[X&Y] Why Women Are Like Football
Published: Tue, 01/12/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You can learn a lot about why your woman is treating
you a certain way by watching the NFL. Here's why.
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THE NAME IS BOND...JAMES BOND
OK, here it is: What I'm about to share with you is at the same
time one of the COOLEST and MOST COMPLETELY DIFFERENT links I've
ever printed in a newsletter:
http://bit.ly/4BFPP9
If you're like me, you've got to be a huge fan of James Bond flicks
(and maybe even the original Ian Fleming novels, too).
I mean, what guy wouldn't want to live that kind of life?
Well get this: A new friend of mine thinks he can show you--in an
easy step-by-step format, mind you--how to live your life as close
to how 007 HIMSELF does as is allowed by the off-screen reality of
the Laws Of Physics.
We're talking intrigue, travel, mystery, allure, martinis, tuxedos
and--of course--adoring women all over the world.
Everything's covered, except you won't really need to get shot at
or deal with some guy who has a laser pointed at your nether
regions...thankfully.
I actually have a copy of his program and I have to tell you he's
got some COMPELLING stuff waiting for you.
You'll be flat-out surprised by how easy it can be to make some
simple but powerful changes to your lifestyle that will deliver
some VERY REAL results, and quickly.
Look at it this way. Stepping confidently into that next cocktail
party like you're Sean Connery can't suck.
Best of all, this isn't going to break the bank. Take a look...and
live a little:
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You can learn a lot about why your woman is treating
you a certain way by watching the NFL. Here's why.
=====
THE NAME IS BOND...JAMES BOND
OK, here it is: What I'm about to share with you is at the same
time one of the COOLEST and MOST COMPLETELY DIFFERENT links I've
ever printed in a newsletter:
http://bit.ly/4BFPP9
If you're like me, you've got to be a huge fan of James Bond flicks
(and maybe even the original Ian Fleming novels, too).
I mean, what guy wouldn't want to live that kind of life?
Well get this: A new friend of mine thinks he can show you--in an
easy step-by-step format, mind you--how to live your life as close
to how 007 HIMSELF does as is allowed by the off-screen reality of
the Laws Of Physics.
We're talking intrigue, travel, mystery, allure, martinis, tuxedos
and--of course--adoring women all over the world.
Everything's covered, except you won't really need to get shot at
or deal with some guy who has a laser pointed at your nether
regions...thankfully.
I actually have a copy of his program and I have to tell you he's
got some COMPELLING stuff waiting for you.
You'll be flat-out surprised by how easy it can be to make some
simple but powerful changes to your lifestyle that will deliver
some VERY REAL results, and quickly.
Look at it this way. Stepping confidently into that next cocktail
party like you're Sean Connery can't suck.
Best of all, this isn't going to break the bank. Take a look...and
live a little:
http://bit.ly/4BFPP9
At the very least, do yourself a favor and click that link just to
get an idea of what's going on there. It's a freaking great read.
And now, let's move to the topic of the week.
Maybe your older brother pulled you aside when you were about 14
and gave you a little "talk" that started out with something like,
"You see bro, women are like football..."
Or maybe he didn't...which is why I've written this week's newsletter
for you. Enjoy.
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WOMEN ARE LIKE FOOTBALL
This past weekend, at least two significant events happened.
First, the NFL (American football) playoffs began.
Second, I had a breakthrough phone coaching call with a guy who has
been having a hard time getting his girlfriend to be consistently
attracted to him.
The issue at hand between the guy and his girlfriend was one that
I've heard time and again.
Essentially, although he had managed to make her wildly attracted
to him at first, things had taken a turn for the worse lately.
She was ending phone conversations sooner than usual and claiming
she was "too busy" to see him as often as in the past.
She was acting kind of "flaky" in that sometimes she seemed quite
affectionate, only to flip-flop at the drop of a hat...saying things
out of the blue like, "You know, I'm not sure I really want to be
your girlfriend anymore."
And worst of all, the previously sweet and approving woman he
professed to love so much had now morphed into a woman who was
easily irritated by even small things and nagged him bitterly...but
only SOMETIMES.
My friend was feeling that somehow his "big four" presence was
slipping.
