[X&Y] Will You Be Ready When The "Big Deal" Comes Along?
Published: Sun, 06/15/08
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IN THIS EDITION: Most of us start off with a real need for
increasing our skill with women. Then we start seeing some
success. But THEN...something happens that stops us dead in our
tracks. How will YOU handle it?
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Now, on to a subject that you won't hear talked about much elsewhere...
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ARE YOU READY FOR THE "BIG DEAL" TO COME ALONG?
Once upon a time, back in around 1996, I had just switched careers
from the "vida loca" of working with gang kids to becoming an IT
sales guy.
As I went around to various site walkthroughs and bid openings, I
had the opportunity to meet most of my local competitors.
To be honest, most of them were pretty good people. Contrary to
conventional wisdom, I even made friends with some of them and had
a beer or two from time to time.
After all, these were the kind of people I had plenty in common with.
Rarely did we talk "business" per se, but it was fun to shoot the
breeze about the latest technology, etc.
Most of my friends had read the same books on how to be a good
sales professional as I did.
Because of that--and in part because of the nature of the business we
were in--we all seemed to know that our customers were intimidated by
this newfangled "Internet" stuff, so gaining their trust was
all-important.
What's more, we all knew--as if instinctively--that our customers
were really excited about what the Internet and digital
communications meant to their business.
As such, our job was not to force the issue but rather to simply help
them get what they needed.
As you can guess, I had some worthy competition for sure.
And we'd all go around our metro area winning a few deals and
losing a few...usually to the tune of about $10-$25K a shot.
Then one day, something ridiculous happened.
One of the largest school districts in the area announced that they
were doing a MAJOR infrastructure upgrade.
Their entire telecommunications system would be replaced, and a
state-of-the-art computer network system would be implemented
featuring cutting-edge video for "distance learning". (Remember,
this was 1996.)
At the pre-bid conference, the twenty or thirty competitors in
attendance quickly realized that this deal was different.
It was going to be over a MILLION DOLLARS.
Over the course of the next few weeks while the bid was out,
something wild happened.
Those same "friends" of mine didn't want to go get a beer anymore.
Instead, I was getting third-hand information from the prospective
customer that my company's business practices had been questioned
by other competitors, sometimes along with my personal integrity.
Concurrently, stories of "special favors" having been granted to
the school district's superintendent, sets of golf clubs
mysteriously appearing on the doorsteps of board members and even
rumors of "under the table" deals had surfaced.
As some competitors were weeded out through the process, claims of
certain systems' capabilities were being openly exaggerated--preying
on the customer's lack of technical expertise as a public entity
seeking to implement very new technology.
Now here's the crazy thing: EVERY SINGLE COMPETITOR for this deal
KNEW what worked already in the sales world. And what WORKED was
the OPPOSITE of what was going on here.
If you represent yourself and the product with integrity, the
customer WANTS to buy. And if you take care of them, they'll buy
again and again.
What's more, when it comes to "high-ticket" sales, the "used car guy"
approach flat-out fails...every single time. "Badmouthing" the
competition and bribing people are likewise major "no-nos".
But putting a seven-figure price tag on this particular deal had
changed things.
Suddenly, even seasoned professionals were back to square
one...acting like hungry "newbies" whose next pack of ramen noodles
depended upon "closing".
Admittedly, it was hard NOT to see dollar signs. For just about
every salesperson involved, landing this deal would mean a MASSIVE
commission check--probably equal to the rest of the entire year's
pay combined.
But when the focus regressed to fantasizing about the joy of
winning combined with the fear of loss, most involved with this
million dollar deal saw every bit of sales training they had ever
received go out the window.
They had been going "by the book", but "the book" didn't have a
chapter in it to prepare them for the "big time".
SO WHY AM I TELLING YOU THIS?
Success with women can follow a very similar pattern.
When we first decide we want to get better with women, we learn
what we think is going to get us SOMEWHERE as quickly as possible.
Then, we really do start seeing some success. We start attracting
some pretty decent women.
I mean for SOME of us, going from zero to reasonable success simply
involves becoming motivated to overcome "approach anxiety" and
actually ASK for phone numbers from women.
And what do you know? Women REALLY DO give us guys their phone
number pretty often...when we ask.
And once we start actually meeting some women, we think we've learned
enough to get by. Just like the salesperson who gains "mastery"
over getting his or her share of the mid-range deals to be had out
there.
But here's the BIG QUESTION.
How are YOU going to react when you somehow find yourself face to
face with the GREATEST WOMAN you've EVER IMAGINED...and she's
INTO YOU?
Are you REALLY going to be able to "fly by instruments" and TRUST
that what you have learned about succeeding with women is still
going to work?
OR...does everything you've ever learned about attraction and
seduction go out the window as you revert to "trying to impress"
her and "playing it safe" so you won't blow it.
Based on the significant numbers of guys who write to me telling me
that they can get average women all day long, but NEVER seem to
make it work with the women they are TRULY most fascinated by, my
guess is that this is a MAJOR, MAJOR widespread problem.
Really, what we're talking about here is becoming the type of guy
who is SO CONFIDENT in the TRUTH regarding what works with women that
he NEVER SECOND GUESSES that truth when the chips are down.
Ultimately, some guys are "faking it 'til they make it" in their
interactions with women.
They learn some cool stuff, but it never really becomes HABIT. It
never really becomes PART OF WHO THEY ARE.
But here's the thing.
When you know that the masculine, confident man of high-character
who inspires confidence in women REALLY DOES deserve the highest
echelon of women--and when being that guy has become HABIT for you,
then there's no falling back to your old ways.
Instead of needing to re-read the directions and having to ask
"What do I do next?" every time, you'll AUTHENTICALLY be the man
who has TRULY BECOME the one who truly repesensents what great women
want in a man.
So when you find yourself face-to-face with the woman you've always
dreamed of, there's no change of plans.
"One-itis" failures go OUT THE WINDOW when that's the case also, by
the way.
There is ZERO deviation between how you handle average women versus
extremely desirable women.
All because you have MADE A HABIT of being attractive.
Said differently, it's no longer about WHAT YOU DO, it's about WHO
YOU ARE.
Succeeding with the greatest woman you've ever known is NOT a "game".
It's a radical lifestyle change.
Authentic, consistent representation of who you are and what you're
about wins the "big deals" in business, even as competitors fall
apart at the seams.
And the exact same is true when it comes to getting it right with
the woman who is a "big deal" to you.
Either you have internalized what makes you attractive, or you'll
come undone.
Welcome to why SO MANY of the most desirable women on Earth have an
INFINITELY HARDER TIME finding a great man than even average women.
What about you? Can you meet this challenge? Can you make a HABIT
of doing what it takes to succeed with women that becomes authentic?
If you can, you'll set yourself apart as a being ready for the "big
deal".
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That's a REALLY good set-up I have for you this week guys. Get in
on that one.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. The newest The Chick Whisperer with Carlos Xuma is in the
can. All that's left to do is edit it.
This means two things:
1) If you want in on the special talked about in Episode 20 with
Dave M., you have about 24 hours.
2) If you're on the e-mail subscription list from Feedburner you'll
know when the show is out, otherwise check in with iTunes over the
next 24-48 hours or at the feed itself which is here:
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