[X&Y] Every Woman's Fantasy...Can You Fulfill It For Her?
Published: Tue, 07/29/08
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on today's newsletter. Enjoy...
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EVERY WOMAN LIVES IN A ROMANTIC FANTASY...
--by JAE ELLIS
...and is waiting to fall in love with one.
In fact, it's perfectly valid to consider that all human beings
live in a fantasy of some sort.
However, for us as men becoming more successful with women and
dating, it's most important to realize that all women have some
kind of romantic ideal: a script or story about how their love life
is supposed to go.
And, for the most part, they think it's true.
Why does this matter?
It's critical to get this at a gut level if you want a woman to
fall in love with you.
In fact, if you aren't willing to be responsible for the experience
women have when interacting with you, and the story they get to
tell their friends and family about you, then you're leaving
yourself at the mercy of external circumstances.
In other words, either choose to be responsible for creating the
romantic experience she's hungry for, or else you'll be leaving it
up to chance whether or not she'll see her interactions with you in
that way.
So, what is the romantic fantasy they're living in?
You can find the most common themes to women's romantic fantasies
in romance novels and movies. Sex And The City, 27 Dresses, The
Wedding Date, Pretty Woman, etc, etc.
Romance sells so well because it speaks to women's ideals.
It gives them the range of emotions they're looking for and
validates their hopes and beliefs.
And at a deeper it level reinforces the social programming they've
had since their early childhood exposure to Disney and storybooks.
At the end of the day, they want to feel like you were destined to
be together. Like your connection is significant, possibly even in
a spiritual way. Like you were meant for each other.
So what should you do about this?
Be aware of and responsive to this when you're communicating.
Every woman lives in a romantic fantasy. She's "already always"
waiting for the romantic hero, and the love story.
If you can really get related to the mental place where women are
listening from, you can cause powerful results in your
relationships with them.
Here are a few ideas you can use right away in order to get a sense
of this:
1) MAKE EVERY DATE WITH HER AN ADVENTURE
Give up on the traditional dinner and a movie. It sucks.
Instead, take her on one of the following, from the very first
date: rafting or kayaking, go-cart racing, mini golf, salsa dance
lesson, swing dance lesson, treasure hunt, test drive fast cars,
hot air balloon, surfing, dune buggy or ATV ride, amusement park,
city tour (even if you're locals), kite flying, bicycle trek,
skiing or snowboarding, wine festival, or even a farmers market...
you can cook something delicious together after you're done
shopping.
2) KEEP THE DETAILS OF DATES A SURPRISE
MSay something like "you'll see" if she asks. Tell her what to wear
for the event. Keep it a mystery, so she gets to anticipate. Keep
her guessing. Then go do one of those cool date ideas above.
3) LEAD, BUT GIVE HER A CHANCE TO PARTICIPATE
While it is important to be a man and lead, remember to give her
the space to participate.
If your woman is particularly confident and/or dominant, she may
want to set up some of the dates, or run the show a little bit.
Let her do it when this happens, and let yourself enjoy the
experience. Remember she wants to impress you too.
4) LET YOUR PASSION RUN WILD IN THE BEDROOM
Get in touch with your inner animal and ravish her.
One of the fastest ways to get women bragging about you to anyone
and everyone who will listen is if you're giving her great sex,
both physically and emotionally.
To that end, here's a huge tip: give her the gift of knowing she
drives you wild. I mean really let her turn you on when the
clothes come off, like you can't help yourself.
Grab her and be dominant in bed, or, let her pounce on you. Keep
it passionate and energetic, either way.
Every woman wants to feel like her lover is so attracted to her, he
can't keep his hands off her. Validate her feminine allure.
5) SEND FLOWERS...BUT NOT TO HER THIS TIME
If you're already in a relationship (and by this I mean a
LONG-TERM, EXCLUSIVE one), have flowers delivered on her birthday...
TO HER MOM.
Include a card that says something like "Thank you for bringing
_______ into the world today. You did all the work, and I am ever
grateful."
Your woman will hear about it roughly 30 seconds after her mom
reads the card, and the rest of the family about a minute after
that.
They'll be wondering when you plan on proposing, and debating who
will be chosen as the maid of honor.
--Jae Ellis
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We talk a lot around here about getting outside of our own heads as
guys and truly starting to understand women. And check it out,
the AskRomeo team is one of the very few who, like ours here at X &
Y Communications, actually coaches both men and women.
This means that Jae definitely has it going on as far as having a
real grasp of how to succeed with women at the DEEPEST level.
For years, the AskRomeo team has focused on running live seminars
all over the world.
I'm excited to tell you that Jae is now, at long last, about to
launch his very first program TOMORROW.
I don't want to give away all the details, but it's gonna be like
having an AskRomeo seminar of your VERY OWN...to watch and listen to
whenever you'd like and to consult again and again.
You can get the lowdown on that right here:
http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/askromeo
When you click that link, you are going to find tons of killer
video material that just might give you some new perspectives on
your game...all F-R-E-E.
And here's the cool part...Jae and his team are holding a "speed of
implementation" contest.
Get this... The 3 people with the best results from all the videos
and content that get posted on the AskRomeo.com blog will win a
trip to LA in September with the AskRomeo.com team. Definitely get
in on that.
Here's that link again:
http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/askromeo
So grab a handful of all that. And I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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P.P.S Want some more insight into what's going on in women's minds?
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to "emily@aweber.com". It's not exactly like spying in on the
women's locker room...but you get the idea.
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