[X&Y] Flirting Made Easy (Read This)
Published: Sat, 02/04/12
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Once and for all, here's the true secret to
effectively flirting with women. Wait until you read how simple itis. Have you been "trying too hard" all this time? Find out...
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IF YOU'RE NOT MEETING WOMEN ONLINE ABOUT NOW, YOU MUST BE NUTS
I've got a quick question for you. Ready?
Q: Once February rolls around, what is EVERY WOMAN'S deepest fear?
A: Being alone on Valentine's Day, of course.
This can only mean one thing: Succeeding at online dating just
became DEAD EASY.
Seriously, writing to women online between NOW and mid-February can
and should be like "shooting fish in a barrel", as one of my
Ten-Plus guys has put it.
And it can be that way for YOU...but ONLY IF you know the ropes and
can avoid the boneheaded mistakes that OVER 95% of guys--all who
quit online dating in shame and disgust within 90 days--are
OBVIOUSLY making.
If you want to be on top of things with every advantage down
stone-cold when "prime time" rolls around later this week
I'd suggest getting down to business RIGHT NOW.To that end, my main man Dave M. and I have once again opened the
doors to that killer 2-for-1 deal designed to get you up to speed
with online dating in RECORD TIME:
It's simple.
First you get Dave's Insider Internet Dating program, then e-mail
the receipt to scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
Then I'll send you Online Dating Domination ALSO.
The general feedback from guys I talk to is that Dave's program and
mine cover completely different angles on things and flat-out work
together like high-octane fuel and spark plugs. Or beer and
nachos. You get the point.
So why let some other guy snap up all the hottest women in your
metro area?
As I've often said, BE "MURPHY'S LAW". BE the guy who other guys
online are hoping DOESN'T write to the woman THEY want to meet.
Raise your hand if that sounds like YOU'D be in control--once and
for all.
Time to "do work". Here's that link again:
Oh, and by the way. All the new content for Online Dating
Domination 2.0 is FINALLY finished.
All that's left is to put all the pieces in order and give it
a killer new look before rolling it out to you...which won't be long. Look for an announcement soon.
Long story short, get Online Dating Domination now and all the new
additions will be yours also as soon as they're available...all
without having to pay a penny extra. Nice.
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FLIRTING MADE EASY
What thoughts cross your mind when you hear the word "flirting"?
Be honest.
For years (make that decades) I used to equate the concept of
flirting with making the kind of remarks and/or gestures toward
women that would get you slapped for your efforts.
Images of construction workers whistling at female passers-by.
Unsolicited whacks on the tail. Lines like "Hey baby, nice shoes..."
Know what I mean?
Basically, being called a "flirt" was never something positive back
when I was in school. At least, I didn't THINK it was.
Except that in retrospect, all the guys who the girls would accuse
of "flirting" in an irritated and/or even shocked tone of voice
also seemed to be the ones who got to go out with them. The
pattern was regular and predictable.
Was it that maybe the girls actually LIKED being flirted with, and
that my own misinformation about all "male behavior" equating to
"bad behavior" had clouded my logic?
Nah...couldn't have been.
Flirting HAD to have been a bad idea if you wanted to be a "nice
guy".
At least that's what I used to think.
But nowadays my perspective is different.
It all started when I began to figure out that women talk about
flirting A LOT. In fact, women's dating advice is practically
obsessed with it.
Considering women talk about it so much, I realized that it can't
be automatically a "negative" in their mindset.
The truth is that women, like men, want to know HOW to flirt...and
they want to know WHEN to flirt.
Moreover, they really do want to know how to respond POSITIVELY to
MEN who are flirting with THEM.
You mean their go-to solution isn't necessarily as straightforward
as, "slap their grill silly, stomp away angrily and call security?"
Apparently not. That wouldn't require nearly as much writing on
the subject.
Go figure.
So here's the deal. If women WANT to be flirted with, then it
follows logically that the REAL DEFINITION of what "flirting" is
must somehow be different than "unsolicited, unwanted sexual
advances".
And it is.
The real definition of "flirting" is not only VERY different than
that, it's also DISARMINGLY SIMPLE.
Ready?
"Flirting" is simply ANY INTERACTION of ANY KIND with MOTOS
(members of the opposite sex) that would flat-out feel WRONG were
it directed to someone of the same gender.
Granted, I'm assuming "heterocentrism" here...but I trust you get my
point.
It's not necessarily overtly SEXUAL communication.
It's simply DIFFERENT than heterosexual members of the same sex
tend to interact with each other.
