[X&Y] Is That REALLY A "Deal Breaker"?
Published: Sun, 07/12/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Last time we talked about some of the ways you
CAN'T expect to change women.
But are there ways YOUR leadership CAN bring out the absolute best
in her? The resounding answer is "absolutely". Read on...
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OUTRAGEOUS VIDEO STUFF FROM THE AMP GUYS
There's no doubt about it. Whenever we collaborate with Bryan,
Decker and the rest of the guys at Authentic Man Program, great
things happen.
As a matter of fact, the discussions I've personally had with those
guys for Virtuosity and The Master Plan have evoked some of the
most POWERFUL response from you guys EVER.
No doubt, AMP is all about discovering the most hidden parts of
your authentic, masculine personality and unleashing them.
And what's more, those guys are seriously gifted at helping us as
guys CONNECT with women at a whole 'nother level.
So when Bryan called me up a couple of months ago and told me that
they were in the midst of their MOST AMBITIOUS project EVER, I was
all ears:
And TODAY IS THE DAY that he's releasing the FIRST VIDEO about it
to the world:
http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/amp
Now I have to tell you. It's been hard to keep all of this a
"secret" for as long as I've had to. Because here it is: AMP is
finally, at long last, throwing all of their guns on the table.
That's right, AMP is covering ADVANCED SEXUAL MASTERY.
What I'm about to say may sound like I'm kidding, but despite my
tremendous respect for what the AMP guys teach, I'm dead serious
when I say that I ALMOST didn't send you this video.
I was sort of thinking it was a bit too...well, "edgy". Maybe TOO
over-the-top.
Sure the first video you'll see is just a LOT of good (and f-r-e-e)
info from Bryan about how to improve your sexual vibe with women
NOW.
But after you log in and get to the rest of the videos, all I can
say is you had better hold on to your seat.
It's a wild ride. In fact, maybe a bit TOO WILD.
Ultimately, though, I figured you're a big boy now and you can
decide for yourself:
http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/amp
Note the "chickwhisperer.com" URL above, which is a domain I
generally only use when giving our links on the podcast.
That can only mean ONE THING: Yep...the VERY NEXT episode of The
Chick Whisperer show will feature Bryan Bayer himself as co-host.
And the topic is going to be "Supernatural Connection"...which I
guarantee will blow you away.
Guys who are on Power Sessions are also going to get yet ANOTHER
session I recorded with Bryan that's PACKED with completely
original ADVANCED LEVEL content. What we drop in that audio is
"top one percent" stuff for sure.
Both are in the editing phase. The TCW show is about a week out,
Power Sessions guys will get their goodies sooner.
And now...here's the SECOND PART of the discussion we started in the
last newsletter. But this time, I'm about to share the GOOD NEWS
with you...
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IS SHE EVER GOING TO CHANGE, OR WHAT? (PART TWO)
In the first installment a few days ago, I shared with you some
potential "dealbreakers" with women that are typically way, way
beyond any man's ability to change on her behalf.
Let's face it, we as guys love to lead and women love it WHEN we
lead.
So the thought of influencing change for the better in someone
else--especially a woman we have "the hots" for--sounds good and
reasonable to us.
Plus, there's just something hard-wired in us that wants to fix
broken stuff.
There's a tremendous feeling of satisfaction in coming up with a
key solution to a problem your workgroup is facing, getting the
bathroom sink fixed and/or restoring a '70 Cuda to showroom
perfection.
That's why we store jumper cables in our pickup trucks and carry a
multi-tool in our pockets.
But women? They're human beings with their own priorities,
desires, imperfections and, yes...FREE WILL.
As we found out last time, there are some scenarios you're just
going to be beating your head against the wall about if you're
crazy (or arrogant) enough to think you can "flip a switch" and
change things.
The GOOD NEWS, though, is there are OTHER situations that are
TAILOR MADE opportunities to lead a woman to a more fulfilling
place.
More fulfilling, that is, for both her AND for you...
1) She Leads A Boring Life
Have you ever noticed how many women basically go to work, come
home, watch the tube for a couple hours, go to bed and wake up the
next morning to DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN?
Sure, some women are social butterflies with packed schedules, but
a shocking number of others...not so much.
Single moms notoriously lead very routine-based lives that are high
in stress, yet low in excitement.
Guess what? Most women who lead boring lives aren't exactly
thrilled about it.
Were you to come along and welcome her into YOUR reality, you'd be
amazed at how soon you'd have a "willing accomplice" to join you in
all your adventures.
So don't immediately pass off a woman who appears to lead a boring
life as a "bump on a log".
Take her motocrossing, introduce her to Indian food, and show her
what she's been missing out on.
In other words, lead.
2) She's Quiet
If you think that guys are the only ones who can get eaten alive by
shyness, stop kidding yourself.
Remember, there are LOTS of women who clam-up when they're into to
a guy.
So what you're interpreting as ZERO PERSONALITY (or even flat-out
disinterest) in a quiet, stone-faced woman may actually be
ATTRACTION.
Have you ever thought about it like that?
If you're the kind of guy who tends to automatically assume the
worst rather than the best when it comes to gauging whether a woman
likes you or otherwise, maybe not.
The solution?
Kick the "Big Four" trait of "ability to inspire confidence" into
overdrive. Women are often shy or reserved when they're around
someone they don't know that well.
