[X&Y] Hide The Axes And Chainsaws
Published: Wed, 11/07/07
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IN THIS EDITION: When you make your bed, you've got to sleep in
it. Literally.
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To that end, I've just posted a specific request for your input
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Now on to this week's newsletter...
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HIDE THE AXES AND CHAINSAWS
It's easy for a guy to become entirely fascinated by the concept of
becoming a pickup artist. The initial curiosity is, of course,
whether or not a guy actually can "pull" women with the ease and
fantastically mind-blowing results he's told is possible. For a
good number of guys, once they learn some very real skills they
soon come to the clear and delightful realization that, "Whoa.
This stuff DOES work."
And it's no secret that I readily acknowledge that reality. No
doubt: If you work hard enough at "pickup mastery", you are likely
going to be able to get the job done.
Next, typically, a guy with newfound PUA skill proceeds to make
good use of it. Same night pulls. One night stands. Threesomes.
Foursomes. Moresomes.
And to the average guy who has thus far not had a whole lot of
positive experience with MOTOS, this stuff is nothing short of
tantalizing even in mere principle. And actually getting somewhere
in real life with it all? Outrageous!
No argument.
But perhaps an even more powerful reality--and one that's talked
about much less often in marketing copy--is this: That lifestyle is
not exactly what lots and lots of guys have in mind when they
decide they want to "get better with women".
Some of us want quality instead of quantity. In the back of our
minds, we all pretty much know that there are TONS of women who
aren't "easy pulls". Not coincidentally, they are often the most
desirable women overall by any measure. If the mindset is that of
having a great woman around (preferably the all-around GREATEST of
all time), building a shared history with someone we can have cool
adventures with, harboring NO CONCERN over "sexual scheduling"
(stay tuned to the blog for more on that), and--go figure--maybe
having a real, live kid or two, then the "PUA training" at best has
a shelf life.
To those of you guys who take the long view from the very
beginning, mad love atcha. You may have missed out on the
smorgasbord, but you've saved yourself the heartburn.
Because here it is: If you jump headfirst into the PUA lifestyle,
someday you just might decide it's time for a change. It's
altogether possible--if not downright likely--that you'll one day
decide to uninstall the "revolving door". And you'll be ready to
step up to attracting the highest echelon of women out there.
Or, equally likely, you may instead walk headfirst into a brick
wall when you least expect it. I have no idea what that "brick
wall's" name is going to be, but I do know this: She will be the
most amazing creature you've ever encountered. You'll be pretty
much distracted from the "mirror foggers" in your black book and
ready to cancel your entire upcoming schedule. She'll catch you
completely off-guard--a total surprise. She'll blow the other
"options" you have away, and when you try to spend "quantity time"
with those other women, your mind will be firmly in touch with the
fact you'd rather be somewhere else.
Don't confuse this phenomenon with "oneitis". What we're talking
about here is brought about by having LOTS of options, resulting in
CLEAR RECOGNITION when "perfect imperfection" is in your midst.
And now, the most crucial piece: What will HER reaction to YOU be?
I hate to break it to you, but any incredibly sharp woman's
response to a "recovering PUA" will be something to the effect of,
"Very nice. But I'm hiding the axes and chainsaws."
What's up with that?
Lookit. Let's say you were convicted twenty years ago of a brutal
axe murder. Or a "chainsaw massacre". But you got out on parole
recently because of "good behavior". If I met you we might become
friends. You know, have a beer...hit the links with a couple buds.
And perhaps you would tell me that the past is gone, you've had a
"conversion experience" and you are now a changed man. I'd be cool
with that.
But I'd also hide the axes and chainsaws.
A great woman's reaction to a guy who has lived the PUA lifestyle,
but who is now "ready for a change", will be quite similar to what
I've just described.
She's going to watch you very closely. And she's going to take a
LONG FREAKING time to completely trust your new frame of mind. In
fact, she may NEVER fully trust it. And she has that right.
Think about your entire life ahead before you dive head first into
a particular lifestyle choice (even if you are 55 and
newly-divorced). This is very much the kind of educated mindset
that you must have before getting a tattoo, for example. The
decisions you make now must be weighed against future
possibilities. When it comes to women, when you make your bed
you've got to sleep in it...literally. Deserve what you want.
And I know there are a lot of ladies who read this newsletter.
Rest assured that all of the above is fully transferable.
Be Good,
Scot
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