[X&Y] BE Murphy's Law
Published: Sun, 08/03/08
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IN THIS EDITION: Most of us think of "Murphy's Law" as something
that happens to us. It's especially easy to apply "Murphy's Law"
to our lives with women, isn't it? Well, instead of running from
the "law", it's time to go into "law enforcement" for a change...
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BE MURPHY'S LAW
[Note: The following is an excerpt from the upcoming book Chick
Whispering, which will be a pre-launch bonus for those who get in
on the new relationship management program. Enjoy.]
I've become convinced that most guys spend their entire lives
feeling like victims of "Murphy's Law" when it comes to attracting
and maintaining relationships with women.
Surely you know Murphy well yourself. He's the guy who famously
proclaimed, "Anything that can go wrong will go wrong, and at the
worst possible time."
I'll be the first to admit, Murphy probably was on to something.
After all, whenever I get into the shortest line at the bank, post
office or grocery store, it's amazing how it magically becomes the
longest line simply because I'm standing in it.
Invariably, the guy in front of me has his credit card declined,
forgot something in the car, or needs "manager approval".
And of course, this always happens when I have somewhere else to be
in ten minutes.
Really, it happens to the best of us, doesn't it?
Your tire goes flat in the middle of the desert at 2am.
The airline's computers are a mess at the check-in counter and you
miss the last plane out for the night as a result. And tomorrow
morning is the Big Meeting.
You go to a restaurant specifically because they have the most
amazing prime rib in town. And when you order the waiter informs
you that they 86ed prime rib ten minutes ago.
Murphy's Law.
How does it apply to your dating life?
You wait and wait in order to get the gumption to approach a woman
on the first day of class. Finally, after a week of getting your
act together, you decide "today's the day".
Then you see her in the hallway holding hands with some other guy.
Or, you discover a woman online whose profile outshines all others.
You take an extra day or two crafting the most killer first email
of all time. You go to send it to her, and her profile is gone.
Or, you've actually MET a great woman. You think that things are
going great.
In fact, you decide she's pretty much everything you've ever wanted
in a woman. She was even hinting already that she wanted an
exclusive relationship.
Just when you're forming the perfect words in the mirror to use in
order to make that a reality, the phone rings. She tells you her
ex-boyfriend called and they're getting back together.
The simple fact is that Murphy's Law is a metaphor we typically use
to describe how we've been VICTIMIZED in some way.
By now, you know how I feel about having a "victim's mindset".
Let's just say that women aren't attracted to it.
Now, perhaps for the first time in your life, imagine what would
happen if instead of being VICTIMIZED by Murphy's Law, you instead
joined Murphy's "law enforcement team".
What if you could BE Murphy's Law?
Relax. I'm not going to tell you "victimize" someone. This is
all about YOU.
What if stuff started going RIGHT for you at the BEST possible time?
If you're talking about attracting great women and keeping them in
your life, you're probably talking about being a man who SUCCEEDS
where others MISSTEP.
Every guy isn't going to get every woman he wishes for.
This, by definition, means that were you to succeed with a
particularly amazing woman, Murphy's Law will have applied to every
other guy who had his eye on her.
This is what I mean by BEING Murphy's Law.
When I was in the business world, I came up with a mindset that
changed my life. When making decisions I considered the following:
What decision would my competitors LEAST want me to make?
That's what BEING Murphy's Law looks like.
And sure enough, there were times when a massive bid opportunity
would emerge and several companies would slave away to get their
best offers in the door.
Then, because of some technicality yet another company would surface
at the eleventh hour, their offer being admitted to the competition.
Almost invariably, that company who came out of nowhere just days
before the award had been planned would win it. Usually right when
another firm thought it had the "inside track" to getting the
contract.
All I knew is that I'd much rather be that "eleventh hour" company
than one of the others.
Why?
Because that's what competitors dreaded. Invariably, that last bid
is typically allowed because all other bidders' proposals were
deficient in some way that Johnny Come Lately offered a solution for.
Again...Murphy's Law.
And therein lies my point.
When it comes to getting what you want when others want it, SOMEONE
is going to get what they want.
SOMEONE is going to--if even by default--act as the "enforcer" of
Murphy's Law while the others suffer under its iron fist.
That SOMEONE may as well be YOU.
Here's your challenge. From now on, BE Murphy's Law.
When you see that great woman online, envision all the other guys
out there puzzling over what to write her. You may even visualize
all the other "Mr. Nice Guy" or "Mr. Creepy Guy" emails flooding
her inbox.
Then, without hesitation, read that woman's profile, find what
catches your eye about it, challenge her with a creative first
e-mail...and expect results.
Be the guy who enthralls her enough to make her want to hide her
profile for now--even as other guys are yet in mid-sentence typing to
her.
When you see that amazing woman at the airport, realize that 95% of
the other men around you would love to talk to her also...but won't
have the guts.
Walk up to her, introduce yourself and be the one man who is the
"decision maker" for all the other guys who took too much time
gathering themselves.
The most phenomenal MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) on Earth
are ALL going to end up with SOMEONE. That is to say, SOMEONE is
going to succeed where others wonder what went wrong at the worst
possible time.
That SOMEONE should be YOU.
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Thanks as always for reading, and be sure to keep an eye on iTunes
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Be Good,
Scot
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