is a
habit we're talking about here, and the old habit of immediately
pre-validating pretty women and trying to impress them dies hard. 

Most of us have been doing that our entire lives, so it's no wonder
why it's so difficult to STOP.
 
Now, here's the "money ball". 

To gain ultimate victory here, you MUST understand that women are
HARD WIRED to demand that a man be of equal or higher overall
status than they in order to be seen as worthy mates and fathers to
their children. 

This is based on instinct more than any conscious decision.  Just
like you want her to look good and be friendly, she wants you to
carry leadership based on a position of strength. 

This makes women feel comfortable in your presence, which attracts
them--even at the sexual level.
 
You'll often overhear women who have issued "just be friends" talks
to "nice guys" who fawned over them say things like, "I have no
idea why I couldn't stay attracted to him.  He's exactly the kind
of guy I know would be good for me.  But I just wasn't feeling it.
I'm so mad at myself!"
 
The clincher, then, is to understand what women truly want from us
and begin to understand why things are as they are. 

I'm telling you, it's like getting whacked in the head with a 2x4
when you realize how this all fits together--because when you get
right down to it, it comes down to being MASCULINE as women define
it.

Remember, strength, leadership and the ability to provide security
are MASCULINE.  And masculinity ignites femininity.

Without those traits, they're just not likely to remain attracted
to you.

Believe me when I say that this perspective cures you of
destructive "one-itis" tendencies pronto.  After all, you now have
OBJECTIVE knowledge on the subject. 

Strangely, armed as such mentally you'll almost have subconscious
"survival instincts" of your own that kick in and nix needy
"one-itis" flare ups. 
 
In other words, you'll GET IT.  And women will love you for it.


Be Good,

Scot  McKay


P.S.  After reading yesterday about those few open spots on my
Ten-Plus 1-on-1 coaching program, several of you asked if you could
incorporate teaching on how to build an entrepreneurial lifestyle
in with a specialized plan of action for success with women.

The answer to that is a resounding YES.  I've built Ten-Plus
outlines like that numerous times before for other guys, and the
results were amazing.  

It really works out well because building an exciting, self-directed
lifestyle is indeed like catnip to high quality women.  It's all
inter-related, for sure.

As far as I know, I'm one of the only coaches in the world (if not
THE only) who can build you a specialized 1-on-1 coaching program
like that.  E-mail me if you're intrigued:


scot@deservewhatyouwant.com


 

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