How many times have you ever heard someone, especially a woman, say
"I'm really quiet until I get to know someone."
Well, for all intents and purposes "getting to know someone" =
"feeling comfortable around someone".
Give her space. Inject humor. Have a plan that has her best
interests at heart at all times.
And yes, let the woman know you're enjoying her company.
Withholding compliments and "negging" was NOT designed for women
like this.
In fact, if the more she LIKES you, the more likely it is that your
leadership in this area will draw her out. How's that for irony?
3) She's Not Very Affectionate
In many cases, this one tends to go "hand in hand" (pun intended)
with #2 above.
What if you're out with a woman and she is giving you NO SIGNS
WHATSOEVER of being even remotely attracted to you?
Some guys would immediately write off such a woman as "frigid" when
they don't see visible signs of attraction.
I mean, several PUAs even TEACH guys to kick a woman to the curb if
she isn't all over you early and often.
Well, here it is: A LOT of high-quality women have been taught to
be VERY RESERVED when it comes to giving men signs of attraction
early, let alone being overtly affectionate.
After all, being branded a "slut" is a high-quality woman's biggest
nightmare.
Above and beyond that, there are PLENTY of cases where women have
absolutely NO IDEA that they weren't showing any clue whatsoever
that they were attracted.
They're the ones who write Emily wondering why guy after guy keeps
not asking for the second date after it really seemed as if they
all liked her.
Guys, not only can you and SHOULD you show some patience with these
women, you should ACT ON the situation and LEAD.
Present yourself as a man who respects women and is the antithesis
of the guy who is "in it for one thing".
Guard against coming off as sex-focused, and enjoy the experience
of getting to know the woman from a holistic perspective.
Give her the gift of knowing that WERE she to show affection, you'd
accept it gladly and not judge her for it.
And give her the EVEN GREATER GIFT of knowing that she can show
affection on HER TERMS...without pressure or the threat of "feeling
used".
And above all, exude MASCULINITY as women view it and watch her
femininity IGNITE as a result.
Kill the "neuter" stuff. No interview questions. Talk like a man
and treat her like a woman.
Realize that if she's out on a second date with you, she probably
is attracted. If it's a third date, take the risk and KISS her.
Take all of what I've outlined in this section into consideration,
use it all in concert, and I assure you things will go very well
for you.
4) She's Negative
Yep...we touched upon this on a couple weeks ago when we covered
social skills.
But I can't emphasize enough that simply CALLING OUT a woman's
tendency to "hate all sorts of stuff" really can put the kibosh on
it...for good.
Sometimes women who are VERY negative are just very simply in DIRE
NEED OF A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE.
Be that experience. Personify it.
And if that alone doesn't cut it, then yes...address the "elephant in
the room".
Tell her she seems like a terrific person to you, but you just
aren't interested in populating your life with negative people.
Invite her to stop using the word "hate" so much, enjoy life and
smell the roses.
The frequency with which such leadership literally stops a woman
dead in her tracks will SHOCK YOU if you aren't used to talking so
boldly with women.
But hey, think of it this way: Who really WANTS to be a bummer?
Lots of women are thoroughly OBLIVIOUS to the simple fact they were
even being negative at all.
I remember one time I met a woman exactly like that. I didn't
argue with her, I simply offered to note every time she used the
word "hate" in a sentence...to which she agreed.
A half-hour later she was a changed woman. Seriously. And I
thoroughly enjoyed her company for many months thereafter.
5) She's Not As Attractive As She Could Be
I've saved the best for last, because this is truly one of the most
under-rated gems of masculine skill in the world.
Yes...your masculine leadership and positive regard for a woman can
actually cause her to become MORE ATTRACTIVE over time. Especially
to you.
Think about it.
She may look great now. She may dress nicely. But you may still
be "on the fence" as to whether this woman could be your "100 out
of 100" or not.
But when she has a man like you in her life, her joy may increase.
This affects a woman's overall beauty in every way...even physically.
If you've ever experienced "The Glow" on the face of a woman who
absolutely adores you, that's a key example of what I'm talking
about.
Heck, being in a happy relationship may even cause her to pay WAY
closer attention to how well she takes care of herself. Stranger
things have happened.
And, of course, as you pour on the masculine charm, she'll
AUTOMATICALLY respond with heightened femininity. This tends to
have a very positive effect on us as guys, huh?
Maybe in college there was a woman in one of your classes who you
barely noticed.
But one day you got to the dining hall for lunch later than usual,
and since you usual crowd wasn't there you ended up having lunch
with her instead...sort of by default.
Maybe you found yourself super-attracted to her from then on...for
some strange reason.
I just shared the "strange reason" with you.
OK, what I've just shared with you carries with it some genuine
reason for excitement, doesn't it?
After all, if you're like me you may have instantly written-off
some if not ALL of the situations I described above in the
past...without giving any thought to how you could positively affect
the outcome as a man.
But you most certainly can.
Will your masculine leadership ALWAYS prevail?
Of course not...human beings not only have free will, they tend to be
immense complex as individuals.
However, by arming yourself with what I've shared both today and in
the first half a few days ago, you'll DRAMATICALLY increase the
quality of your relationships with women...and of their relationship
with you too, right?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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