[X&Y] The Secret To Understanding Women <--Seriously
Published: Sun, 04/22/12
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: What if you knew what was going on inside women's
heads? What kind of "field vision" would that give you? Well
there's good news...you CAN understand women better.
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WHY MEN FAIL (DON'T BE THAT GUY)
You may already know that over 90% of all men FAIL at online
dating. That's a staggering number, for sure.
But when you know WHY so many guys fall flat on their faces, you
can easily make sure you're NOT one of them:
Adam Gilad has just written a special report (in his own inimitable
style) that's got you covered:
www.scotrecommends.com/adamgilad
It's a quick read, so I highly recommend that you log on to Adam's
site and grab the report.
It'll make the difference between meeting lots of great women vs.
feeling like you're sending messages into a "black hole"...
http://www.scotrecommends.com/adamgilad
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THE SECRET TO UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
It has been almost five years since that fateful springtime
morning when I opened my inbox to find a nice message from a
young woman somewhere in Canada.
The missive was a simple one, reading: "You understand women
better than most women do. It's like you are 'The Chick
Whisperer', or something."
Obviously, that particularly catchy phrase soon became the name of
the podcast for men that we already had in the planning stages.
But is this really some sort of special or even downright
'supernatural' gift that I have? Nah...understanding MOTOS (members
of the opposite sex) is really not as hard as it's cracked up to be.
In fact, the simple notion that most of us BELIEVE it is next to
impossible to really get inside the head of MOTOS and figure out
what is going on is probably--and disarmingly--the most basic reason
why we don't even bother to try.
Yet, the fact remains. In all seriousness, there really is no more
foolproof a way to rocket your success into the stratosphere when
it comes to dating, attraction and seduction than to understand the
opposite sex.
Put in plain English, if you want to "get dates" you have to "GET"
your dates.
So where do we start?
The baseline is as follows: Contrary to the message conveyed by
the titles of books like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus",
we as men and women are actually more ALIKE than different.
In fact, I'll be so bold as to say this. When it comes to
EMOTIONS, I believe men and women feel things very similarly. Cut
us and we all bleed red.
When something exciting happens, we're all excited. When someone
cuts us off in traffic, men and women both feel frustrated and
slightly violated.
Similarly, I think we all have largely similar needs and want
similar results in life. Maslow didn't have "his and her"
hierarchies, now did he?
We all breath the same air, drink the same water, and would like
to get the creditors to stop calling and the boss to start
promoting.
But you'd think that the opposite sex wasn't even classifiable as
"human" the way we are trained to think about them.
Lots of guys think if you follow a certain formula (which, perhaps
ironically, is typically devised 'in house' at Men, Inc.) then
we'll "get what we want" from women.
Meanwhile, at Women, Inc. all you do is follow "The Rules" and men
become your willing automatons.
Most of this brand of scheming is born of the notion that we as men
and women are essentially powerless when it comes to truly
understanding MOTOS.
The natural flow from this mindset is respectively assuming that we
are somewhere higher on the food chain than the opposite gender.
Therefore we become twisted into believing that they'll somehow fall
for our tactics.
But the problem is I wasn't kidding earlier. We're ALL human...and
more ALIKE than DIFFERENT. And whoever your MOTOS are, you aren't
going to "get what you want off of them" until you DESERVE WHAT YOU
WANT...as a human being.
To demonstrate this, here's another piece of the "puzzle".
Much of what we perceive as "differences" between men and women are
ACTUALLY 100% purely driven by social dynamics. That's
psycho-babble = for "we all buy into the pressures of the culture
we live in".
For example, men think women don't like sex. Wrong. Women like
sex as much if not more than men do. The "difference" is that
women are stigmatized as "sluts" if they demonstrate that, whereas
men are pretty much heroes to their peers if they "get laid" a lot.
Similarly, (and this is my personal favorite example) most guys
freely suppose that "women are the choosers" and "men are the
chasers", implying that women have all the power.
Not true. She OR he who has the highest quality options when it
comes to dating/procreating/etc. is the one who calls the shots.
In Online Dating Domination I've introduced to two guys I've who
literally have so many options with women that they hold parties
inviting 20 or so women from social media sites to their place
all at once--none of whom they've met yet.
Why?
Because there aren't enough hours in the day to evaluate the
dating potential of that many women separately...it has to be a
"bulk assessment".
Tell me...what did that last example do for your vision of the
stereotypical "hottie" at a bar rejecting guy after guy after guy
who tries to approach her?
But surely there are indeed REAL differences between men and women,
right? Of course...but the point here is to first build the
foundation that the similarities between genders FAR outweigh the
differences.
She doesn't want to be "used" for sex any more than he wants to be
"used" for his money.
Yet, we have to respect that women want a "provider" and men want a
woman who is physically attractive. And this is all perfectly
reasonable--MOTOS aren't "shallow" for having their preferences in
that regard.
The differences between genders, you see, tend to base themselves on
differences in reproductive roles and/or archetypal gender roles.
Shockingly, the differences themselves are even less complex than
most of us imagine. Have you ever noticed that both men and women
like to believe that their OWN respective gender is "easy to figure
out"? Well, that's because it's...um...true.
Really it comes down to this: Women want to feel secure and want a
man to LEAD. When you ask a woman what's wrong and she says
"nothing", you KNOW as a man that it's SOMETHING.
In her mind, it's your job to figure it out without her having to
take your hand and spell it out for you. That's all there is to it.
You must LEAD, and then you must be able to hold her and tell her
it's all going to be okay--and she has to be able to believe you.
