[X&Y] Should You "Clean The Pipes" Before Going On A Date?
Published: Wed, 08/26/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Should you take care of your "sexual urges"
before heading out on a date with a woman? Here are some
surprising thoughts.
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SOMETHING EVERY GUY SHOULD THINK ABOUT
As it turns out, August is National Make A Will Month. And yes,
I realize I'm a bit late to the party, but so be it.
What does this have to do with getting better with women?
On the surface, not a whole lot. But we as guys do tend to think
we're invincible, don't we? Especially when we're single.
So how important is it to think about making a will (or maybe even
a living trust)?
Let's just put it this way: If you're a divorced single dad, who
do you REALLY want getting control of your estate on behalf of your
children?
And if you've never been married or fathered kids just yet, were
something to happen would you really want everything you've ever
worked hard for going to the government?
I doubt I have to elaborate any further, right? This is seriously
crucial stuff to consider.
Well, if you're in North America you've probably heard of LegalZoom,
especially if you listen to sports talk radio.
Emily and I have recently updated our living trust through them and
all we can say is you're likely to be shocked by how easy and
inexpensive it is.
In fact, if all you really need is a will itself rather than a
full-blown living trust, then LegalZoom can deliver you the whole
legal enchilada for $69.
No inflated lawyers fees, no office visits. You just answer the
questions and bam...done deal.
Here's the link:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/wills
And if you think the added protection of a living trust is the
right way to go (and that's a question worth answering), here's the
link to that:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/trusts
Get this one taken care of (like we most definitely did), and it's
one less thing for you to have on the back of your mind.
Now it's time to get to the topic of the day...
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SHOULD YOU "CLEAN THE PIPES" BEFORE GOING ON A DATE?
If you've seen the movie There's Something About Mary, you're
probably familiar with the conversation between Ben Stiller and
Chris Elliott about "The Loaded Gun Theory".
Essentially, the premise is that when you go out on a date with a
woman, it's probably a good idea to "rub one out" rather than show
up at her doorstep with only one thing on your mind.
Well, when this particular topic came up in conversation recently
(excuse the unintended pun) I decided to do a bit of research.
As it turns out, assuming you word your Google search in a way that
doesn't result in a barrage of porn sites, you'll quickly find that
almost everyone who has thought about the topic du jour has come to
the same conclusion: It's best to masturbate before going on a hot
date.
The reasons cited are generally twofold:
1) It takes the "pressure" off
2) If something physical WERE to happen on the date, you'd be
less likely to be a "two pump chump".
Granted, conventional wisdom would point to this all being solid
logic.
But not so fast.
The problem with "conventional wisdom", as so eloquently pointed
out by Freakonomics author Steven Levitt, is that it usually is
based on the EASIEST conclusion to draw rather than what may
perhaps be the CORRECT one.
And the more I consider the "Loaded Gun Theory", the more I'm
beginning to believe there's more to think about than what's on the
surface.
In fact, I'd like to challenge you to consider if it's actually
best to *store it up* for a few days before a particularly
anticipated meeting with a woman.
Here's why.
First of all, I have a sneaking suspicion that when we as guys are
physically geared up for sexual excitement, we just may radiate
more of a sexual (read: "masculine") presence physiologically.
Forget "pheromone spray", gentlemen. My gut feeling is that when
you're flat out horny, women can somehow sense that...and the woman
in them "wakes up" physiologically.
As I said, I really couldn't find anything to support this
hypothesis on Google, but consider some of the buzz surrounding
MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) based on their various possible
states of sexual readiness, hormone levels, etc.
Indeed, women tend to spend more time thinking about this sort of
thing, and some of the ideas that have gained traction over the
years include how women tend to have a certain "glow" about them
when pregnant, and how when a woman is at her MOST FERTILE point in
her monthly cycle she's ALSO at her peak of sexual attractiveness...
even, perhaps, as unconsciously acknowledged my men around her.
So here it is: Considering we're all human beings here, why
wouldn't a similar but gender-specific set of premises hold true
for us as men?
Further, I think that if you're more sexually tuned up in the
moment, you're more likely to feel that much more excitement in
your soul when engaging an attractive woman on a date.
And that kind of energy can lead to some serious fireworks (the key
word being "lead", as always).
The analogy of what happens when you go grocery shopping while
hungry may not be far off here. If you've just visited an "all
you can eat" buffet you're more likely to postpone hitting the
supermarket until tomorrow.
But if you missed lunch and are starving, you probably can't wait
to go food shopping.
I've actually run the ideas I've just described by several women
over the last few days, and they ALL agreed with me...ASSUMING the
guy was mature enough to stay in control of things.
It goes like this: Women actually LOVE IT when a man radiates
primal sexuality on a date.
What they DON'T love is when guys act like desperate, needy
Neanderthals. They don't like feeling pressured and/or "used".
Interesting.
So I have a feeling that "personal control" may in fact be the
kicker here.
Let's face it; if you are hungry when you hit the grocery store you
may spend twice as much money on stuff you'll probably never get
around to eating before it goes bad. But ONLY if you lack
discipline.
And yes, if you're about ready to drill a hole in your mattress by
the time you meet up with a woman, you may have "tunnel vision" and
come off as too sex-focused or even DESPERATE when you're with her.
But again...that will ONLY hold true if you lack discipline.
What we have here, gentlemen, could actually be a very real LITMUS
TEST by which we can measure whether or not we have MASTERY over
our own sexuality or not.
That's heavy duty, isn't it?
If you can't handle the heat, then yes...you'd probably better "clean
the pipes" before a date.
But that would be your loss.
Because considering that women are actually ROCKED TO THE CORE by
being in the presence of a man who is both sexually charged and
self-disciplined, if you CAN keep your composure when in that state
you might very well have a WILDLY POWERFUL advantage over most
other guys out there.
And I'm not going to discount that this may be yet another piece of
the puzzle as to why older guys can attract younger women who think
guys their own age are "so immature".
As for the "two pump chump argument, by the way, even that may be
less of an issue than you think.
Contrary to popular belief (there's that "conventional wisdom"
again), a woman may actually be FLATTERED if you blast off quickly
your first time together. I can guarantee it beats the opposite
scenario.
Besides, if she's that hot, don't you think you'd have a "second
round" in you somewhere?
What do you think? Can you field-test everything we're talking
about here without freaking out? Can you believe that a woman may
in fact respond to you in a completely new and powerful way?
At the very least, I can assure you that if you CAN handle all of
this and apply it, you'll be operating at a level that most guys
can't touch.
And you'll probably enjoy your dates that much more, all the while
becoming the newly crowned world champ at ramping up sexual tension.
After all, what guy DOESN'T want to gain every available advantage
when it comes to separating himself from the "herd" and realizing
the ability to attract the very highest quality women on Earth?
If you sense that what we've covered today is at a whole 'nother
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Have a great week, and I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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