[X&Y] Are You An Average Guy With A Hot Woman, ?
Published: Sun, 12/09/07
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IN THIS EDITION: Are you an average guy with a hot woman? Here
are six ways you can tell for sure.
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SIX WAYS TO TELL YOU ARE AN AVERAGE GUY WITH A HOT WOMAN
All too often in the world of dating advice we focus on how to fix
what's going wrong. As a change of pace this time around, let's
consider how life looks through the eyes of a guy who is doing
something RIGHT.
If you are basically a rock star who looks like a GQ model, then
this particular newsletter isn't for you (or perhaps you can use
this for the now-dreaded "entertainment purposes only").
Whatever. Most of us aren't that guy, so on with it.
Here's the question du jour: Suppose you are a fairly average
dude. How *exactly* do you know that you are in the company of a
world-class hottie? Well, the obvious answer is, "Who cares?
What's important is that you like her." And that's all true, but
it doesn't make for a particularly interesting read.
So here below--cast to the wind with reckless abandon--is my
personally-crafted list of a half-dozen distinct ways you can tell
for sure the aforementioned phenomenon is going on:
1) FIRST CLASS TREATMENT
It's like you woke up famous or something. But you didn't. It's
not you, it's her. Everywhere you go you are getting the freakin'
"red carpet" rolled out for you. People---men and women---are going
out of their way to do special things for BOTH of you. This is
pretty much the ultimate manifestation of social proof. Among the
effects of this I've personally encountered are free drinks,
front-row seats, airline upgrades, special discounts and "backstage
passes". Often, if this particular phenomenon doesn't present
itself it's because the proverbial pendulum has swung the opposite
way, and...
2) ...PEOPLE YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HATE YOU FOR NO REASON
Well, yeah...there actually is a reason. And--once again--it's her.
And others are just jealous, of course. You can expect the "FU"
look from a lot of men. Don't take it personally. They wish they
were you, that's all. Never mind that with an attitude like theirs
they likely will NEVER BE "you", that's another newsletter.
Interestingly, when you are met with disgust by *other women* for no
real reason, it's often because THEY wish they were HER...which can
be a nice feeling if you let it be. Then again, it's equally as
likely that they are as envious of her persona as they are of her
male companionship. Nah...that can't be, can it?
3) MEN LOOK--A LOT--EVEN WHEN THEY'RE WITH A WOMAN
Ever get the feeling you were being watched? She has...a lot. And
you're about to share the experience. Men are pretty much
shameless, often blatantly snapping their heads around with an
audible "Day-um". Of course, some guys will even do this when
they have a woman standing right next to them. It's nuts. Some
guys with highly evolved confidence levels of their own will
acknowledge your good fortune either with a thumbs up or a "nice
job, dude". Usually, these are the same guys who do well with
women themselves (and there's a lesson in that somewhere).
4) PEOPLE CHALLENGE WHY SHE'S WITH YOU
They could be complete strangers. Then again, they could be your
"friends". Whoever "they" are, they will come right out and ask
the woman you are with why she's with a guy like you. The direct
version of this gambit plays out with questions like, "What do you
see in this guy?" or "What's a woman like YOU doing with a guy like
HIM?" Indirect iterations would include, "So how did YOU TWO ever
meet each other?" or "So how do you know each other?...I'm assuming
you aren't dating."
5) GUYS HIT ON HER AS SOON AS YOU STEP AWAY FOR A MINUTE
All you did was excuse yourself to the men's room. But when you
come back, some guy is chatting her up. Get used to it, that's the
law of the jungle. Always be gracious in these situations. Don't
be jealous or lose your cool...remember she's with you and it will
likely stay that way as long as you can continue to be a man and
separate yourself from the likes of men who do needy, tasteless
stuff like, oh...hit on other dude's women as soon as they excuse
themselves to the restroom. But heads up--it's not just the guys
who are interested because...
6) ...EVEN OTHER WOMEN FLIRT WITH HER
This is the wildest thing to witness I can think of, and by far the
most stunning dynamic of the five I listed. You can be in a bar, a
club, a restaurant or even an airport for that matter. Other women
will behave in a decidedly flirtatious manner towards the woman you
are with. The first few times this happens, you'll be in a state
of suspended disbelief. But there's no doubt. Typically, she's
getting flirted with by women more than YOU get flirted with by
women. The crazy part about that last part is that women are
likely flirting with you TEN TIMES as much as usual simply because
you are with her...and this bullet point is STILL true. And I
almost forgot...you'll actually get hit on by "lifestyle" couples
quite a bit also---especially if the two of you are affectionate.
The woman in such a couple will almost invariably initiate those
situations, I've learned.
You may experience a scenario like unto one of the examples above,
or all six. Moreover, stuff like this could happen once or twice
on occasion or practically constantly. Even if one such event
occurs, you probably have all the evidence you need that you are in
fact an average guy with a super hottie. And if you find that ALL
OF THE ABOVE happen with some regularity, then feel free to
calibrate the truth of the matter accordingly. Whether it all is
rather enjoyable to you or irritating to no end is a personal
decision. Choose wisely.
Got stories of your own? Additions to the list? Think I've got it
all wrong? E-mail your thoughts to scot@datetoorder.com
Be Good,
Scot
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