If you see a woman coming the other way and smile at her, you
probably wouldn't have smiled that way at another guy.
We all know that if you lock eyes with a man and hold the gaze, it
signals potential hostility. So you'd probably avoid that
scenario. But if you lock eyes with a woman and hold it, that's
DIFFERENT.
If you're checking in at the airline counter and the woman asks for
your ID, you might joke with her that she's probably wondering if
she's old enough to hang with you. Innocent enough...but not exactly
what you'd say were it a guy behind the counter. Right?
If you're shopping for clothes and ask a particularly hot woman who
works there to recommend some stylish threads to "make you look
good", and she obliges, my guess is that you'll interact with her
along the way a bit differently than you would were some dude
helping you.
In fact, you'd probably tell the guy who works there that you were
"just looking" and take your chances on your own.
Why?
Because that's DIFFERENT. It's just not the SAME when someone of
the same gender helps you with stuff like that.
I think too many of us as guys are too uptight about, if not
downright SCARED OF flirting because we treat it as a "black and
white" issue. In other words, we talk ourselves into believing
we've either got to "go direct" in expressing sexual interest in a
woman OR keep what's in our imagination a secret.
What if you started looking at the "grey area"?
What if you made a habit of realizing that simple banter with women
doesn't necessarily have to be "sexually charged" in order to be
flirting?
Could you potentially see how by changing your mindset you can
quickly and easily set yourself apart as a MAN rather than some
"neuter creature"...all the while without being creepy, sleazy or
pushy?
What if you began to FREE YOURSELF to interact with women in a way
that's DIFFERENT than how you interact with other guys?
Sound good? Thought so.
And here is the wild part: I bet you ALREADY DO EXACTLY THAT.
Every day. Probably without even realizing it.
Every day, 95% or more of us as guys are on auto-pilot insofar as
interacting with women "differently" goes.
In other words, it's likely that you already have MORE PRACTICE and
are probably BETTER AT flirting than you guess.
Now, don't get me wrong. If you are one of the 5% out there who
absolutely, positively and robotically responds to any and every
human being in the same manner all the time, you probably need to
loosen up. In fact, call me IMMEDIATELY and let's get that handled.
But see, knowing how most of us think, my guess is that about 80%
of you guys reading this are thinking you must be part of that 5%.
And you probably are not.
Test me here. The next time you leave the house, pay careful
attention to how you interact with men compared to how you interact
with women. My educated guess is that you'll note clear
differences that you may have not even noticed before.
That's because you're a FLIRT. And you're hard-wired to
be--practically from birth...seriously.
Heck, even BABIES flirt with MOTOS by nature. Just watch that
little tiny girl in the next booth try to get your attention the
next time you're at a restaurant.
Amazingly, flirting isn't even limited to hot women you are
attracted to, let alone only to women you've just met.
Since it's not sexually charged necessarily, just about anyone or
anything female could potentially be responded to "differently".
And they should be responded to "differently"...even if you've
known them for fifty years.
It's all about making women smile. It's about making them
comfortable with you. It's about giving them the distinct
privilege, accompanied by the subtle thrill, of having a MAN in
their presence.
Now, with THAT final piece of the puzzle in place, you can now see
how what I'll call "stage 2" flirting--the kind that involves a
little more sexual zing--is a natural outflow from this "different"
style of communication with women.
But as a man, you can modulate how that goes by LEADING as you
interact with women.
For instance, you might say something fun and challenging to
brighten her day. How does she respond?
If she responds in a manner that is decidedly DIFFERENT than how
she might respond to another female human being, then you've got a
willing accomplice.
If she's stone cold and about as neuter as a Styrofoam cup...well,
maybe not.
But if she responds powerfully to your leadership in the
conversation, you can then train yourself to recognize that as
potential interest of the decidedly NON-neuter kind.
At that point, get her number. Make plans to see her again. DO
SOMETHING rather than leave her hanging. Because if you do NOT do
something, you'll disappoint her.
Oh...and by the way...in case you haven't figured it out yet, all of
this logic works in REVERSE.
Have you been sitting around lately complaining that women should
"show more interest" in guys and/or "make it easier" for you to
approach them?
From now on, you know that if a woman is interacting with you in
ANY WAY that's DIFFERENT from how she would typically deal with
another woman, then you've got all the info you need. When women
act FEMININE toward you, they're flirting with you in their own
inimitable way.
After all, she probably won't whistle like a construction worker,
grab your crotch or use some line on you. At least probably not.
So with that in mind, give all that I've shared with you a try. I
promise you'll be blown away.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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