In other words, you must PROVIDE in every way--not just materially
but emotionally as well.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: What if you knew what was going on inside women's
heads? What kind of "field vision" would that give you? Well
there's good news...you CAN understand women better.
=====
WHY MEN FAIL (DON'T BE THAT GUY)
You may already know that over 90% of all men FAIL at online
dating. That's a staggering number, for sure.
But when you know WHY so many guys fall flat on their faces, you
can easily make sure you're NOT one of them:
Adam Gilad has just written a special report (in his own inimitable
style) that's got you covered:
www.scotrecommends.com/adamgilad
It's a quick read, so I highly recommend that you log on to Adam's
site and grab the report.
It'll make the difference between meeting lots of great women vs.
feeling like you're sending messages into a "black hole"...
http://www.scotrecommends.com/adamgilad
=====
THE SECRET TO UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
It has been almost five years since that fateful springtime
morning when I opened my inbox to find a nice message from a
young woman somewhere in Canada.
The missive was a simple one, reading: "You understand women
better than most women do. It's like you are 'The Chick
Whisperer', or something."
Obviously, that particularly catchy phrase soon became the name of
the podcast for men that we already had in the planning stages.
But is this really some sort of special or even downright
'supernatural' gift that I have? Nah...understanding MOTOS (members
of the opposite sex) is really not as hard as it's cracked up to be.
In fact, the simple notion that most of us BELIEVE it is next to
impossible to really get inside the head of MOTOS and figure out
what is going on is probably--and disarmingly--the most basic reason
why we don't even bother to try.
Yet, the fact remains. In all seriousness, there really is no more
foolproof a way to rocket your success into the stratosphere when
it comes to dating, attraction and seduction than to understand the
opposite sex.
Put in plain English, if you want to "get dates" you have to "GET"
your dates.
So where do we start?
The baseline is as follows: Contrary to the message conveyed by
the titles of books like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus",
we as men and women are actually more ALIKE than different.
In fact, I'll be so bold as to say this. When it comes to
EMOTIONS, I believe men and women feel things very similarly. Cut
us and we all bleed red.
When something exciting happens, we're all excited. When someone
cuts us off in traffic, men and women both feel frustrated and
slightly violated.
Similarly, I think we all have largely similar needs and want
similar results in life. Maslow didn't have "his and her"
hierarchies, now did he?
We all breath the same air, drink the same water, and would like
to get the creditors to stop calling and the boss to start
promoting.
But you'd think that the opposite sex wasn't even classifiable as
"human" the way we are trained to think about them.
Lots of guys think if you follow a certain formula (which, perhaps
ironically, is typically devised 'in house' at Men, Inc.) then
we'll "get what we want" from women.
Meanwhile, at Women, Inc. all you do is follow "The Rules" and men
become your willing automatons.
Most of this brand of scheming is born of the notion that we as men
and women are essentially powerless when it comes to truly
understanding MOTOS.
The natural flow from this mindset is respectively assuming that we
are somewhere higher on the food chain than the opposite gender.
Therefore we become twisted into believing that they'll somehow fall
for our tactics.
But the problem is I wasn't kidding earlier. We're ALL human...and
more ALIKE than DIFFERENT. And whoever your MOTOS are, you aren't
going to "get what you want off of them" until you DESERVE WHAT YOU
WANT...as a human being.
To demonstrate this, here's another piece of the "puzzle".
Much of what we perceive as "differences" between men and women are
ACTUALLY 100% purely driven by social dynamics. That's
psycho-babble = for "we all buy into the pressures of the culture
we live in".
For example, men think women don't like sex. Wrong. Women like
sex as much if not more than men do. The "difference" is that
women are stigmatized as "sluts" if they demonstrate that, whereas
men are pretty much heroes to their peers if they "get laid" a lot.
Similarly, (and this is my personal favorite example) most guys
freely suppose that "women are the choosers" and "men are the
chasers", implying that women have all the power.
Not true. She OR he who has the highest quality options when it
comes to dating/procreating/etc. is the one who calls the shots.
In Online Dating Domination I've introduced to two guys I've who
literally have so many options with women that they hold parties
inviting 20 or so women from social media sites to their place
all at once--none of whom they've met yet.
Why?
Because there aren't enough hours in the day to evaluate the
dating potential of that many women separately...it has to be a
"bulk assessment".
Tell me...what did that last example do for your vision of the
stereotypical "hottie" at a bar rejecting guy after guy after guy
who tries to approach her?
But surely there are indeed REAL differences between men and women,
right? Of course...but the point here is to first build the
foundation that the similarities between genders FAR outweigh the
differences.
She doesn't want to be "used" for sex any more than he wants to be
"used" for his money.
Yet, we have to respect that women want a "provider" and men want a
woman who is physically attractive. And this is all perfectly
reasonable--MOTOS aren't "shallow" for having their preferences in
that regard.
The differences between genders, you see, tend to base themselves on
differences in reproductive roles and/or archetypal gender roles.
Shockingly, the differences themselves are even less complex than
most of us imagine. Have you ever noticed that both men and women
like to believe that their OWN respective gender is "easy to figure
out"? Well, that's because it's...um...true.
Really it comes down to this: Women want to feel secure and want a
man to LEAD. When you ask a woman what's wrong and she says
"nothing", you KNOW as a man that it's SOMETHING.
In her mind, it's your job to figure it out without her having to
take your hand and spell it out for you. That's all there is to it.
You must LEAD, and then you must be able to hold her and tell her
it's all going to be okay--and she has to be able to believe you.
In other words, you must PROVIDE in every way--not just materially
but emotionally as well.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.