[X&Y] Can Two Neuter Creatures Attract Each Other, ?
Published: Tue, 09/09/08
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IN THIS EDITION: I'm about to reveal to you the strangest irony
in the world when it comes to attraction. Get this one turned right-
side-up and you'll be WAY ahead...
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NEW EPISODE OF STEPHEN NASH'S PODCAST
Stephen Nash and I recorded an EPIC episode of his Cutting Edge
Image Consulting podcast together this afternoon.
In it we covered ALL SORTS of things you've probably never heard
either of us talk about before--including the subject of today's
newsletter. Grab a listen at:
http://www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com/blog
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CAN TWO NEUTER CREATURES ATTRACT EACH OTHER?
More so than ever before, I'm becoming convinced that a blanket
pronouncement of women as "enigmatic" or "unfathomable" by us as
guys may be precisely what's KILLING our chances for success with
them the most.
And unfortunately, the issue is decidedly NOT gender-specific.
Women apparently have no idea what's going on inside our heads
either. And I'm pretty sure most of them have been taught that
we're utterly impossible to comprehend.
But see, the truth is that we really are more alike than different.
If we'd just see the forest for the trees, we'd become A LOT better
at relating to women...practically overnight.
For example, if you hand me and some chick a matching set of
winning lotto tickets, we'd both probably feel the same emotions.
If her dog and my dog both ran away (together?), we'd both be
bummed.
In terms of how we feel and even how we think, differences between
us aren't really gender-specific. Think about it... Personality
tests like the Myers-Briggs and so forth don't generally have pink
and blue versions, do they?
Really, the only place where real differences arise is when we
specifically deal with what's feminine vs. what's masculine.
Too bad that modern society is so busy trying to "blur the lines"
even in that area.
But this not only means that we have two "neuter" creatures running
around trying to sexually attract each other. That would be
relatively easy to sort out, were things that simple.
A lot of the core problems that guys have with women stem from
simply not knowing how to lead. The irony? That's exactly what
women tend to WANT--a MAN who takes the lead.
And what about the women and their dating problems?
What if I told you that a massive percentage of e-mails we receive
from the women on Emily's list talk about problems closely centered
on a common thread of their own: They have trouble RESISTING a
man's BAD LEADERSHIP.
So, to summarize, on one hand what we've got going on here is
"failure to deploy" by many men out there.
They defer to women, supplicate to them, and walk on eggshells lest
they offend them by having any autonomous will of their own.
And in trying to "follow" women, they forfeit what is arguably
their strongest means of creating magnetic attraction: masculine
leadership.
Meanwhile, there are other guys out there who TRY to lead, but who
end up taking their women on one wild goose chase after another.
The crazy part?
Like I alluded to, women still try to follow the man's lead even
when it's ill-advised to do so.
We're talking two or three years of dating with no real future
plans set. Night after night spent in a "rut" of doing the same
thing.
Yet the women stand by their man...wondering aloud why they're doing
so.
I even went on a first date one time with a woman who had ended up
tagging along to "keep her [ex-]husband company" when he drove back
and forth from Mexico to New York City trafficking guns and cocaine.
The verdict? Guys, as a man you REALLY ARE the CHOOSER. When you
CHASE, you disappoint.
The fact that plenty of women out there are even willing to follow
blatantly BAD leadership should speak volumes.
I have a theory as to why this all happens, though.
I think most of us as guys spend a lot of time in our own
heads...trying to REACH OUT to women in order to get OUR WANTS AND
NEEDS met.
Isn't that what most pickup teaching is all about?
That's the easy, "no-brainer" path for sure.
But it's the guy who does the EXACT OPPOSITE who compels women as a
strong relationship manager.
He's the one who is REACHING INSIDE to make the changes necessary
to deserve what he wants, even as he seeks to learn how to meet a
WOMAN'S TRUE NEEDS by being the masculine, confident,
confidence-inspiring man of character that women truly crave.
So could it be true in this post-modern culture that the new
guideline for success with women would be to do the EXACT OPPOSITE
of what seems correct on the surface these days...kind of like what
you do when driving in Mexico?
Perhaps the ultimate irony of all is that not too long ago none of
this was all that ironic. Men were men, and women were women.
Be Good,
Scot
P.S. Wow, lot's of news here today... There are actually BRAND
NEW episodes of both X & Y On The Fly and The Chick Whisperer since
I typed atcha last. The topics are good ones. Enjoy!
XTotF:
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TCW:
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