[X&Y] Do Good Looking Guys Get All The Breaks?
Published: Wed, 08/27/08
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IN THIS EDITION: There's talk lately about "looks vs. personality"
when it comes to what is important to women. How does that all affect
your relationships with them?
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LOOKS VS. PERSONALITY--DO THE GOOD LOOKING GUYS GET ALL THE BREAKS
WITH WOMEN?
***SPECIAL NOTE***: My friend Joseph Matthews' new program "Pure
Personality" is going to be released on Saturday the 13th. Just
this afternoon I recorded a special interview with him where we
talked all about the "looks vs. personality" factor, and got some
truly powerful stuff packed into a brief 19.5 minute MP3. You can
download it for F-R-E-E right here:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/programs/josephmatthewspp.mp3
Joseph Matthews (aka "Thundercat") and I were on the phone this
afternoon talking about whether women want looks or personality more
from guys, and how all of this relates to relationship management.
After all, those are the topics that have been at the forefront of
our respective minds lately.
Now neither Joseph nor I are exactly the quintessential image of
GQ-ness, so this became an interesting conversation very quickly.
Some of it we even captured for you on MP3 (see above).
Basically, a very small percentage of guys out there are the type
that women will tackle each other for the chance to talk to.
That leaves the rest of us.
And most of us tend to start from the baseline thought process of,
"Hey, there's no way I can compete with THAT OTHER GUY. After all,
he's want every woman wants...and I'm NOT."
Well wait a second.
How accurate are our perceptions, anyway?
If you think about it logically, who are WE to figure out what WOMEN
want? My educated guess is that most of us take OUR OWN criteria for
evaluating women and PROJECT it onto the female population.
That is, because we want a BEAUTIFUL woman, we assume women want,
well, a physically attractive guy above all else.
OK, so what if I told you it would take both hands to count the
number of guys I know who look like models but who also can't get a
second date with a woman?
Obviously, that's not "success with women" from a relationship
management perspective.
So what gives?
Let's do some Chick Whispering here.
First of all, consider how the standard of physical beauty put
forth by the media has caused many women to literally obsess over
their looks--as if that's where their entire worth lies.
Perhaps ironically, the more beautiful the woman, the more she
feels compelled to live up to this "standard".
And since the "standard" is cruelly perfect, there are A LOT of
particularly hot women out there with low self-esteem.
In walks the most handsome guy she has ever seen.
Her first thought could be, "I can't compete with that." (sound
familiar?)
If she actually ends up on a date with him, and he gets all the
attention, she could literally not be able to handle it.
In short...lots of beautiful women cannot handle a man who is
"prettier" than they are.
But there's more.
Like some beautiful women feel that they have no need to develop
their personalities to get a man, some guys who have been
surrounded by the "halo effect" all their lives because of their
looks often get lazy in their own right.
Either they are boring, downright selfish, and/or flat-out I/Js
(Idiot/Jerks) as a direct result.
If you run through the file cards in your mind, you can picture
some guys who are EXACTLY like what I'm describing here. Maybe a
TON of them.
So where does this leave the HIGHEST QUALITY women?
You guessed it: With SOMEONE ELSE.
A man who is average in looks but who does the best with what he's
got is the guy who gets the overall highest quality women. This
has been proven time and time again.
What do I mean?
Well, if you want to get high quality women, you do have to brush
your teeth, keep your fingernails clean, get a sense of style, and
mix in some Dolce & Gabbana cologne or something.
You've got to do the best with what you've got.
THEN...you get the Big Four right.
Not having been spoiled by the "prettyboy" treatment your whole life,
you work on being a confident, masculine man who knows how to create
a sense of comfort and security in a woman. And you remain a man of
character--doing what is right even when nobody is watching.
[Note: If you are new to this list, we talk about the Big Four all
the time. Check out the main web site for a ton of articles on the
subject.]
The end result? Great women are literally mesmerized by you.
They get to literally revel in the fact that they are the vision of
femininity and--yes--beauty by your side. They know you appreciate
that in them.
But more importantly, by maximizing your appearance (whatever that
means for you) and getting the Big Four handled, you have
accomplished something remarkable.
You have raised your level to that of the top one or two percent of
all men in a woman's eyes.
And remember, it's often more challenging for a naturally good-looking
man to get there than it is for a guy with more "average" looks.
Meanwhile, the guys who are betting the farm on their Hollywood looks
are left to continue wondering how on Earth the second dates aren't
happening.
So think of it. Joseph Matthews may actually be right about this.
The guy who ISN'T "blessed" with model-quality looks may be MORE
LIKELY to genuinely attract the highest echelon of women out there.
And moreover, he might have a better chance at solid long-term
relationship success also.
Can you believe this? And more importantly, can you ACT ON IT and
become the guy who deserves what he wants?
Learn more about Joseph's Pure Personality program here:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/personality
And once again, here's where you can download that audio
conversation I recorded with him earlier. It won't cost you a dime:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/programs/josephmatthewspp.mp3
Let me know what you think. And I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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