[X&Y] "I Am Not A Role Model"
Published: Fri, 05/15/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Today's man is in crisis. We've somehow lost our
field-vision into what being a man is truly supposed to look like.
And is it even our fault? After all, more of us than not don't
even have a solid example to follow.
But the high-quality women of the world sure wish we did. Read on...
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SUPERPOWERS WITH WOMEN
If you have The Master Plan, then you've probably heard the section
in it called "How To Have Superpowers With Women". And if so, you
already know I'm not talking about "cold reading", palmistry or
anything else cheesy.
What I am talking about, simply, is how to get a woman to utter the
magic words "you're amazing".
When she says THAT, you've gotten somewhere BEYOND initial
attraction and intrigue. You've managed to really capture her
attention such that she's likely not going ANYWHERE, as long as
that's your wish.
You've locked down the "revolving door of women" in your life.
One of the great ways to be AMAZING to women has gotten a bad rap
in recent years, mostly because some guys have been using as a
"pickup tactic".
That, of course, is magic.
Done the WRONG way, you'll just make women roll their eyes and walk
away.
But when you can throw down a sweet illusion out of NOWHERE--when a
woman who is already enraptured with you least expects it--that's
when you hear the "magic words"...it the TRUEST SENSE.
Guys, if you have that quiver of "amazingness" to draw from when
women least expect it, you present yourself a man who can handle
any situation. You come off as a man who can remain calm under
fire.
That translates to a woman feeling just a bit more secure when
you're around. Overall, you're just that much more MASCULINE in
the way that WOMEN define it.
Now, I'm not going to sit here and tell you that knowing a few
magic tricks is going to take you from good to great with women by
itself.
But used correctly and in moderation, like a six-pack of Guinness or
a Ducati 1098, it's powerfully good stuff.
So when my friend Brad at P.U.M.A. Skills offers you the SECRET of
how to do a very cool magic trick, I'd say it's worth a few minutes
to watch, learn and tuck it away for safe keeping when "the moment"
arises. Here's what I mean:
www.pumaskills.com/mysteryrev?AFFID=11553
Let's put it this way...I didn't exactly "volunteer" to Emily that I
know about that video. Why spoil the fun for her when the right
time comes?
Now, let's talk about something ELSE that amazed me in a completely
different way recently...
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IS THIS WHAT A ROLE MODEL IS SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE?
Recently I had the rare and highly sought-after chance to go over
some market research done by MTV networks. In it, the state of the
modern man was broken down into fine detail. I mean, this research
must have cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to produce.
Yet there it was...on my desktop. Obtained by purely legitimate means.
And after devouring page after page, one of the findings that
literally jumped off the screen and latched onto me like a pit bull
was this:
"Over 50% of all North American men, across all socio-ethnic
demographics and regardless of age, DO NOT HAVE AN IDENTIFIABLE
ROLE MODEL."
Let that sink in for a while.
In other words, MOST of us have NO IDEA what a REAL MAN even LOOKS
like.
The more I thought about it, the more I started to realize that
MTV's money might actually have been well spent. As hard as it is
to admit, I believe what's written in their report to be an
accurate statement.
Being immersed as I am in what I do for a living, I've found myself
thinking a lot about that haunting statistic as I look around at
what's being taught in the Seduction Community.
Even in that epic conversation I had with Zan Perrion for The
Master Plan, the concept came up: We're being told that the
"yardstick" by which we might measure "success" as a man is the guy
in a bar or club who can get the most phone numbers.
And outside the Seduction Community?
Whoever is the NBA MVP, hip-hop artist du jour or actor in the
latest action flick is who we tend to hold up as wanting to be
like...at least for the moment while we're watching that particular
"channel".
It has been fifteen years now since then NBA all-star Charles
Barkley proclaimed "I am not a role model", thereby stirring
controversy.
Given the intent behind Sir Charles' words, I don't see where the
"controversy" is. As he basically said, he's not supposed to be
raising other parents' kids...THEY are.
But even today nothing has changed. We still behold guys who do
cool OUTWARD stuff, and decide they're the ones who we want to be
like.
And the guy on TV, the silver screen, the basketball court--or yes,
the club--CAN'T TEACH US HOW TO BE A MAN.
They can only do something we wish we could do. It's all "outer
game".
So what do we do? We try to emulate what we see, and even if we
are successful at doing so we're still left EMPTY.
That's because deep down within us, at our INNER CORE, nothing
changed.
