[X&Y] Online Dating "Game Changers" + Plus A Chance For LIVE QA
Published: Sun, 01/11/09
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IN THIS EDITION: A rare opportunity for live Q & A, plus some of
the VERY LATEST online dating strategies that could really, really
be game changers...
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RARE CHANCE ON TUESDAY NIGHT FOR LIVE Q & A
Okay guys, you know I don't do a lot of teleseminars, although that
may be something that changes in the very near future.
Well, mark your calendar for THIS Tuesday night, January 13th, at
7p Eastern / 4p Pacific.
That's when my good friend Brad Howard of Adonis Effect fame will
be hosting a call with me on the ever popular subject of "Why Women
Complain"...and, of course, how to keep this problem from EVER
HAPPENING to begin with.
For more details and a pretty funny video from Brad, here you go:
http://www.strategicman.com/mckay.php
If you're in a hurry right now, mark down these coordinates in your
calendar:
*** Tuesday night, January 13th, at 7p Eastern / 4p Pacific
*** Phone-Number to Dial: 218-486-3695
*** Use Conference ID: 652250#
This is F-R-E-E to newsletter subscribers, of course, and
considering how massively the subject matter affects most of us as
guys, you can expect A LOT of company on this call.
So be sure to dial in a few minutes early if you want to ask
questions live on the phone. You can also tune in on the Web
Tuesday night and type in your questions. Either way.
That's all for now. I'll drop you a quick note again on Tuesday to
remind you. Until then, feel free to get your questions in
now...it'll be "first come first served" when the event starts.
Looking forward to doing what we can to make sure all of us are
taking back control of our dating lives...and especially our
long-term relationships.
And I know you'd much rather have an enthusiastically satisfied
woman purring her feline approval toward you vs. a stark raving
virago whose vitriolic frustration knows no end....um, right?
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SOME F-R-E-E INNER GAME STUFF...GETCHASUM
Looks like my main man Carlos Xuma is at it again, this time
posting some new videos on inner game. This is some excellent
content that he's giving away...won't cost you a dime:
http://innergame.carlosxuma.com/index-vid2.php?aid=074215
Basically, he has been getting questions from guys on Inner Game
and is answering them here. Some of the secrets you'll learn in
this 33-minute video include:
1. The inside info on how your inner game compares to other
guys...and you're going to be surprised, like I was
2. Why "smart guys" have more difficulty with women than they
should...and how to use "inner game loops".
3. Carlos' secret "Spin Doctor" technique for turning any
weakness into an ASSET...and you will stop being afraid of women
4. Answers to the top questions about inner game...and the secret
to inner game that NO ONE ever told you about.
...And a lot more.
Keep playing through past the end for an "easter egg" he stuck in
the video...all I can say is "only Carlos..."
Pay attention to this series of vids from Carlos, guys. There's
good reason to, which I'll share with you later...
OK, so while we're in the mood to hand out F-R-E-E stuff, here's
EVEN MORE...
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THE NEXT-GENERATION ONLINE DATING GAME CHANGER?
There's has already been a lot to share this week, but I wanted to
make sure you had access to some insight that came about THIS
MORNING during a coaching call with one of my Ten-Plus guys.
If you are into online dating at all (which you should be), you'll
want to pay close attention.
And if you're not, now may be the best time to START.
As you may know already, I talk a lot in Online Dating Domination
about how guys ruin their chances right from the start in their
online profiles...simply by FOLLOWING THE DIRECTIONS.
It's no secret to anyone who is successful online that Match.com et
al really do not give out solid advice when it comes to helping us
guys succeed on their site (which to this day amazes me to no end).
Essentially, they just try to give as intuitive directions as
possible and leave us on our own for any real "strategy" other than
"be nice". Great...
So what do most guys do when they read the heading of the narrative
section that reads, "About me and who I am looking for"?
You got it...they FOLLOW THE FORMULA as if it were an "essay
question" from fifth grade.
Disastrous.
Why?
Simply put, by doing so you all but SECURE your fate as a "comma
chameleon"...relegated to writing out a comma-delimited list of how
you're funny, intelligent, spontaneous, etc.
In writing out such a list, you basically can make yourself out to
be ANYONE YOU WANT to ANYBODY YOU WANT. Just fill in the blanks,
and you've advertised yourself as all sorts of good things.
And you'll be NO DIFFERENT than any other guy online...and therefore
all but ANONYMOUS in a sea of other "also-ran" guys.
Now if you see a woman with a generic profile like that, you might
just look at the pics and decide to write her anyway.
But had she written a truly socko profile that caught your
attention in a "non-generic" way, my guess is that you'd be even
more intrigued and excited to talk to her.
Well, here it is: Women are about 10X more interested in WHAT YOU
WRITE than you are in what they write.
Seriously.
And "generic" is a mood-killer. They want a guy who STANDS OUT
from the crowd.
And yes, this means breaking the mold of being a "comma chameleon".
You just can't think in terms of "about me and who I'm looking
for"...at least not if you want to get THE highest-quality women to
write back.
So the big question is WHAT DO YOU DO INSTEAD?