He thought maybe he had grown a bit complacent on the masculinity
front, and now that she wasn't responding as well to him lately his
confidence was also taking a hit as a direct result.
The vortex was starting to swirl, and he could feel a cold wind on
the back of his neck. His relationship with the woman seemed to be
in grave danger indeed.
So he had called me, and the conversation had invariably turned to,
"How can I figure out what women want? Women seem to be impossible
to understand."
Well, as is a major premise of the Chick Whispering e-book, the
truth is that men and women are more ALIKE than DIFFERENT. And
surprise: What was going on here was NOT AT ALL gender specific.
In fact, as fortune would have it, the quintessentially perfect
analogy had been laid out before our very eyes all weekend long as
the first four NFL playoff games unfolded.
That's right. Women are like football.
Or to be more specific, actually, women are like football FANS.
Here are two examples, lifted directly from this weekend's games.
(And no worries, those of you outside the U.S. You'll be able to
apply what I'm about to talk about to ANY big game scenario in the
sport of your choice.)
On Saturday night, the Dallas Cowboys played the Philadelphia
Eagles. There's a HUGE rivalry between the two teams.
Last week, Dallas had beaten Philly in the last regular season
game...by a lot.
So expectations were high that we'd all see more of the same this
week once the playoffs started.
And given the long, storied history of the Cowboys franchise and
the massive amount of cash spent by the team's owner, Dallas fans
were hoping for the best.
After all, they LOVE their team.
...or at least they SORT OF DO.
You see, the same team that earned its massive following by being a
Super Bowl powerhouse from the '70s through the mid-'90s had not
won a single playoff game since 1996.
In fact, one of precious few chances the Cowboys DID have in recent
years to advance in the playoffs had been marred by the current
quarterback's fumbling of the snap for a field goal attempt that
would have sealed the victory.
So guess what?
Dallas fans had become big-time grumblers in recent years, and any
time quarterback Tony Romo was less than perfect, it always seemed
to come up that he was the "guy who fumbled the snap".
But this past Saturday night, something magical happened.
The Cowboys won the game. They freaking WON.
What's more, they won BIG.
And let's just say that after the game, NOBODY complained. In
fact, they cheered their brains out.
Owner Jerry Jones looked like a kid in a candy store, slapping
everyone on the back.
The playoff drought had ended.
Nobody remembered the bad snap from a few years ago, and nobody
At the very least, do yourself a favor and click that link just to
get an idea of what's going on there. It's a freaking great read.
And now, let's move to the topic of the week.
Maybe your older brother pulled you aside when you were about 14
and gave you a little "talk" that started out with something like,
"You see bro, women are like football..."
Or maybe he didn't...which is why I've written this week's newsletter
for you. Enjoy.
=====
WOMEN ARE LIKE FOOTBALL
This past weekend, at least two significant events happened.
First, the NFL (American football) playoffs began.
Second, I had a breakthrough phone coaching call with a guy who has
been having a hard time getting his girlfriend to be consistently
attracted to him.
The issue at hand between the guy and his girlfriend was one that
I've heard time and again.
Essentially, although he had managed to make her wildly attracted
to him at first, things had taken a turn for the worse lately.
She was ending phone conversations sooner than usual and claiming
she was "too busy" to see him as often as in the past.
She was acting kind of "flaky" in that sometimes she seemed quite
affectionate, only to flip-flop at the drop of a hat...saying things
out of the blue like, "You know, I'm not sure I really want to be
your girlfriend anymore."
And worst of all, the previously sweet and approving woman he
professed to love so much had now morphed into a woman who was
easily irritated by even small things and nagged him bitterly...but
only SOMETIMES.
My friend was feeling that somehow his "big four" presence was
slipping.
He thought maybe he had grown a bit complacent on the masculinity
front, and now that she wasn't responding as well to him lately his
confidence was also taking a hit as a direct result.
The vortex was starting to swirl, and he could feel a cold wind on
the back of his neck. His relationship with the woman seemed to be
in grave danger indeed.
So he had called me, and the conversation had invariably turned to,
"How can I figure out what women want? Women seem to be impossible
to understand."
Well, as is a major premise of the Chick Whispering e-book, the
truth is that men and women are more ALIKE than DIFFERENT. And
surprise: What was going on here was NOT AT ALL gender specific.
