[X&Y] The "Too Good To Be True" Factor
Published: Thu, 09/25/08
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IN THIS EDITION: Last time we talked about exactly why you (yes
YOU) should start approaching higher quality women right now. I
also promised to share with you the mindset for making it happen.
If you tend to be intimidated by going after the high-quality ones,
today's newsletter is for you...
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And now, here's a way of thinking that could get you on the right
track to meeting more high quality women RIGHT NOW...
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WHAT IF SCARLETT JOHANSSON KNOCKED ON YOUR DOOR?
Last week we talked about how you might actually be SETTLING for
women you don't even desire BEFORE you even meet them.
And as wacked-out as that concept appeared to be, I've had a
particularly large number of you e-mailing and calling me saying
that you related 1000% to what I wrote.
What's more, you were looking forward to hearing what that exact
mindset I promised might be. You know, the one that could help you
conquer the problem once and for all and start meeting the women
you really want.
Some of you who called me actually got a chance to get a preview of
what I'm about to share with you. And let me say, it was an
epiphany to many.
And for sure, let me be the first to raise my hand. When I first
figured it out, it was a major revelation for me also.
So here it is...
Are you having a hard time believing that the highest-quality women
on Earth are ever--in a million years--going to be interested in YOU?
Well, guess what. Once again, this is all pretty much because you
are having a hard time GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD.
Because the magic principle here is this:
***"HIGH QUALITY" IS A RELATIVE TERM WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN***
...especially as it pertains to exactly those factors I'd call
"hotness triggers" that paralyze you when it's time to approach.
What on Earth could I possibly mean by that?
Let me break it down for you.
Yes, the highest quality women on earth have strong character, kind
hearts, and stable emotions. They respect and enjoy masculinity.
All of that is NON-NEGOTIABLE for any guy who is dead-set against
settling for less than he wants.
But let's face it. When was the last time you chickened out from
approaching a woman for any of the reasons I just shared?
Let me guess... NEVER
After all, you really can't tell what she's like INSIDE if you've
never met her before, which is usually the case when approach
anxiety hits.
Granted, I said USUALLY.
Sure, you may have noticed a particular woman has a warm smile or
something from afar.
Then again, so does your grandma.
For all I know, you could even be secretly in love with some chick
at work or school. And yeah, having talked to her some you know
she's a sweetheart.
But level with me here. There are PLENTY of women who have "great
personalities" and solid character out there who you have ZERO
PROBLEM walking right up and talking to. You know, to ask what
time it is, order your lunch, etc.
Why is that? What gives?
Well the difference is, they don't PHYSICALLY attract you sexually.
It's the PARTICULARLY SEXY ones who get you all wadded up in
nerves...right?
The bottom line is that you get tangled up in the sexual fantasy
such that it all starts seeming "too good to be true" that she
would ever like you back.
Let me spell it out: The "Too Good To Be True Factor" is what
messes with your head and tells you there's NO WAY a woman will
possibly ever really like you.
Why not? Well, because you actually LIKE HER ALSO, of course.
Realize this: Such an assumption is grounded upon ABSOLUTELY
NOTHING as far as objective reality is concerned.
AND...fortunately for you, me and every other guy that's EXACTLY the
area where "HIGH-QUALITY" IS A RELATIVE TERM.
Because "High-Quality" means THE WHOLE PACKAGE, inside AND out.
To illustrate what I'm talking about, take a trip over to a site
called Chickipedia. Basically, It's like Wikipedia, only focusing
on hot women who also happen to be at least marginally famous for
something.
Here's a link for you:
http://www.chickipedia.com
If you're unfamiliar with this site, forgive me ahead of time for
contributing to your delinquency at work. The site is "workplace
safe", don't get me wrong. It's just not particularly "workflow
friendly".
In fact, "Hot Or Not" has nothing on this site insofar as addictive
tendencies are concerned.
But I trust your judgment and discipline. So for now, if you're
reading this shortly after I sent it you're likely to find Scarlett
Johansson under the "Hottest" section.
If Scarlett Johansson showed up buck-naked at my door--holding a six
pack of Sierra Nevada Pale Ale--I probably wouldn't even get aroused.
Seriously. She does NOTHING for me.
And it's not even like she's tall, leggy, and looks like a
particularly skinny man...like, say, Heidi Klum.
I can't really explain it. She's just not my type.
In fact, at least half the women who show up on my screen when I
start hitting Chickipedia's "Random Chick" button rapid fire aren't
particularly interesting to me.
Now some of you are probably out there shaking a fist at your
computer screen thinking I must be gay or something because I don't
think Scarlett Johansson and Heidi Klum are all that.
Others of you are thanking me for finally calling out the way it
is, despite the media hype.
Whatever.
All I'm saying is try it for yourself. Start surfing through
"random chicks" for yourself and see if you end up thinking some,
if not most of them aren't exactly your "type".
No matter what, I think we can all agree that what's "hot" to you
may not be "hot" to me, and vice-versa. Ask any other guy out
there his opinion, and it might be completely different altogether.
And that's the thing.
It's probably only the women YOU think are hotties that intimidate
you.
The "Too Good To Be True" factor kicks in and/or you automatically
assume the competition must be too fierce.
Other women you might be able to go talk to without any trepidation
at all. Meanwhile, several of your friends may think she's a
veritable paragon of female perfection.
They may go so far as to consider you "fearless" for having talked
to her in such a calm, collected manner.
Oddly, she may have even been ATTRACTED TO YOU when you spoke to
her so confidently, which could have been an awkward moment FOR YOU.
Have you ever taken all of this into consideration? Have you ever
even put this "big picture" together before in the way I'm
describing it?
So, what if you could empower yourself with this knowledge?
What if you could REALLY believe that YOUR TYPE isn't NECESSARILY
every other guy's type?
Could you THEN, once and for all, realize that the women YOU PREFER
are still normal human beings? That they may not be getting
utterly hammered for dates by every, single guy out there?
And what's more, can you--as a man who deserves what he wants--begin
to realize that maybe, just MAYBE, the kind of women you are MOST
attracted to are the ones who will more than likely be attracted to
a guy like you in return?
Look, my guess is that Scarlett and Heidi really couldn't give a
rip whether I'm attracted to them or not. They've got plenty of
attention coming at them elsewhere.
And no, as the saying goes, "you can't kiss all the girls". You're
no better (or worse) than any other guy out there in that respect.
But if you equip yourself with the fact that NOBODY can be
EVERYONE'S proverbial cup of tea--EVEN THE WOMEN YOU GO NUTS
OVER--then my guess is that you will start to see things differently.
And realizing that another guy's "10" is your "6 ½" (and vice-versa)
may be just the logical encouragement you need to talk to woman who
knocks your socks off like the normal, merely mortal human being she
is.
She's probably getting "swept off her feet" by a high-quality man
like you far, far less often than you think.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. Would you like to put me to work specifically FOR YOU?
Right now I have exactly two Ten-Plus slots open, and am scheduling
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Here is the site with all the information:
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Of course, you can get on the phone with me for a one-off session
also if you have a particular sticking-point you want to get
handled today once and for all.
Be sure to e-mail me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com or Skype me at
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what you have in mind.
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