[X&Y] In Order To GET Women, You Have To GET Women
Published: Wed, 11/12/08
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IN THIS EDITION: There's a lot of advice out there that sounds
really good to us as guys.
But that's sort of the point--it sounds good to us as guys.
Whether or not it has anything to do with what's actually effective
with women seems almost irrelevant at times, doesn't it?
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Now, let's talk about the difference between "dating advice for
guys" and dating advice that helps men get better with women...
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IN ORDER TO GET WOMEN, YOU HAVE TO GET WOMEN...GET IT?
I firmly believe that some dating advice that carries the
disclaimer "for entertainment purposes only" REALLY IS "for
entertainment purposes only".
What's more, some guys are perfectly okay with that. It's enough
for them.
After all, SAYING that one is acting on a desire to get better with
women and going through the motions in a way that FEELS LIKE
getting better with women is often A LOT safer than ACTUALLY DOING
SOMETHING.
It's potentially WAY less painful, also.
But lately it has occurred to me that there's an EVEN MORE
fascinating phenomenon out there that is potentially lulling guys
into a "false sense of security" of sorts when it comes to
improving our skills with women.
Here it is: I think that a shockingly high percentage of men's
dating advice is built around the premise that men and women THINK
ALIKE about dating and sex.
Moreover, we as guys tend to assume women think like WE DO rather
than vice versa.
I mean, come on. It's the easy road, after all. Understanding
women is complicated if not altogether enigmatic to us.
Therefore, when someone comes along and gives us advice on how to
handle women, and does so in a way that MAKES SENSE to a man, what
happens?
You guessed it...we assume that if it MAKES SENSE to us, it must be
accurate and effective.
There's only one problem.
Women aren't wired the way we are after all.
Sure, our basic emotional fabric, wants and needs are more similar
than we often give credit for.
But nonetheless, what drives that which is feminine is VERY
different than what motivates us as masculine men.
And for better at worse, it's the DIFFERENCES between men and women
that spark attraction. Therefore, the DIFFERENCES are indeed at
the heart of dating advice in general.
I'll give you a primo example...one that could transform how you look
at dating/seduction advice from this moment forward if you let it
sink in.
Here goes...
One of THE most repeated themes in the Seduction Community is the
concept of how the most desirable women can select their sexual
partners at will while "rejecting" all others.
Meanwhile, so the story goes, we as guys are left to compete
against the herd for the right to "mate" with a desirable female.
Elaborate comparisons are often made with what goes on elsewhere in
the animal kingdom.
Bighorn sheep butting heads. Alpha wolves slaughtering the young
of competing males. Big bad Black Widow spiders of the female
persuasion gobbling up their puny male mates right after intercourse.
Sheesh.
Basically, the message is, "Women are the lucky ones. They can
'get laid' whenever they want, and casually reject guys right and
left until they get to the one they want."
Us guys? We either become "more alpha", or we die virgins or
something.
Guess what? That's how WE AS GUYS THINK, because it's WE who are
motivated by sexual conquest.
Now sure, SOME women do indeed wield tremendous sexual power. And
yes, they really do "reject" countless guys who want to "mate" with
them.
At least that's how WE perceive the universe.
But here's the thing. You should see the e-mails Emily and I get
from women.
They've got dating challenges of their own. And they think all the
GUYS are in control when it comes to dating.
Perhaps you're thinking that we must be getting e-mails from all
the less-than-desirable women out there who lack in the "sexual
power" department.
Au contraire.
Sometime when you're bored at work, hit up our Facebook group and
surf through some of the hotties who have accepted Emily's
invitation and are ALL ABOUT going from "good" to "great" with guys.
Their challenges? They read like this: "I date a bunch of guys
and they only want one thing...sex. When will I find a guy who will
love me and want to commit to me?"
We have NEVER (as in NEVER, EVER) received a single e-mail from a
woman who was concerned about "getting laid" enough.
And it's not because every woman has ultimate "choosing" power over
guys in that area.
And for the record, it's also not because women don't like sex.
It's because they DON'T THINK LIKE A MAN DOES.
