[X&Y] Make Your Entire Metro Area Your "Dating Playground"
Published: Sat, 10/18/08
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IN THIS EDITION: Last time we talked about "mind triggers".
Today, let's take that a few steps further...discovering how to
literally view your entire metro area as one big dating venue...
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QUICK NOTE FROM A READER
Here's a message from Jim in Boston in direct response to the last
newsletter:
"Great newsletter on first dates. I was actually gonna ask you
that, and I just did one with a girl who wanted a historical tour
of Boston. She absolutely melted with the first kiss.
I took her out this afternoon. I had it planned out, versus my
other ones which are semi-planned. Also when I met her I took
careful note of her passions and what she wanted to be when she
was a kid. I think she thought I was clairvoyant.
So far my def best first date in a while. I also surprised myself
I well I just absolutely was like James Bond with that first kiss."
Rest assured, guys. What we talked about last time--and will talk
more about today--can be ULTRA effective VERY quickly for you.
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HOW TO MASTER YOUR HOME TOWN AS ONE BIG DATING VENUE
Last time you'll recall that I showed you how to use "mind triggers"
to plan and execute "first meetings" with women that leave them in
breathless amazement.
And that's pretty cool in and of itself.
But wait...there's more. MUCH more.
Now that you've hopefully begun to build the habit of continually
scoping out your metro area with women in mind, by no means should
you limit your "reconnaissance missions" to discovering places for
"first meetings".
Start thinking "out of the box" and consider how your newfound
skill could serve you in other ways.
If you can do this, you can quite literally begin to make your
entire metro area one big playground for you and for the women who
are fortunate enough to share your company.
For example, train your mind to identify quintessentially perfect
places around town for first kisses to happen.
Then, when you're with a woman, make sure your plan accounts for
being at such a location precisely when you anticipate might be the
right time.
For example, if you know the sun is setting at 7.45p, make sure you
are there RIGHT THEN.
Or, if you know of a great place to hear some live music, and you
know a great place to make the first kiss happen is only a short
walk away, MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Discover several such places and commit them to memory, and before
you know it you'll NEVER be at a loss as to when to kiss a woman
for the first time.
How's that for a way to vacuum up a particularly messy "sticking
point" before you ever slip on it again?
Here in San Antonio, there's a certain small archway that leads
from the Riverwalk to another historic section called La Villita.
The lighting is perfect and there's almost never anyone else
around.
Elsewhere in town, there's that old-school bar at the Havana
Riverwalk Inn that can only be accessed by a particularly
slow-moving elevator lined with Persian rugs. Nice.
I actually elaborated a bit on both of these locations in the brand
new Power Sessions program.
Next, take this manner of thinking about your city and apply it
elsewhere.
Can you creatively adapt the "mind trigger" concept in other ways?
What if you knew at least ten cool places to grab a bite that are
open after midnight?
What if you knew five or six killer places that are open on Mondays?
And how about if you knew exactly where to park downtown...at
different hours of the day?
And what if you knew exactly where they only take cash and not
credit cards?
What if you had discovered at least ten places in your metro area
that are virtually unknown but practically guaranteed to provide a
fun adventure for very little if any cost?
And...what if you had already scoped out several perfect places to
share a quiet moment together...but where she would STILL feel safe
and secure with you?
The list can go on and on...
Like, what if you got to know the owners or managers of the top
four or five places in town where dates have been all but
guaranteed to go well in the past?
If you did so, what kind of deals could you swing or surprises
could you arrange?
Could you even set it up so that when you're with a woman you could
simply walk out without being confronted with a bill?
Really, when you get right down to it, this ENTIRE DISCUSSION is
about being a FEW CHESS MOVES AHEAD at all times.
And what if you knew of exactly three phenomenal places for a "day
trip" that were a 1.5 or two hour drive from town? How would that
power up your ability to make second and third "meetings" a slam
dunk?
What if you knew which bands and shows were coming...and when? And
what if you knew when the home team was in town?
Truly, the more you explore, the more you know. Sooner than you
think, it really can start feeling as if your ENTIRE CITY is your
"dating playground", responding to you as if at your command.
Powerful stuff. And as always, it seems, this again relates to
deserving what you want. The quality of the output is a direct
measure of what you put into it.
Yet, as logical as it all sounds, almost ZERO guys have the
presence of mind to operate as masters of their domain like this.
Even fewer would ever think to have a pocket GPS (which some newer
phones can double as) and mark every cool place in town on it, just
so that:
1) No key location is ever forgotten or confused, and
2) Planning and execution literally became scientifically infallible.
Nice.
In fact, if you've got the personality to pull it off, and you're
with the right woman, you could even rename the places you've
planned out for a particular evening as "Mystery Destination #1",
etc. and HAND HER THE GPS.
How's that for a way to intrigue her while sending a clear message
you're a man with a plan?
