[X&Y] It's All In The Eyes
Published: Thu, 05/22/08
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IN THIS EDITION: While vacationing in Mexico, I've asked my new
friend Michael Lee to "sit in" for this newsletter. Get ready for
something completely different.
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MICHAEL LEE SITS IN FOR SCOT McKAY
If you've been following this newsletter for some time, you've
probably figured out that I don't weave stuff like NLP and hypnosis
into the equation much, at least not intentionally.
Unfortunately, the "dark side" of those practices often leads to
manipulation for purely selfish gain, so I've historically avoided
talking about them.
Recently, however, I happened upon Michael Lee's website. Michael
presents a framework for the secrets of persuasion in such a
compelling (or is that persuasive?) manner that I was drawn in
immediately.
He talks about human interaction at the unconscious level in a
decidedly refreshing and dare I say character-based manner, boldly
discussing all sorts of ideas--including both NLP and hypnosis--in
a way that's accessible and focuses on building pure, natural
social skill while learning to protect oneself from manipulation.
I couldn't help but make the analogy of a "white hat" hacker hired
by law enforcement or an anti-virus software company to "reverse
engineer" harmful stuff and rid the world of it.
And once I realized that dating, attraction and relationships are
MAJOR interests of his, it was "game on".
Before you know it, I was trading e-mails with Michael and had his
20 Day Persuasion course on my hard drive. This guy's material is
SO on-point and jam-packed with real-world practicality that I
wanted you to benefit from knowing him also.
Look for what I anticipate to be an EPIC Virtuosity program from
Michael in the near future. Until then, here's a no-nonsense
newsletter from him with loads of info that you can put to work for
you starting RIGHT NOW:
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IT'S ALL IN THE EYES: BUILD TRUST AND BE LIKED -- by Michael Lee
Of all the nonverbal communication signals, eye body language is
probably the most fascinating. They say the eyes are "the windows
to the soul."
I agree, since your eyes pretty much reveal your inner thoughts and
feelings.
Even more amazing is the fact that you can use eye body language to
build trust and make people like you. Here's how:
MAKING EYE CONTACT IS THE KEY
You must make eye contact around 70% of the time if you want to
convey your sincerity and respect. Avoiding eye contact
unconsciously gives the impression of dishonesty, shyness, anxiety,
or even humiliation.
If you continuously avoid making eye contact, you might be
perceived as someone who is insecure, unreliable or even deceitful.
Although that may not be the case, that's the normal impression
that people have of someone who can't look at them straight in the
eye.
If you're too timid or are afraid to make eye contact now, start by
just look at the bridge of the nose or the portion between their
eyes, and they'll think that you're looking at them.
BE AWARE OF YOUR EYE BODY LANGUAGE
Some people unconsciously send body language signals that offend
other people, so be sensitive to your eye movements. Don't roll
your eyes, as this indicates irritation.
Your eyes glow if you're in a pleasant or joyous state, and they
look dull when you're lonely or depressed. So if you're having
problems or are in a bad mood, your eyes will unconsciously send
signals of your mood or state of mind.
REVEAL YOUR EYES
Avoid wearing sunglasses, because covering up the eyes might give
the impression that you're hiding something. Since eyes are very
expressive, not allowing people to see your eyes' implies that you
don't want them to know how you feel or think.
It also makes the other party feel uneasy because they don't know if
you're looking at them or not.
KNOW WHAT PEOPLE'S EYE BODY LANGUAGE MEANS
How do you know if people are paying attention to you? You'll know
it when they establish eye contact while either nodding their
heads, smiling, and/or leaning closer.
If they raise their eyebrows, they might want to say or clarify
something, end the conversation, or have disagreed with something
you've said.
People who deliberately evade your eyes and show no intention of
giving you a glance are probably not interested in talking to you,
so it may be a good idea to look elsewhere for interest.
DON'T LOOK IF THEY DON'T LIKE TO BE LOOKED AT
Be aware of people who might get offended simply by looking at
them. Some people avoid eye contact because of extreme shyness; so
don't add to their discomfort by staring at them.
Some cultures may consider eye contact a negative or disrespectful
act, so be sensitive when you're meeting people of different
cultures and adjust accordingly to their beliefs.
Aside from reading eye body language, check other nonverbal signals
so you'll have a more accurate assessment of what they're thinking
or feeling.
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Mega thanks to Michael for being our guest.
I really love discovering new voices in the world of dating and
seduction advice, especially when they bring something completely
different to the table.
If you go to Michael's website, you'll find tons of ingenious ways
to improve your interactions with people immediately.
I'm telling you, some of the secrets he shares are so simple yet so
right-on that you'll wonder how you've lived as many years on Earth
as you have without them. And they're all being GIVEN AWAY:
http://xandycom.mikecpa.hop.clickbank.net
Now, fair warning: Once you start reading about Michael's 20 Day
Persuasion program you might become as intrigued as I was.
If you decide to get his program, let's just say you will NOT be
disappointed.
I'm going to avoid all the mushy kudos and give you something
purely objective to sink your teeth into: Having seen how
intensely value-packed and overwhelmingly well-produced 20 Day
Persuasion is, I was personally inspired to build some improvements
into my own programs and their member's areas.
Basically, I have yet to see more bang for the buck than Michael
offers...anywhere.
In addition to his absolutely golden persuasion training (included
are both e-book AND audiobook versions), he also includes such a
rich array of bonuses that you're likely to think this could be the
only setup you'll ever need in order to get social dynamics down to
a science.
And you could be right.
He's got seven more entire e-books on leadership, concentration,
motivation, and more...even the entire e-book version of "Think And
Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill (which I have no idea how he pulled
off).
And not to let the cat out of the proverbial bag, but Michael even
gives you more UNANNOUNCED BONUSES after you get the keys to the
expertly-crafted Member's Area, which to me is just pure class.
And you'll be stoked about ALL OF THEM.
So here's where all of this has been hiding out:
http://xandycom.mikecpa.hop.clickbank.net
Whether you set yourself up with Michael's 20 Day Persuasion
bonanza or just take all the no-cost social skill tips you can
carry, this will make your day.
OK...that's all for now.
We'll be back from Mexico in a few days. If you are in Monterrey,
drop me an e-mail sometime today and let's grab a cold Pacifico
somewhere.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Remember, we REALLY, REALLY want your opinion on how we can
make LIVE EVENTS for you truly great. Leave your input and win
prizes:
http://www.virtuositylive.com
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