[X&Y] Is The Opposite Gender "The Enemy"?
Published: Thu, 10/18/07
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IN THIS EDITION: Are we trying to meet women or declare war on
them? Who can tell? And the women aren't immune to this kind of
confusion, either. Find out what it all comes down to...
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IS THE OPPOSITE GENDER "THE ENEMY"?
With six billion other people sharing the planet with the
relatively insignificant number of us who are reading this
newsletter, you would think that most of us would naturally intuit
that men and women were designed to get along with each other.
After all, how else did we all get here?
Yet, if you look around at some of the "dating advice" and
"seduction training" that is popular nowadays--especially for the
guys--you'd think that the opposite sex were the Viet Cong or even
Al Qaida...only more mysterious and potentially dangerous.
Seriously, are we wanting to fill our lives with great women or
launch the Tet Offensive?
Who can be sure? After all, when guys get together to learn how to
divide and conquer...er...go meet women, it's almost universally called
a "boot camp". And who cares if the concept of "Sarging" was named
after a cat? It has a nice ring to it-at least in this context.
Some writings go so far as to openly use military-inspired imagery.
And whatever is going on, it had better be a covert "underground"
operation. If the women ever found out what was being
clandestinely strategized, our top-secret mobilization would be
rendered useless.
I wouldn't be a bit surprised if soon someone started marketing his
or her latest and greatest seduction product as "recently
declassified by the CIA". Actually, on second thought...too late.
Meanwhile, behind "enemy lines"--the whereabouts of which may be
poetically summarized as the "No Man's Zone"--the latest recon
reveals the insidious plot that the "Pinkos" (Emily would consider
this a compliment if taken literally, by the way) are scheming.
Basically, their plan is to get the Evil Male Empire to (gasp!)
DEFECT to their side. And they have their ways of making us talk.
And be more sensitive. And stop being so...well...masculine.
OK, that's enough. As much as I'm amusing myself to no end over
here, my stomach can only take so much.
Here it is: We're never going to get anywhere with the opposite
sex--especially the HIGHEST ECHELON thereof--if we can't friggin'
stand them.
Granted, maybe it's not all that dire. My baseline opinion is that
guys who dive headlong into the "pickup" community often end up
participating in more of a live version of "Halo" then anything
having to do with real relationships with women. Getting a bunch
of digits and/or e-mails at a club and then comparing scores with
your buddies at 2am sounds like a blast, frankly. But it's more
like "laser tag with a liquor license" than anything relevant to
attraction and seduction. Yet, become good at "pickup" and you
basically don't have to worry about even getting alone with a woman
ever again. So, then, it's actually not a "war on women" or
anything. I think most guys like women. This is more along the
lines of what does a dog do once he actually CATCHES the car he's
chasing?
And that, gentlemen, is exactly as far as "paint-by-numbers" pickup
game gets you. Welcome to the hidden issue at play here. The
"real life video game" is a lot of fun. But that still leaves the
women waiting for some men to actually care enough about THEM to
show up.
As for the ladies, a female friend of mine once summed up popular
"dating advice" for women quite well when she said, "I think all of
that stuff is pretty much designed to help women find closure after
they've been dumped." That was her words, not mine. Then again,
having just typed them with my own hand pretty much makes them my
words too, doesn't it?
Whatever happened to having confidence in the opposite gender? Did
that go away with the pandemic rise in lack of confidence in
OURSELVES that we see nowadays? Face it: two neuter creatures
CANNOT become sexually attracted to each other. Neuter and spay
your cats and dogs and they'll lay around the house staring at each
other. Then they'll eat. Then they'll take a nap. YOU, on the
other hand, don't necessarily have to live that lifestyle. You can
experience the fantastic depth life offers when you take a chance
and ENJOY the opposite gender because you EXPECT THE BEST from the
opposite gender.
Is that too optimistic for you? Yeah, well...think like that and you
may get burned here and there. After all, human nature transcends
the boundaries of sexuality. But it still beats sitting around
playing video games.
Be Good,
Scot
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