In fact, as fortune would have it, the quintessentially perfect
analogy had been laid out before our very eyes all weekend long as
the first four NFL playoff games unfolded.
That's right. Women are like football.
Or to be more specific, actually, women are like football FANS.
Here are two examples, lifted directly from this weekend's games.
(And no worries, those of you outside the U.S. You'll be able to
apply what I'm about to talk about to ANY big game scenario in the
sport of your choice.)
On Saturday night, the Dallas Cowboys played the Philadelphia
Eagles. There's a HUGE rivalry between the two teams.
Last week, Dallas had beaten Philly in the last regular season
game...by a lot.
So expectations were high that we'd all see more of the same this
week once the playoffs started.
And given the long, storied history of the Cowboys franchise and
the massive amount of cash spent by the team's owner, Dallas fans
were hoping for the best.
After all, they LOVE their team.
...or at least they SORT OF DO.
You see, the same team that earned its massive following by being a
Super Bowl powerhouse from the '70s through the mid-'90s had not
won a single playoff game since 1996.
In fact, one of precious few chances the Cowboys DID have in recent
years to advance in the playoffs had been marred by the current
quarterback's fumbling of the snap for a field goal attempt that
would have sealed the victory.
So guess what?
Dallas fans had become big-time grumblers in recent years, and any
time quarterback Tony Romo was less than perfect, it always seemed
to come up that he was the "guy who fumbled the snap".
But this past Saturday night, something magical happened.
The Cowboys won the game. They freaking WON.
What's more, they won BIG.
And let's just say that after the game, NOBODY complained. In
fact, they cheered their brains out.
Owner Jerry Jones looked like a kid in a candy store, slapping
everyone on the back.
The playoff drought had ended.
Nobody remembered the bad snap from a few years ago, and nobody
was criticizing the "wretched excess" of the Cowboy's ridiculously
expensive new stadium, as many had before.
Meanwhile, the next day in Boston a very different story played out.
The New England Patriots, who for a decade now have been one of
expensive new stadium, as many had before.
Meanwhile, the next day in Boston a very different story played out.
The New England Patriots, who for a decade now have been one of
the most dominant teams in the league, were once again in the
playoffs and favored to win at home against a notoriously inconsistent
Baltimore Ravens team.
After a year out due to injury in '08, quarterback Tom Brady was
looking sharp again. And the Patriots had won their last ELEVEN
playoff games at home IN A ROW.
Meanwhile, the Ravens had limped into the playoffs after a regular
season featuring multiple losses to major rivals and at least a
couple unimpressive wins against very bad teams.
In Baltimore, fans were hoping for the best, but preparing for the
worst. Who knew which team would "show up"?
And in Boston rabid fans filled Foxboro Stadium smelling blood.
The Super Bowl appearances of recent memory had become the
standard, and this was to be but the first step on the road to the
next one.
But just four minutes into the game, Baltimore had jumped out to a
14-0 lead. By the end of the quarter, the score was 24-0 and the
die was cast.
About midway through the quarter, Patriots fans had started BOOING
THEIR TEAM.
They were disgusted. And they let their team know it...loud and
clear.
By the time the game was over, everyone in Baltimore had forgiven
any mediocrity exhibited during the regular season.
Suddenly, Ravens fans kicked themselves for failing to remember
that their team has a historical tendency to outperform as an
"underdog" at playoff time.
Short memories grew longer again. The Ravens had sort of done this
sort of thing last year, and back in '00 when they won the Super
Bowl.
So let's break all of this down. What happened here?
Two teams, the Cowboys and the Patriots, had built up VERY HIGH
EXPECTATIONS over the years with their fans.
The Patriots had kept their fan base pretty much happy over recent
years. But in one fell swoop, the sentiment of the fans
COMPLETELY changed.
Why? Because the Patriots had not lived up to what they made
themselves out to be in the eyes of their fans.
And the Cowboys?
After years of dominance, Dallas fans had become a complaining lot
who NAGGED their team consistently...all because the Cowboys were,
well, NOT PLAYING like the team that had made them fans.
But...The IMPORTANT part was that as soon as EXPECTATIONS
Baltimore Ravens team.
