[X&Y] Field Report: How To "Raise The Bar Above All The Other Guys"...And FAST
Published: Mon, 12/28/09
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Last week a guy we'll call "Greg" exercised his right as a Power Sessions member to e-mail coaching on demand.
He asked several questions about how to handle "holiday plans" that had been made with a woman he had recently met and really liked, and I was glad to give him some input--and some encouragement.
Earlier today he sent me a follow up on how things actually went, which I've reprinted for you below.
I knew immediately I had to share this with you, because Greg's "field report" is a TEXTBOOK representation of what happens when we let go of our limiting beliefs, old habits and irrational fears and put the "big four" (confidence, masculinity, the ability to inspire confidence in women, character) into motion:
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"I'm 'Batting 1000', She Says..."
Scot:
My crazy weekend extended from going over to TN for a simple Christmas dinner to a weekend stay and time with her family.
I've heard such things from her as: I've "raised the bar above all the other guys", she "likes how I take charge...especially sexually"...funny since my stance which I've stuck to, plus not going to bust a stitch after surgery - LOL!
[Ed. Note: Greg recently had surgery, and just got out of the hospital.]
When I'm healed up, she promised "payback is going to be hell" -- in good way...
Reminds me, you have any links to any of David Shade's wild screaming orgasm material? Might as well give you a referral if I can. Looks like I need those materials.
I'm "batting 1000" she says (impressed all her friends and family), and she says there "isn't really much I fail at" - especially in my life purpose and having that one great woman along with me and making damn sure I get what I deserve.
Big Four in full force here with her - very obvious now.
Femininity is ignited like a flare at this point, and she feels comfortable enough that she's willing to open up every part of her life to me for the taking and freely admitted it.
I'm doing all the "work" by leading and she is completely enjoying the experience. My putting attention on her like I have is simply something she's "never experienced before". (Heh, I actually asked her that. Lines up with p. 14 in the Chick Whisperer).
I didn't know at first with her serious independent personality if she'd fall in line and follow my lead.
I'm convinced if I actually popped the question tomorrow, she'd accept...not there yet - not even close it will take time because I need to ensure I am not settling and I need to get past the "best face" everyone puts on at the beginning when they get to know each other.
I'm convinced she'd follow me from Heaven to Hell and everywhere between and she'd fight tooth and nail for what we'd have.
Still - amazing that after 2 weeks (only 7 days of actually seeing each other) that she has come this far with me and at this point she's worried that she'll wake up one day and the other shoe will drop.
I told her it will be okay and I'll work through her fears with her and the last thing I want to do is hurt her.
She knows how I'm running my dating life and that it takes time before getting exclusive.
It is in everyone's best interest that I am absolutely certain that how high I've raised the bar is to the very top.
I have to say man, this is truly attributed to your materials - the Master Plan and Chick Whispering and really I haven't gotten through the bulk of most of the stuff -- it's just that powerful.
Still, not a time to give up or think I've learned enough. My self improvements in this area will be ongoing for a lifetime. It's about deserving what I want, finding it *and* keeping it.
-Greg (Roanoke, VA)
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Although every aspect of what Greg has experienced is POWERFUL, pay particularly close attention to how he INSPIRED CONFIDENCE in a woman he hasn't even known for all that long.
If you've been really trying to get your head around that concept once and for all, Greg's story illustrates it perfectly.
Note also that we're talking about a woman with an "independent" personality. Even so, the "big four" still represents exactly what she wants...a man who can LEAD in everyone's BEST INTEREST.
So, a great job overall by Greg...culminating with the associated results. I can't wait to hear more reports from him.
And did you notice that he's taking things slow, even though she's ready to spend the rest of her life with him already?
That's what happens when you're a CHOOSER instead of a CHASER.
Greg might have to exercise some "charm throttling", like we talked about a couple of newsletters ago, right?
Cheers,
Scot McKay
P.S. By the way, I don't want to leave you hanging... The link to David Shade's "Wild Screaming Orgasms" program that Greg mentioned is here:
I've never really told you about it before because it's one of those particularly "edgy" programs, but at this point I know David Shade well enough to implicitly trust that what he teaches is pure gold.
And this is pretty much the teaching that made him famous.
Particularly, it really does cover the areas that will take you from "good" to "great" at satisfying the woman in your life.
That's worth investing some time and effort into becoming the best you can be at, believe me.
...And if nothing else, you should click this link because the woman at the top of the Web site is really, really a cutie:
P.P.S As for The Master Plan and Chick Whispering, by now I'm confident that you know where to find those already:
And if for some reason you're still hanging on to your gift card, I can understand if Greg's story has inspired you now more than ever to use it.
Well, right on. You can do so ANY TIME between now and January 1st.
Just enter "giftcard20" in the "Gift Card" field when ordering anything from the X & Y Communications Store, and I'll have just spotted you $20 bucks toward the cause.
Enjoy...
And remember, you can always get your first month of Power Sessions absolutely f-r-e-e with any purchase, and e-mail me your questions any time.
Greg took full advantage of that, and so can you.
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