[X&Y] Do You REALLY Want More Success With Women?
Published: Tue, 11/10/09
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IN THIS EDITION: Do you REALLY want to get better with women...or
are you just TELLING yourself that?
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DO YOU REALLY WANT MORE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN?
As I begin to write this, I already instinctively know that this is
going to be one of those newsletters that its audience.
Assuming you read all the way to the end, you might end up
unsubscribing out of anger...OR your life may be changed dramatically
forever, and for the better.
Either way, how you react to the words that follow will be YOUR
DECISION. Know that going in.
But enough of an intro.
Here's the thing: Based on the e-mails I get, I am seeing a
fascinating, if somewhat tragic, trend going on.
There are guys out there who are literally MANUFACTURING "limiting
beliefs" for themselves, even as they SAY they want to welcome
fantastic, beautiful and sexy women into their lives.
Are you one of those guys?
I'm sure you're shaking your head. After all, why even be
subscribed to a newsletter like this if your goal ISN'T to improve
with women?
Well, I have to wonder myself.
But listen, I get calls almost every day from guys who think their
age, height, ethnicity or some other factor is holding them back.
And even though in 100% of the cases (yes...I said 100%) that sort of
"limiting belief" can indeed be overcome with breathtaking
effectiveness, I can understand why we as guys could find ourselves
focusing on the self-perceived "negatives".
If you feel like life had "dealt you a bad hand", it's hard enough
to overcome it (even though you can, of course).
But the scenario that still doesn't fail to literally shock me
after almost four years at this stuff is when guys literally INVENT
stuff to MAKE SURE success with women eludes them.
Worse, sometimes guys even credit such "limiting beliefs" as beyond
their control, when they most certainly are completely within their
sphere of personal influence.
What am I talking about here?
Here are a few examples.
For starters, a guy may be living at home with his mom at age
40...lamenting the fact that he can't get a date because of it.
Or, a guy may have been laid off from his job, and completely
convinced that no woman will ever date him until he gets a job.
Or a certain guy may be 20 or 30 pounds overweight and assume
that's what's holding him back from meeting women. After all (so
he thinks), what woman would want a guy who is 20 or 30 pounds
overweight?
Like for "limiting beliefs" that revolve around issues that are
BEYOND OUR CONTROL, I can understand why we as guys would feel like
we're at a disadvantage under such circumstances when it comes to
attracting women.
But there's a BIG DIFFERENCE here.
The three examples I've listed above are FULLY WITHIN OUR CONTROL.
If you're 40 years old and still living with your Mommy, you can
move out.
If you've lost your job, you CAN get another one.
And if you've got some weight to lose, you CAN do it.
To be completely realistic with you, even these self-imposed
"limitations" aren't the obstacles to attracting women that we make
them out to be.
Heck, you're talking to a guy who once told himself that until he
lost 30 pounds, no woman would want him. After my divorce, I
waited until I lost the weight before I started dating.
Sure enough, I started meeting some nice women. THEN...I ended up
gaining much of the weight back and women liked me MORE. Go figure.
And remember, you're also talking to a guy who lost his DREAM JOB
around the same time his first marriage ended. But I STILL was
able to get a date.
Women were perfectly understanding of the fact that there was a
downturn in the IT world and that I was looking for a new job.
All I needed to be was confident that the new job would happen.
And I had to actively LOOK for that job instead of watching Jerry
Springer and collecting unemployment checks.
So yes. If you believe you're too fat, you CAN lose the weight
(even though it really doesn't matter as much as you think).
And if you're unemployed, you CAN find a job.
And if you live at home, you CAN move out (although admittedly, I
haven't had to come to grips with this one personally...it's just
WAY, WAY too farfetched a thought).
But so many guys STILL DON'T.
In fact, they DON'T EVEN REALLY TRY.
What's up with that?
I'll tell you "what's up with that".
No matter how much some of us SAY we want to be more successful
with women, the TRUTH is that we're MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE WITH
MEDIOCRITY.
That's right, I said it.
The "status quo" flat-out DOESN'T HURT ENOUGH to be worth changing.
Sure, we can subscribe to newsletters and listen to podcasts, but
that just serves as a way of temporarily assuaging ourselves that
we're doing something to get better with women...but we really aren't.
For better or worse, in this culture (and if you can afford an
Internet connection you qualify) living in mediocrity is FAR too
comfortable.
In fact, we can literally PAY to fuel our unhappiness within the
"incomplete but at least acceptable" frame that we live in.
We've got a roof over our heads, nobody's shooting at us, and we're
not starving. So loading a new game on the ol' X-box and diving
into a new bag of chips is like falling out of bed.
And it all feels sort of okay, if not flat-out GOOD at times.
Meanwhile, ANY sort of change AT ALL involves inherent discomfort,
doesn't it? Something's gotta give, and that involves moving away
from the routine of "normal" life and facing the uncertainty of
what the future holds.
Not always such a fun thought, is it?
And then there's that ONE DEVASTATING FACTOR that's so hard to
ignore: You may TRY...but FAIL.
And the emotions associated with that--especially as a man--are
potentially too heavy to deal with.
So what do we do? We wake up today and do the same thing we did
yesterday.
And we also continue to give lip service to the fact that it sucks
that we can't find any great women to be with.
Well guess what?
If you REALLY WANT to end the cycle of failure with women and START
meeting great ones for a change, you've GOT TO DO SOMETHING.
