[X&Y] Never Hit A "Losing Streak" Ever Again
Published: Fri, 04/10/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Ever find yourself on a "losing streak"? Here's
how to make sure it never happens again...
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And now, let's make sure you don't ever find yourself on a "losing
streak" ever again...
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END THE "LOSING STREAK" AND NEVER LOOK BACK
It's been 45 years since Mick Jagger talked about how he "can't get
no satisfaction".
One of the most memorable lines from that song is "...I'm trying to
make some girl, who tells me 'baby better come back, maybe next week'
'cause you see I'm on a losing streak."
Well, based on what I've been able to gather, Mick got over his
"losing streak" pretty quickly.
And if you're on one right now, so will you.
And if you're NOT on one? Well, I'm about to show you how to make
sure it NEVER HAPPENS.
But first, I think it's necessary to clarify what usually CAUSES a
"losing streak" to begin with.
To say one is on a "losing streak" (or "in a slump", if you will)
implies that there was a time when one was WINNING. There has been
a CLEAR CHANGE of fortune--in the southbound direction.
Almost always, the beginning of such a slump can be traced to a
particularly bad breakup or heinous incident of rejection from a
particular woman.
Think about that as we go over these FOUR KEY WAYS to end a "losing
streak", because it's going to be VERY IMPORTANT to keep in mind
Here we go...
1) GET BACK OUT THERE
Call this the "macro" version of the "three second rule". Just
like you do well to wait no longer than three seconds after
deciding to approach a woman to ACTUALLY DO SO, don't let yourself
wait any longer than THREE DAYS after a particularly bad breakup to
start MEETING WOMEN again.
Sure, I know you've been dealt a pretty heavy hit. But the longer
you wait to get your profile on Match.com, talk to women on Twitter
and/or spark up conversations with bank tellers and waitresses the
greater the likelihood "analysis paralysis" is going to kick in.
And I know you guys. You're a particularly intelligent crowd who
is especially prone to this issue.
You know, on second thought you'd be better off not waiting more
than THREE HOURS after a woman harshes your buzz to get out there.
2) FORGET AND FORGIVE
You've heard the term "forgive and forget". And you probably know
how hard it is to do that.
But I've come to an interesting realization within the past few
weeks, thanks to Facebook.
I've been really enjoying reconnecting with old friends from high
school and college. There have been some great conversations that
have really made my day.
But crazily, there have been at least TWO INCIDENCES where I've
finished up a very cool conversation with someone only to come to a
stunning realization later.
I had STOPPED TALKING to that person years ago because we had been
seriously mad at each other!
Nowadays? Here's the thing. I had clearly forgotten what it was
we were so mad at each other about. And apparently, so did the
other person.
What that says to me is just how SILLY resentment and bitterness
is, not to mention USELESS.
All it does is eat at YOU from the inside.
And the simple fact that FORGETTING about how someone has wronged
you AUTOMATICALLY results in forgiveness was a sobering thought to
me.
Time does heal wounds...big time.
So the question is simply this: Can you INTERNALIZE that belief
and use it to ACCELERATE the process?
Can you really let go of the resentment you feel toward that woman
for burning you? If you can, it'll benefit YOU.
You can even call forgiveness your "best revenge", if you must, in
order to sleep better at night.
So how does this END your "losing streak? Simple. Forgiving
equals losing bitterness...losing bitterness equals attracting women
you deserve (e.g. not bitter ones).
Great women STAY AWAY from bitter dudes. When you stay bitter, you
stay by yourself.
3) DO MORE OF WHAT YOU'RE BEST AT
When you feel like you've "lost", there's no better medicine to
cure what ails you than WINNING.
One of your first thoughts when you "lose" a woman should be to go
out and WIN at something else.
Intentionally focus on what you're best at, and go out and grab a
victory. Or two. Or six.
Do this RAPID FIRE.
I really don't care whether you're a world-class expert at karaoke,
bowling, salesmanship or Wii. Go out there and kick ass.
And do it FAST.
Why? Because you need your CONFIDENCE built back to where it
should be.
The beauty of this whole concept is that once you gain CONFIDENCE
anywhere, you can port that mindset immediately to your
interactions with women. And that's EXACTLY what you need when
you're on a "losing streak" with women.
4) REALIZE "REBUILDING" DOESN'T HAVE TO TAKE FOREVER
This last one could arguably be the LEAST obvious.
There seems to be a pandemic belief out there that meeting someone
new and starting a new relationship takes a WHOLE LOT OF TIME and a
WHOLE LOT OF ENERGY.
And what this belief does to someone who feels like they've just
been kicked to the curb is it FREEZES them in place.
The last thing we FEEL like doing when we're feeling ragged is
STARTING ALL OVER AGAIN.
It seems intimidating, if not flat-out depressing...but ONLY when the
"limiting belief" I just described is in effect.
The tragic part is that meeting someone new and building AMAZING
rapport with her DOES NOT have to take a lot of time.
In fact, the FASTER it happens, the more AUTHENTIC that connection
likely is.
Let's say you meet a woman online for coffee.
It could take TEN MINUTES before she says the magic words, "You
know, I've known you for ten minutes, but if feels like we've known
each other for TEN YEARS."
And seriously, when you are a "big four" man who ignites femininity
you're likely to SHOCK YOURSELF at how easy it is to get to know a
great woman.
That key idea of INSPIRING HER CONFIDENCE, making her feel safe and
comfortable with you, is all-important here.
Plus, if you think about it, what's more exciting than discovering
all the "firsts" with an amazing new woman? This should be PURE
ADRENALINE, not drudgery. Right on?
So how about it? I've pretty much broken down here how "losing
streaks" are all in YOUR HEAD, haven't I?
Just like a major league DH who's in a woeful hitting slump hasn't
really lost his talent, NEITHER HAVE YOU.
He has hit .300 before, and will do so again just as soon as he
snaps out of his funk and figures out who the hell he is.
And just like we'll be focusing on in The Master Plan, you were
BORN to attract women.
Just because things went awry with one woman doesn't mean you've
lost your mojo. You've just got to man up and reclaim your
birthright.
There's no time for feeling sorry for yourself...ever. Slap a diaper
on that mindset.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. If you aren't on Twitter yet, drop everything and sign up. I
kid you not, the number of AMAZING WOMEN on Twitter has SKYROCKETED
in just the past few weeks.
I don't know if this is because all the celebs are on Twitter now,
or because it's simply becoming less "techie" and more
"mainstream". Frankly, I don't care.
All I know is that THE WOMEN HAVE SHOWN UP, and YOU should be
talking to them. This is INCREDIBLE "practice" for other online
dating sites if nothing else.
http://www.twitter.com
And when you get there, add me at @scotmckay, will you?
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