So the best dating advice to guys who want to get better with women
is NOT to try to figure out how to get a woman to "select" you as
her sex partner.
Instead, if you THINK IN TERMS OF WHAT WOMEN WANT, you'll realize
that the man who represents who a woman wants to fall in love with
and commit to is the guy who will TRULY succeed.
Does all this still seem a bit cryptic to you? Looking for a
clearer indication that I'm on to something here?
Look no further than the WOMEN'S dating advice market. Because
they do the EXACT SAME THING...in reverse.
Women "dating gurus" tend to talk to women as if we as men think
like they do.
And it SELLS LIKE HOTCAKES.
Why?
Because it makes sense to women, of course.
Women want a man to commit to them instead of "using them and
leaving them".
So what's the best advice? Simple: follow "The Rules" designed to
cajole a man into committing before you give him anything he wants.
The reality? Any self-respecting guy, such as yourself, isn't
going to fall for it.
Show me a woman who UNDERSTANDS that men want a woman who actually
LIKES MEN, follows a worthy man's lead, basks in her own femininity
and heaps unsolicited approval on the deserving man in her life...and
I'll show you the woman who has guys FALLING ALL OVER THEMSELVES to
put a ring on her finger.
Why is that?
Simple...SHE KNOWS HOW MEN THINK, and represents what they want.
Can you make the extra effort to discover more about how women
think?
If so, can you believe that it will pay off?
Can you trust that women REALLY DO follow a man's lead, therefore
when you represent what THEY want they GLADLY reciprocate by giving
you what YOU want?
I realize this is circuit-frying knowledge. But I also suspect
that deep down you know there is real truth at the foundation of
what I'm sharing with you.
And this is really only the tip of the proverbial iceberg.
Some of the most advanced teaching I have on how to understand
women today AND into the future is found in The Leading Man.
Pickup advice only takes you through the first ten minutes of an
interaction, but relationship management skills will pay dividends
FOREVER.
At the core of all this is realizing that in order to succeed with
women in ways that transcend merely getting phone numbers and first
dates, you've got to REVOLUTIONIZE YOUR MINDSET.
You've got to understand women more clearly. And you've got to
deserve what you want.
Sure, a pickup artist can get women. But not ALL of them.
A masculine man of character who exudes confidence and instills a
sense of security in women CAN get any type of woman he wants.
The irony? THAT guy will quickly figure out how and why to bypass
the women of lower character in favor of focusing uniquely on the
very highest-echelon of women.
We're talking about those exquisite women with the "whole package"
who will ALWAYS elude guys who have no "game" other than that which
is built upon "smoke and mirrors".
If merely talking about getting better with women is sufficient for
you, then you can find the "help" you need most anywhere.
But if you are all about finally filling your life with the kind of
women you've always suspected you could deserve, then you've come
to the right place...
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Right now, I've not only extended the 35%-OFF sale on The Leading
Man, I've added a BRAND NEW core audio program on a topic that is
an absolute MUST for any man to master.
That's CONFLICT RESOLUTION.
If you're arguing with women in your life and getting the short end
of the stick every time, it's time to change that.
After all, shouldn't your relationships with women bring you pleasure
and fulfillment rather than drama and stress?
If you can relate, this is an hour and four minutes worth of nonstop
content that could be a "game changer" for you.
Kind of like the other ELEVEN audios will be for you in different
areas.
So let's wrap it up...The Leading Man is now bigger, more
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If you've already acquired The Leading Man, you'll find that BRAND
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If you've been kicking the tires, it's time to take control of your
relationships with women...starting TODAY. Here's the link again:
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By the way, it's "two for one" time again.
Grab a free month of Power Sessions For Men when you get The
Leading Man (or anything else in the store) and score NOT ONLY the
current audio on succeeding with women regardless of YOUR
personality type, you'll ALSO get the BRAND NEW October edition
that follows it up.
That's right, October's Power Session is going to be on how to deal
with virtually ANY personality type you encounter IN WOMEN. Nice.
But on the 15th that "two for one" opportunity will slip away with
the official release of the October edition.
So don't miss out guys. What I've got going for you this week is
particularly valuable.
And I'll talk to you again soon...
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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