It may be have to be something radical, but probably not.
In fact, the steps necessary to bring about the change you SAY YOU
WANT may not be nearly as "scary" as you think they are.
But you MUST move from top dead center. Otherwise, you'll keep
doing what you've always done and you'll keep getting what you've
always gotten.
All the while, women are CRAVING GREAT MEN out there.
I'm speaking the truth when I say that if you at least MAKE AN
EFFORT as a man with even a SHRED OF CONFIDENCE, you WILL be
rewarded by women with their respect and even their affection.
But you've also GOT to make the decision to GO FOR IT.
Some of you have been writing me e-mails asking me for "quick fix"
answers to complex questions. You say you want a life-changing
"silver bullet", but you don't want to invest any time, energy or
even a few bucks to get the answers.
And no matter what I write in response to your e-mail--even though I
expend more personal time and energy when I answer you than you did
when you asked--you'll do NOTHING.
Well guess what?
Today's newsletter is for YOU if you're REALLY SICK of not having
the women in your life you want to deserve. And if you've been
challenged and perhaps even motivated by what you've read so far I
applaud you. After all, I WAS ONCE IN YOUR SHOES.
But fast-forward to today... Man am I ever glad that back in 2002 I
LOST EVERYTHING. Otherwise, I may have never been motivated to
change.
If I hadn't been FORCED to change, I may STILL be a "cubicle
jockey" by day and in a miserable marriage.
But here it is: You DO NOT have to LOSE EVERYTHING in order to
wake up to the fact that MASSIVE SUCCESS could be right under your
nose.
And I sincerely TRUST you don't have to lose everything to figure
that all out.
But what IS it going to take?
Right now I've got a GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY for you--but only if you're
TRULY SICK of mediocrity and are READY to start meeting the women
you want to meet.
The Master Plan is the definitive roadmap to becoming the "Big
Four" man I always talk about.
Confident. Masculine. A man of character. Able to cause women to
be comfortable and secure in his presence.
That's what great women want in a man. And if you REALLY want high
quality women in your life, The Master Plan has ALL THE ANSWERS you
need.
Well, if you can relate to what I've said to you in this newsletter
I'm ready to PROVE to you that a better life with better women is
CLOSER than you think:
http://bit.ly/3rQWqh
Today is the day to get your copy of The Master Plan, even if
you've been "kicking the tires" and SAYING you'll get around to it
for months now.
Why?
Because now that I've done what I can to motivate you away from
mediocrity, I'm ready to STAND WITH YOU to put an end to it once
and for all.
And I'm ready to STAND WITH YOU to start welcoming GREAT WOMEN into
your life.
How's that?
If you pull the trigger on getting A BETTER LIFE WITH WOMEN by
getting your copy of The Master Plan between now and Friday night
at midnight Texas time (CST, GMT -6), I'm going to give you a FULL
HOUR of 1-on-1 coaching time with me personally as part of the deal.
For those of you doing the math at home, an hour with me costs $147
BY ITSELF. So this is like getting The Master Plan for F-R-E-E.
Even if you GET The Master Plan on any other day, adding on an hour
of coaching is usually $97 as a SPECIAL.
So why am I doing this?
Well it's not marketing hype, because I'm offering real hours out
of my real life to make this happen for you.
The deal is that I was ONCE WHERE YOU ARE, and these days I'm
living my DREAM LIFESTYLE with an amazing woman as a BIG, BIG part
of it.
But not too long ago, my address was Mediocrity City, USA. And I
was OKAY with it at the time.
But what I didn't know was that EVEN THOUGH I WAS COMFORTABLE,
changes could quickly come along that were BEYOND MY CONTROL and
knock down the whole "house of cards".
So even Mediocrity City, USA isn't such a safe neighborhood after
all.
And I don't want you to live there. Furthermore, I KNOW IN MY
HEART you can MOVE UP to a much, much better zip code.
The only thing left is for YOU to want it as badly as I want it for
you. So here's that link again:
http://bit.ly/3rQWqh
When you order, pay no attention to the offer for an "extra hour of
coaching". You're going to get that for F-R-E-E.
You don't even have to do anything special to take advantage of
that. I'll email you personally after you order to schedule our
time on the phone together. It can be before or after you go
through The Master Plan--your choice.
But because I only have so many hours in the day (like everyone
else), you've got to ACT FAST to get in on this.
As a matter of fact, those of you who are willing to ACT are the
ones who will be MOST LIKELY to get out of the RUT that is a
mediocre lifestyle devoid of great women.
So are you motivated? Here's the link:
http://bit.ly/3rQWqh
YES...you can even get a F-R-E-E month's subscription to my Power
Sessions inner circle as part of the plan.
That means E-MAIL COACHING IS INCLUDED, as are killer audio programs
like "How To Go From Zero To First Kiss With A Woman You Just Met",
which is the very latest.
And I'll talk to you again soon,
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Right now I have exactly ONE Ten-Plus slot open. If what
I've written today TRULY motivates you and you're ready for a VERY
SPECIFIC and PERSONALIZED PLAN to go from where you are right now
with women to where you want to be, contact me at
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com for more information or visit:
http://bit.ly/48GZFi
P.P.S. You guys have been asking for objective answers to how to
approach women in VERY STICKY situations. Obviously, if you see a
great woman you shouldn't let minor complexities like that dissuade
you. So next time I'm going to give you a clear plan of action for
several particularly challenging approach situations. Stay tuned...
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