After a year out due to injury in '08, quarterback Tom Brady was
looking sharp again. And the Patriots had won their last ELEVEN
playoff games at home IN A ROW.
Meanwhile, the Ravens had limped into the playoffs after a regular
season featuring multiple losses to major rivals and at least a
couple unimpressive wins against very bad teams.
In Baltimore, fans were hoping for the best, but preparing for the
worst. Who knew which team would "show up"?
And in Boston rabid fans filled Foxboro Stadium smelling blood.
The Super Bowl appearances of recent memory had become the
standard, and this was to be but the first step on the road to the
next one.
But just four minutes into the game, Baltimore had jumped out to a
14-0 lead. By the end of the quarter, the score was 24-0 and the
die was cast.
About midway through the quarter, Patriots fans had started BOOING
THEIR TEAM.
They were disgusted. And they let their team know it...loud and
clear.
By the time the game was over, everyone in Baltimore had forgiven
any mediocrity exhibited during the regular season.
Suddenly, Ravens fans kicked themselves for failing to remember
that their team has a historical tendency to outperform as an
"underdog" at playoff time.
Short memories grew longer again. The Ravens had sort of done this
sort of thing last year, and back in '00 when they won the Super
Bowl.
So let's break all of this down. What happened here?
Two teams, the Cowboys and the Patriots, had built up VERY HIGH
EXPECTATIONS over the years with their fans.
The Patriots had kept their fan base pretty much happy over recent
years. But in one fell swoop, the sentiment of the fans
COMPLETELY changed.
Why? Because the Patriots had not lived up to what they made
themselves out to be in the eyes of their fans.
And the Cowboys?
After years of dominance, Dallas fans had become a complaining lot
who NAGGED their team consistently...all because the Cowboys were,
well, NOT PLAYING like the team that had made them fans.
But...The IMPORTANT part was that as soon as EXPECTATIONS
WERE MET again, the fans were HAPPY once again also.
And in Baltimore, the story played out in a similar way, didn't it?
You see, human nature is PREDICTABLE.
And your relationship with any woman who enters your life is VERY
MUCH like the relationship between an NFL team and its fans.
If you ATTRACT a woman early by being a confident, masculine "Big
Four" man, she might very well become your BIGGEST FAN.
You will have set the expectation that you're a winner.
But if you start letting your "game" slip over the course of weeks
and months, the grumbling is going to start...all because YOU aren't
living up to expectations.
That's right. Whether or not she is cheering or booing is UP TO
YOU.
Just like each NFL team has DIRECT influence over how fans react,
women are similarly FOLLOWING YOUR LEAD.
When you show up looking like "America's Team", you'll cause a high
quality woman to love you.
But when you start "fumbling the snap", she might not be so
thrilled anymore.
Will she "fall off the bandwagon" and dump you?
Maybe, maybe not.
She may stick around for a while hoping your "team" recaptures
"lost glory"...but you'll hear the boos and jeers all the while.
So now you've been given the secret to why women lose attraction
and start nagging in terms that should be clear to any red-blooded
man.
But the good news is that if you man up and START LIVING UP TO
And in Baltimore, the story played out in a similar way, didn't it?
You see, human nature is PREDICTABLE.
And your relationship with any woman who enters your life is VERY
MUCH like the relationship between an NFL team and its fans.
If you ATTRACT a woman early by being a confident, masculine "Big
Four" man, she might very well become your BIGGEST FAN.
You will have set the expectation that you're a winner.
But if you start letting your "game" slip over the course of weeks
and months, the grumbling is going to start...all because YOU aren't
living up to expectations.
That's right. Whether or not she is cheering or booing is UP TO
YOU.
Just like each NFL team has DIRECT influence over how fans react,
women are similarly FOLLOWING YOUR LEAD.
When you show up looking like "America's Team", you'll cause a high
quality woman to love you.
But when you start "fumbling the snap", she might not be so
thrilled anymore.
Will she "fall off the bandwagon" and dump you?
Maybe, maybe not.
She may stick around for a while hoping your "team" recaptures
"lost glory"...but you'll hear the boos and jeers all the while.
So now you've been given the secret to why women lose attraction
and start nagging in terms that should be clear to any red-blooded
man.
