[X&Y] Tricks, Techniques And Truth...
Published: Sun, 05/18/08
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IN THIS EDITION: Emily and I are vacationing in Mexico for the
week. In fact, if you are in the Chihuahua, Hermosillo, Saltillo or
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We'd love to meet you.
While we're out, I asked my good friend Martin Merrill to sit in for
me.
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MARTIN MERRILL SITS IN FOR SCOT McKAY
OK, guys. Coming off recent election to my "Top Ten Most Underrated
Dating Gurus" list, I've asked Martin Merrill to write some killer
content for you this time.
Some of you may know Martin's name thanks to his popular book called
Make Women Laugh, an excerpt from which I proudly offer as a bonus
with several X & Y Communications books and programs.
Well, TODAY marks the day that Martin is finally releasing his EPIC
COMPLETE PROGRAM for men, the intriguingly-named "Dating Voyance".
I'll tell you more about that below. For now, enjoy this from
Martin:
(By the way, see the blog--linked to above--to find out who
the other nine "unsung heroes" of dating are)...
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TRICKS, TECHNIQUES AND TRUTH --by Martin Merrill
A frequent mistake many guys (especially beginners) make in dating
is to put too much emphasis on "tricks and techniques". They think
by throwing out a few "lines", women will be attracted to them as
if by magic.
We all know that magicians have their routines during their
performances, but dating is not a performance and "pick-up
routines" are not what dating women is all about.
There are two big problems with relying on "tricks" (i.e. a line, a
routine, an action, etc.).
Firstly, how do you know which trick to pick at what time?
Sure, each routine is supposed to be used at certain stage for a
certain purpose, but different women may respond differently to you
in the same situation just as the same women may respond to you
differently in different situations.
This is why guys get puzzled and say "that thing doesn't work!" (And
I'm not even talking about that fact that you have to match a routine
to your own appearance and style.)
A lot of men follow dating techniques blindly, without questioning
whether these tricks even apply to their particular situation or not.
And they only want to know the "what to do" and rarely bother to ask
the "why do it", let alone how to modify the strategies in order to
make them work better in different scenarios.
Secondly, after taking some time to learn the different "structured
games", "methods", or "systems" of dating, you'll feel as if there
is a sea of dating knowledge out there that takes a lifetime to learn.
Many guys get overwhelmed and lose confidence this way.
But realize this: You DON'T have to learn a lot (and certainly not
everything) to be MUCH better at dating than you currently are, and
you DON'T have to do everything right.
For example, you'll often find that if the initial interaction with
a woman goes well, she will help you find excuses for your mistakes
(which in theory could have ruined the date) later on.
And the "proper dating process" is not complicated at all, contrary
to what many people believe.
You see, most of these "methods", "systems" and techniques were
only invented in recent years.
Have you ever wondered: "How did some guys get good at dating or
'pick up' 10 or 20 years ago?"
I mean they didn't have Internet, ebooks, dating blogs, online
articles, forums, home study courses, coaching, bootcamps... How
did they cope with it?
The fact is, there have always been men who are NATURALLY good with
women (now we label them with the term "naturals"), and most of the
early PUAs (The term "PUA" was coined in the 70/80s and only became
popular in recent years) were almost all "naturals".
Obvious they didn't invent "system" and "methods" right from the
start, and they didn't make up or exchange routines as much (if at
all) as people nowadays do.
They do NOT constantly check what "stages" they're in and they do
NOT follow any standardized structure of dating.
What they had and relied on can be best described as an "instinct"
- an "instinct" about how women will think and respond to whatever
they say or do.
Some of these instincts were wrong, which contributed to their
learning experience, but most of them were more accurate than that
of "a usual man".
As time went by, some of these naturals came together to form
"communities" and compared notes, and soon "systems" were
developed, and more tricks and routines were added as the community
grew larger.
So as you can see, the methods, tricks and techniques that you're
learning now today are based on the REVERSE-ENGINEERED behaviors of
naturals' instincts.
The question is, what is this "instinct"?
Simply stated, it's an instinct of understanding female nature and
behavior. And that's what REALLY matters.
If you have a deep understanding of women, you no longer need to
care about the tricks and routines because you'll always know what
to say or do at any time to move a woman to the direction you want;
but if you don't, no amount of techniques can carry you all the way
from start to finish.
You may be able to "win a few cases" but the tricks are not YOU and
won't help you every time.
For example, it's a woman's nature to often throw arguments at you
without looking for a specific response.
Whenever you sense it, all you need to do is to simply ignore them
or joke about it, instead of taking it seriously and fishing out a
great line from your "repertoire" to counter their arguments.
The fact is, once you truly understand women, you'll know the
underlying principles behind all the strategies and be able to pick
the right ones or modify them on the fly.
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As you can already guess, Martin is one of those guys who thinks
COMPLETELY DIFFERENTLY about dating and seduction than most.
I've had the chance to take an advance look at his brand-new Dating
Voyance program, and it's a mind blower.
Think "clairvoyance", only in the dating sense, and you've got the
idea. My instinct tells me that this may be exactly what the doctor
ordered f you have been heavily involved with Seduction
Community PUA training in the past only to ultimately find out it
wasn't for you after all.
Find out all about it, and watch some complimentary vids that I must
say are LOADED DOWN with value, by visiting Martin here:
http://xandycom.crsurge.hop.clickbank.net
OK, I have to tell you that TODAY was the initial launch day for
Dating Voyance, and Martin is rolling out the red carpet with some
amazing bonuses (to which I'm a proud contributor) and a healthy
launch discount.
That discount is going away on the 27th I'm told, and that's a firm
date. So be among the first to get in on this. Having Martin's
insight raked into the barn can only mean a MASSIVE EDGE for you
when it comes to truly applying the skills you have in the field.
So here's that link again:
http://xandycom.crsurge.hop.clickbank.net
Great stuff.
Next time, I have something else COMPLETELY DIFFERENT lined up for
you.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Did you check out our video on LIVE EVENTS yet and weigh in
with your thoughts? Please do...that's how we make these future
events GREAT for YOU!
http://www.virtuositylive.com
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