Listen, it's NO JOKE that more and more high-profile pickup-artists
and seduction teachers are doing things like GETTING MARRIED and
FATHERING CHILDREN.
That's because after you master pickup, and after you realize you
can get phone numbers, you're still left wanting MORE.
And in this case "MORE" means a history with a great woman. Having
that great woman back you 1000% in your ambitions. And maybe even
having the legacy of a great kid or two.
Let me tell you, watching my boy Scot Jr. grow up as CLEARLY a
"chip off the old block" is as sobering as it is amazing.
I love watching him grow and do terrific things. It's immensely
rewarding.
But the SOBERING part is that it's UP TO ME to make sure he doesn't
become a "statistic".
One of the most meaningful things to me in life is that my boy is
going to have a TRUE role model, even if it takes all of my energy
to be that guy for him.
And you know what? As long as I breathe oxygen (and probably
beyond) the die has been cast. That boy sees me as his role model
ALREADY whether I like it or not.
The craziest part of all? Watching me interact with my son makes
Emily hot. Wow...it's like catnip.
Why do I tell you this?
Because if YOU want to start making women WANT you--and I'm talking
about GENUINE high quality women of character here--then you'd
BETTER NOT be a "statistic" either.
You had better rise above average. Because "average" hasn't a CLUE
what REAL MAN looks like.
And, following logically, "hasn't a clue" TURNS OFF high quality
women.
Do you want to know why women are joining together in the battle
cry of WANTING THEIR MEN BACK? I've just explained it to you.
But here's the good news. It's never too late to "go back in time"
and recover what is BELONGS to you already...your birthright as a man
who was BORN to attract women:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/masterplan/subscribers
Seriously, gentlemen. You can't "be like Mike" and expect that to
be enough.
If you want to be a woman's HERO--if you want to be your SON and/or
DAUGHTER'S HERO someday--you've got to be a REAL MAN at the core.
Consider the greatest men in history.
They weren't the fastest runners. They weren't the ones beating
their chest the hardest. And they certainly weren't the ones
"bagging the most chicks".
They were the confident, masculine men of CHARACTER who knew how to
empower those around them. They knew how to handle tough
situations...and did. They knew how to make everyone around them
feel just a bit BETTER about themselves...and did. And they knew how
to INSPIRE CONFIDENCE...not just in women, but even in their FELLOW
MEN.
And the women loved them for it just the same.
Nobel laureates. Heads of state. Captains of business. Changers
of the world. All "Big Four" guys like I just described.
I've now had more reports than I can count on both hands that The
Master Plan is something "every man should have the chance to hear".
So right now, I'm going to make that happen. I'm going to give
you The Master Plan for A WHOLE WEEK for just $7:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/masterplan/subscribers
That's lunch money.
And if The Master Plan has the impact on you that it has for
literally every other man who has acquired it already, then the
balance of $140 after seven days is going to be a no-brainer.
You'll want to go through The Master Plan multiple times until
you've truly made a dent in becoming the ULTIMATE version of your
authentic, masculine self.
So why am I doing this? Might someone just download all the
goodies for $7 and ask for a refund despite not having any
particularly unfavorable feedback?
Sure. And exactly three have done exactly that so far. But the
irony is the depth of The Master Plan's message is lost on a guy
like that anyway.
So perhaps ironically, I OWE that guy a refund, if you think about
it.
Does this make me some sort of "hero"? Listen man, I'm a FELLOW
TRAVELLER. I'm just the messenger, learning more day by day about
how to apply the message.
But the "message" is clearly this: Being a "man" on the surface
doesn't count. You've GOT to have seen the example of REAL MANHOOD
and made the effort to make it your own.
PRESENCE trumps PERFORMANCE every single time with women, as Amy
Waterman once said in an interview with me.
Women don't care what you can do. They want to know WHO YOU ARE.
And being a "Big Four" man is what's going to propel you above the
fray of the "clueless" every single time. True, real-world
GREATNESS is found there.
It's what makes a high quality woman hot for you, and it's what's
going to make your son someday want to be like you.
Don't let them down.
And I'll talk to you again soon...have a great weekend.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. If you live in North America and have a few minutes, please
take this survey that's designed to "help make television better":
https://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=i5BpdtVw0_2fVk_2fSMCGHMPCA_3d_3d
I'm sworn to secrecy as to why I'm telling you about this...at least
for now. But let's just say there is some VERY exciting stuff in
the works, and your opinion matters A LOT.
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