But the good news is that if you man up and START LIVING UP TO
THE STANDARD YOU LED WITH EARLY ON, you really can get your
"biggest fan" to forget the "regular season".
And...just like a team that builds a flat-out DYNASTY over a few
years, if you can CONSISTENTLY be the "Big Four" man you know you
can be, then you'll tend to attract your share of those "bandwagon"
fans also.
In other words, relax and have fun...the women will love you.
What if you relate more to the Ravens? That is, maybe your first
impression needs some work early on.
The best news of all is that if you're playing for THAT team, the
day you "show up" as a "Big Four" man you could galvanize your
somewhat tepid "fan base" wildly, dramatically, and QUICKLY.
In other words, women who TOLERATE you today may develop
And...just like a team that builds a flat-out DYNASTY over a few
years, if you can CONSISTENTLY be the "Big Four" man you know you
can be, then you'll tend to attract your share of those "bandwagon"
fans also.
In other words, relax and have fun...the women will love you.
What if you relate more to the Ravens? That is, maybe your first
impression needs some work early on.
The best news of all is that if you're playing for THAT team, the
day you "show up" as a "Big Four" man you could galvanize your
somewhat tepid "fan base" wildly, dramatically, and QUICKLY.
In other words, women who TOLERATE you today may develop
MASSIVE CRUSHES on you instead.
Oh, and there's one more important part.
Consider the wide receiver who completes a 40 yard catch and
ensuing run for the end zone after bobbling the ball a few times
and almost dropping it.
If he plays for a team that's LIVING UP to expectations, fans will
go, "Man...that was close...but what a GREAT PLAY!"
But if he plays for a team that's DISAPPOINTING its fans, they'll
say, "Great...the bum almost screwed that one up too...he just got
LUCKY this time."
Think about it. That premise also holds true in relationships,
and for BOTH OF YOU. If you are meeting each other's expectations,
you'll give each other the benefit of the doubt when the "grey
areas" arise.
If you're NOT meeting each other's expectations, though, the same
"grey area" could trigger more nagging.
The best course of action? Be the "Big Four" man who attracts
women from the beginning, and NEVER, EVER go "soft".
Once you attract a woman, KEEP DOING WHAT ATTRACTED HER.
Oh, and there's one more important part.
Consider the wide receiver who completes a 40 yard catch and
ensuing run for the end zone after bobbling the ball a few times
and almost dropping it.
If he plays for a team that's LIVING UP to expectations, fans will
go, "Man...that was close...but what a GREAT PLAY!"
But if he plays for a team that's DISAPPOINTING its fans, they'll
say, "Great...the bum almost screwed that one up too...he just got
LUCKY this time."
Think about it. That premise also holds true in relationships,
and for BOTH OF YOU. If you are meeting each other's expectations,
you'll give each other the benefit of the doubt when the "grey
areas" arise.
If you're NOT meeting each other's expectations, though, the same
"grey area" could trigger more nagging.
The best course of action? Be the "Big Four" man who attracts
women from the beginning, and NEVER, EVER go "soft".
Once you attract a woman, KEEP DOING WHAT ATTRACTED HER.
Keep up the good work, and she'll stay your biggest fan.
In fact, she'll probably even talk you up when with her friends...kind
In fact, she'll probably even talk you up when with her friends...kind
of like the Ravens and Cowboys fans are this week. Nice.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Actually, a THIRD significant event happened this past
weekend, as some of you may already know.
I shared a conference room with about 30 well-known "dating gurus"
from all over the world for three days. If you are on Power
Sessions, you're going to reap some SERIOUS benefits, in video form
starting TOMORROW.
Look forward to a blog post also, in which I'll share more about
who was there and what happened.
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
http://bit.ly/ohBdR
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to "xandy@aweber.com". Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Actually, a THIRD significant event happened this past
weekend, as some of you may already know.
I shared a conference room with about 30 well-known "dating gurus"
from all over the world for three days. If you are on Power
Sessions, you're going to reap some SERIOUS benefits, in video form
starting TOMORROW.
Look forward to a blog post also, in which I'll share more about
who was there and what happened.
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
http://bit.ly/ohBdR
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to "xandy@aweber.com". Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.