Close your eyes and start imagining the effect on women that such
total mastery over your metro area would have.
Feel the confidence it would give you and recognize the comfort level
your sheer competence would give her.
The sky is truly the limit when it comes to all of this.
But simply taking the first step and leaning to stake out your town
so that the "mind triggers" start working to your advantage can and
will change your life IMMEDIATELY.
Everything else we've discussed today is just icing on the cake.
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Obviously, all the killer ideas we've talked about in this
newsletter and the last will only pay off for you if you're MEETING
WOMEN to actually GO ON FIRST MEETINGS WITH.
So even as you're becoming the master of your metro area, you also
have to be filling your schedule with high-quality women who are
craving a man who can finally knock their socks off.
One of the most effective ways to do that is through ONLINE DATING.
But only a few guys ever have the presence of mind to find out the
secrets to making it work for them. The rest--which is over 90% of
all guys according to several studies--all quit in frustration.
We talked today about making your home town your own personal
dating playground. That's easily accomplished, as you now know.
All it really takes is a bit of creativity and a minimal amount of
effort.
So NOW...it's time to have an equal measure of mastery over meeting
EXACTLY THE WOMEN YOU WANT online.
Don't kid yourself. Online dating is a virtual "given" nowadays.
Having an online profile is as much of a standard as having a MySpace
or Facebook profile.
There are guys on my coaching program who are finding actresses and
models on Match.com.
Or who knows? Maybe you're more like me and prefer meeting
kindergarten teachers, nurses, legal assistants and other
down-to-earth women who are exactly like that "girl next door" you
never got to date.
You know, the one who was beautiful, feminine AND a total sweetheart.
Although the occasional adventurous flight attendant or fitness
instructor was never out of the question...
If that's the case, then online dating can be a BONANZA for you.
But you've got to know how to get first emails right. And you've
got to have a profile that backs those e-mails up in a way that
sends all the right messages to the right women.
A "cut and paste" approach and a few "reliable" openers may get you
some scattered responses to first e-mails. But that's all just a
"flash in the pan" if women tend to evaporate after a couple of
back-and-forth emails.
After all, the point is to MEET these women. The RIGHT women. The
ones you REALLY WANT to meet.
And that's why Online Dating Domination is different:
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One day several years ago, I flat out got SICK AND TIRED of finding
women's profiles online, thinking "I've GOT to meet this one...I've
GOT to find out if she's really who she seems to be" and NEVER
getting the chance because my e-mails weren't getting answered.
I don't know...maybe I'm just one of those guys who really gets
irritated when his curiosity can't be satisfied.
But if you can relate, then you can understand why I became almost
OBSESSED with figuring out exactly how to get MY FIRST CHOICES
among women online to not only write back but to WANT to meet ASAP.
The end result of that obsession of mine was that I REALLY DID
start meeting the MAJORITY of the women who intrigued me online.
And now everything I've ever learned--literally--is rolled into over
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Seriously...there's a bunch of stuff I've figured out from being
immersed in this field over the past few years that even goes WAY
BEYOND what I personally used to ultimately get 60-80% of the women
I favored to respond to me.
We're even talking WAY BEYOND what "worked" in getting Emily to
respond to my emails and eventually meet me for breakfast one
Saturday morning a few Februaries ago.
And now it's all yours.
Better yet, I am so ready to hear your success stories about how
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You can even get your first month of Power Sessions for F-R-E-E as
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can effectively succeed with women.
But you've got to get in on this within the next 48 hours. And
you've got to promise me you'll write when you see results...that's
all I ask.
So how about it? Isn't it time you got control over your dating
life? The holidays are right around the corner.
This year have your choice of women to go to Halloween parties with,
cook Thanksgiving dinner with or enjoy Christmas and ring in the new
year with.
It's all in your grasp, but you've got to make the first move. Rest
assured I've got your back all the way.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Several women sent me some cool e-mails after that last
newsletter. For example, Shanna had this to say:
"I really like that you encourage the fellas to put some thought
into planning things (i.e. your "First Date" article today). Do
you have any idea how rare that is? Extremely. Trust me."
Yes, Shanna. I'm fully aware of how rare that is. And from now
on, THESE guys will have an "unfair advantage".
AND...this also reminds me that there are actually tons of women who
read this newsletter and LOVE what I write you guys.
No "underground" stuff here. It's all in the open because there's
nothing sketchy going on here that I feel compelled to "hide" from
women. Probably because IT WORKS.
So if you'd like to get yet ANOTHER advantage, why not get in on
Emily's newsletter? That way, you get to check in with what she's
telling the ladies out there when it comes to being the
highest-quality women they can be.
If you've ever had any difficulty with getting the RIGHT women into
your life as opposed to ones who make your life miserable, then
here's a "silver bullet"...
Send a blank email to emily@aweber.com and you're all set.
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