Well, two weeks ago I brought up the somewhat preposterous
assumption that Twitter.com could be the "next-generation" dating
site.
I've since strengthened my belief that being on Twitter and
actively participating can actually ALSO help your fortunes on
sites like Match.com, Plenty Of Fish, etc.
For starters, I've come to the conclusion that "micro blogging" is
the VERY ESSENCE of writing first e-mails to women.
How so?
Watch what happens on Twitter very closely, and you'll see people
do AMAZING THINGS with 140 characters.
As you know, your first e-mails to women should be BRIEF. No "life
stories" or drawn out, lugubrious missives desperately begging for
a date or telling some anonymous chick she's your "dream woman".
Nope.
The name of the game is "be interesting in two sentences". Period.
The best way to do that is to cultivate your skill at being
concise, even as you TAKE INTEREST in something you ACTIVELY
NOTICED about her...and then present a CLEAR CALL TO ACTION.
This is what goes down on Twitter ALL DAY LONG.
1) Find something interesting someone said
2) Send an "@reply" with something that adds value to the
discussion
3) Give a link featuring something the intended recipient should
take a look at
This flat-out WORKS in the very social world of Twitter.
So if you get on Twitter and practice, you'll have a MAJOR
ADVANTAGE compared to other guys when it comes time to pinpoint
something cool in a woman's profile, ask her the right question
about it in your first e-mail to her, and CALL HER TO ACTION in
getting her to write back.
And you know what? It doesn't stop at "micro-blogging".
I honestly think that the guy who starts treating his PROFILE
NARRATIVE like a BLOG is going to be the guy who gets ALL the
high-quality women.
And what blogger writes "about me and who I'm looking for"?
None, of course...that's what the "about" page on Wordpress is for.
No doubt.
The BLOG POSTS are the blogger's thoughts about life, issues, and
what's going on at the moment. After all, "blog" is short for "web
log".
Do you lead an interesting life? Are YOU viewing yourself as the
PRIZE, instead of chasing women?
Then how about this: Start SHARING YOUR LIFE with women in your
blog...err, "online dating profile".
Talk about what you're doing RIGHT NOW, like you would on Twitter.
But you'll actually have up to 2000 characters (or more) instead of
140. Nice.
Demonstrate what's going on in YOUR REALITY, right here...right now.
I don't care if what you write today stays up there a couple of
weeks.
If it's what was going on in your life when you wrote it, then it's
going to be TONS more interesting and engaging than whatever some
"comma chameleon" has scrawled elsewhere on his online dating profile.
If you need to speak you blog--I mean, "online dating
profile"--into a voice recorder (which most cell phones have in
them nowadays), then so be it. You want this to be written exactly
as you talk in real life.
Twitter as a "training ground" for writing first e-mails?
Blogging as a model for writing online dating narratives? I must
be kidding.
Except I'm GUNFIGHTER SERIOUS.
If you haven't downloaded my e-book Twiduction: How To Meet Women
On Twitter, I trust I've given you even more impetus to do so:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/programs/Twiduction_E-Book_FREE_TO_SHARE.pdf
That link above will take you directly to the PDF, which you can
then save to your hard drive. Enjoy.
Oh yeah...it's F-R-E-E. In fact, consider it perfectly okay to
e-mail the link to anyone you choose.
And if you happen to be ready to get the absolute newest and
highest-tech ways to utterly distance yourself from ALL THE
COMPETITION in the online dating world, then I recommend Online
Dating Domination:
http://www.onlinedatingdomination.com
This is NOT about "throwing a bowl of spaghetti against the wall to
see what sticks". Online Dating Domination is what gives you the
ability to RAISE THE BAR and actually MEET the women who are your
FIRST CHOICES online.
No more wondering in frustration about what that woman might
actually be like whose profile you've been unable to avoid looking
at ten times a day. Get her to ANSWER YOUR E-MAIL and MEET YOU
face-to-face.
That's MY definition of "online dating success". Getting answers
to first e-mails alone is a pat on the head by comparison...it just
doesn't cut it. The purpose of ONLINE dating is OFFLINE dating,
isn't it?
In fact, I'll tell you what. If you're READY to make this kind of
success happen in your life, use the following link when ordering
Online Dating Domination and I'll give you 35% OFF:
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You'll see the discount reflected on the SECOND PAGE when ordering.
And since it's Power Sessions 2-for-1 time again, you'll can snag
the latest program on "Masculinity As Women See It" AND get the
brand-new January edition called "Ambition, Motivation and Passion
That Attracts" on the 16th.
BOTH are yours FOR ZERO EXTRA as part of your first month of Power
Sessions, which you can easily request at the time of purchase.
So I've made this a "no brainer" for you.
What's more, Valentine's Day is only a month away...can you believe
it? This is THE best time of the year to meet women online,
because NONE of them want to be "dateless" on February 14th.
And ALL of them would rather be with the RIGHT guy than just ANY
guy when that day comes.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Almost forgot...when you get on Twitter, add me as a friend and
I'll follow you back automatically:
http://www.twitter.com/scotmckay
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