[X&Y] "The Schleprock Factor"
Published: Wed, 08/26/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Does "bad luck" follow you everywhere you go,
especially when it comes to women? Luck might have nothing to do
with it after all...
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MORE ON LIVE SEMINARS
Thanks for your amazing response to the announcement in the last
newsletter about the possibility of future X & Y Communications live
events.
We may be packing our bags for Australia and New Zealand already...
which sounds good to us (even so soon after an 18-hour flight).
You have been sending us such great info that I'm going to ask you,
right here and now, to KEEP THE IDEAS COMING.
What would you want us to cover over the course of a weekend
seminar? Who would you like to see us invite as co-presenters?
And, of course, where are you located?
In addition, here are a couple new ideas to consider:
1) Are you a part of a lair or group? If you think you could
coordinate an audience in your local area, go for it...and your seat
will be f-r-e-e. How does that sound?
2) What format would you like to see? Seminar teaching?
"In-field" experience? A combo? Something altogether different?
I look forward to hearing your input.
Someone has already mentioned the concept of coordinating with some
of my friends to build a "dream team" event featuring a number of
world-class experts in one place. I think that's a great idea.
So keep it coming. Here's the address to write me at:
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com
Now, on to "The Schleprock Factor".
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"The Schleprock Factor"
If you have no idea who "Schleprock" was, don't feel bad. You kind
of have to have been a kid in the '70's to have an idea.
You've probably heard of "The Flintstones" though, of course. Fred
and Barney live on in syndicated popularity some forty years after
first gracing prime time TV back in the '60s (yes...the show
originally was targeted at all ages).
Well, a few years later Hanna and Barbera decided to spin-off a
kids' show featuring Pebbles and Bamm-Bamm as teenagers. One of
the characters in this now relatively obscure cartoon series was
named Schleprock.
Now to say that bad luck followed Schleprock would be an
understatement. Basically a dark cloud LITERALLY followed the guy
everywhere. And whenever he showed up, you could be ALL BUT SURE
something rotten was about to happen.
As far as personality is concerned, picture "Eeyore on steroids"
and you aren't too far off.
Decades later, the show has been all but relegated to the vault,
but Schleprock himself has somehow managed to remain embedded in pop
culture as an iconic representation of bad luck.
Maybe you've seen the movie Boiler Room, and remember how Ben
Affleck dismissed the first casualty during the classic "group
interview" scene by saying, "C'mon, let's go Schleprock...out!"
But moreover, I think some of us have gotten to the point where we
identify with Schleprock just a little too closely.
ESPECIALLY when it comes to women.
Believe me, I hear the sob stories detailing "limiting beliefs" all
the time.
Guys all over the world believe that they're not good enough to
attract a high quality women. And even if they believe they are,
for some reason they're under the impression that all these crazy
women just don't--and won't--like them back.
Dozens of times over I've heard the mantra, "I guess I just have no
luck with women".
Well here it is, Schleprock. You do NOT have a "dark cloud"
following you around. Not in real life, at least.
Don't get me wrong, I won't begin to doubt that there are TONS of
guys out there--possibly even reading this newsletter--who have
experienced the Schleprock-like phenomenon of BAD STUFF seeming to
happen around them ALL THE TIME.
But luck has NOTHING to do with it.
And that's the BEST NEWS possible. Because, you see, that means
(as is the case with most issues with women we as guys face) you
can DO SOMETHING about it.
Let me just spell it out for you.
I believe "The Schleprock Factor" follows a very predictable
formula. And here it is:
NEGATIVITY + IRRESPONSIBILITY = SCHLEPROCK
At the risk of underscoring what may be altogether self-evident
from that equation itself, let's break it down a bit.
When we have a NEGATIVE attitude, we essentially lack confidence,
don't we? We see a situation and expect the worst. We see a task
before us, and we naturally presume ultimate failure upon it.
And following logically, we project that kind of failure on others
also.
Call it a "poverty mentality" or whatever, but whether our vision
for others to fail is driven either by our discomfort with their
success OR by a genuine assumption of negative outcome, it really
doesn't matter.
The ramifications are the same: NOBODY IS GOING TO PARTICULARLY
ENJOY HANGING OUT WITH US.
This goes DOUBLE for MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex). After
all, confidence is one of the "Big Four".
And on top being a BUMMER, negativity and failure have this way of
being contagious. Ouch.
It's no wonder you hear so many self-help "gurus" talking about
"ridding one's life of negative people". Right?
For sure, simply having a negative attitude may be enough to
trigger "The Schleprock Factor".
But wait, there's more.
Compounding simple NEGATIVITY in the equation is IRRESPONSIBILITY.
You remember IRRESPONSIBILITY. That's the trait that causes
younger women to IGNORE guys their own age and FLOCK to older men.
Seriously...it's not the gray hair, man.
Irresponsibility involves making bad decisions, including both
errors of omission and commission.
Being irresponsible, besides being a strong indicator that one
lacks wisdom (i.e. life experience), also demonstrates that we lack
SELF-RESPECT enough to guard ourselves from BAD consequences.
Think about it.
So ultimately, when you mesh a NEGATIVE outlook with BAD
decision-making, you essentially blow ATTRACTION out of the picture.
In light of all this, let's go down the "Big Four" checklist and
take inventory.
Let's see... No confidence? No attraction.
Masculinity? Assuming the worst and having bad judgment aren't
exactly the earmarks of a provider OR a protector, are they?
And when you're decision-making and self-respect are at play, how
can you possibly expect to INSPIRE CONFIDENCE in a woman? Is that
the kind of leadership she will gladly choose to follow?
Finally, what about character? Well, I don't exactly see
Schleprock enshrined in the Great Man Hall Of Fame.
If what I'm talking about sounds like "tough love", I make no
apologies.
But REMEMBER ALWAYS...the fact that YOU CONTROL "The Schleprock
Factor" is GOOD NEWS.
And as always, it all comes down to deserving what you want.
With that in mind, I've got something cool for you.
Above I mentioned that the idea has been brought up of creating a
"dream team event" featuring some of the world's best dating
coaches.
Well, the truth is that you can already pick the brains of a "dream
team" composed of OVER FOUR DOZEN of the most respected minds out
there when it comes to getting better with women. And you can do
it TODAY.
I really can't think of a better way of building a solid foundation
for success with women--especially when it comes to KNOCKING DEAD
every limiting belief that's been "Schleprocking" your world.
I'm talking about Virtuosity, of course. And now you can score the
entire 60+ hour juggernaut of a program for just $97:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/virtuosity/special
And RIGHT NOW, until midnight on Wednesday, September 16th, I'm
also going to fork over a copy of Deserve What You Want as a
special bonus when you get your copy of Virtuosity...absolutely
F-R-E-E.
So here's that link again. Get in on this one while you can:
http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/virtuosity/special
By the time you read this, Emily and I should be heading back to
the States closing out "X & Y Communications Asia Tour 2009". I
look forward to talking to you soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Yes, I realize the trip has put us behind as far as getting
new episodes of the podcasts out to you. We're on it!
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