[X&Y] Finally...The REAL Secret To Getting Physical Fast
Published: Thu, 01/21/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Here's the REAL way to get a woman sexually
charged for you sooner than later...and most guys have been getting
this ALL WRONG their entire lives.
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IF YOU'RE NOT MEETING WOMEN ONLINE ABOUT NOW, YOU
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IN THIS EDITION: Here's the REAL way to get a woman sexually
charged for you sooner than later...and most guys have been getting
this ALL WRONG their entire lives.
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IF YOU'RE NOT MEETING WOMEN ONLINE ABOUT NOW, YOU
MUST BE NUTS
Here's a pop quiz. Ready?
became DEAD EASY.
Seriously, writing to women online between NOW and mid-February
Here's a pop quiz. Ready?
This can only mean one thing: Succeeding at online dating justQ: Once February rolls around, what is EVERY WOMAN'Sdeepest fear?
A: Being alone on Valentine's Day, of course.
became DEAD EASY.
Seriously, writing to women online between NOW and mid-February
can and should be like "shooting fish in a barrel", as one of my
Ten-Plus guys has put it.
And it can be that way for YOU...but ONLY IF you know the ropes and
can avoid the boneheaded mistakes that OVER 95% of guys--all who
quit online dating in shame and disgust within 90 days--are
OBVIOUSLY making.
If you want to be on top of things with every advantage down
stone-cold when "prime time" rolls around about February 1st or so
I'd suggest getting down to business RIGHT NOW.
To that end, my main man Dave M. and I have once again opened the
doors to that killer 2-for-1 deal designed to get you up to speed
with online dating in RECORD TIME.
Here's the link with the info:
Ten-Plus guys has put it.
And it can be that way for YOU...but ONLY IF you know the ropes and
can avoid the boneheaded mistakes that OVER 95% of guys--all who
quit online dating in shame and disgust within 90 days--are
OBVIOUSLY making.
If you want to be on top of things with every advantage down
stone-cold when "prime time" rolls around about February 1st or so
I'd suggest getting down to business RIGHT NOW.
To that end, my main man Dave M. and I have once again opened the
doors to that killer 2-for-1 deal designed to get you up to speed
with online dating in RECORD TIME.
Here's the link with the info:
http://bit.ly/8m1kim
It's simple.
First you get Dave's Insider Internet Dating program, then e-mail
the receipt to scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
Then I'll send you Online Dating Domination ALSO.
The general feedback from guys I talk to is that Dave's program and
mine cover completely different angles on things and flat-out work
together like high-octane fuel and spark plugs. Or beer and nachos.
You get the point.
So why let some other guy snap up all the hottest women in your
metro area?
As I've often said, BE "MURPHY'S LAW". BE the guy who other guys
online are hoping DOESN'T write to the woman THEY want to meet.
This year you've been given a RIDICULOUS gift: V-day falls on a
SUNDAY.
This means you can line up Friday, Saturday afternoon, Saturday
night, Sunday afternoon AND Sunday night with dates if you like.
Raise your hand if that wouldn't suck.
Time to "do work". Here's that link again:
http://bit.ly/8m1kim
And now, I'm going to share an idea that may change your view of
"escalating kino" FOREVER...
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THE REAL SECRET TO GETTING WOMEN HOT FOR YOU
EARLY AND OFTEN
By now you know that I'm not a "get laid quick" kind of guy.
I believe that patience with regard to one's primal urges up leads
to massive, untold dividends later when it comes to hanging out
with attractive women.
And yes, I firmly believe that "escalating kino" is a wrong-headed
approach to what is commonly known as "getting physical" with women.
My ideas on that are infamous at this point, and some of you have
argued with me tooth and nail.
If you want a woman to be "comfortable being touched", so the
conventional wisdom goes, you've got to start with small touches
early and thereby desensitize...errr, get her ready for being touched
in progressively more intimate ways.
There's at least three problems with this.
First, every woman I've ever talked to is FULLY CREEPED OUT by
By now you know that I'm not a "get laid quick" kind of guy.
I believe that patience with regard to one's primal urges up leads
to massive, untold dividends later when it comes to hanging out
with attractive women.
And yes, I firmly believe that "escalating kino" is a wrong-headed
approach to what is commonly known as "getting physical" with women.
My ideas on that are infamous at this point, and some of you have
argued with me tooth and nail.
If you want a woman to be "comfortable being touched", so the
conventional wisdom goes, you've got to start with small touches
early and thereby desensitize...errr, get her ready for being touched
in progressively more intimate ways.
There's at least three problems with this.
First, every woman I've ever talked to is FULLY CREEPED OUT by
this philosophy. Do not kid yourself.
And if you've got to keep your techniques secret from the women
they're supposedly designed to work on, you're already in trouble.
Second, if you think women respond well to being walked through a
"process" you're thinking more like a software engineer than a
Chick Whisperer. And by the way, I also know a car salesman who
wants to know what it'll take to get you to buy this Hyundai TODAY.
Third, by "patience" reaping "massive, untold dividends" I mean a
HALF-HOUR'S worth, not like six months' or a year's worth. So
going about things the RIGHT way isn't even about having to wait
around longer than necessary, anyway.
Intrigued yet as to what this alternative solution I'm hinting at
might be?
You should be.
After all, women WANT to be touched by guys they're attracted to.
Second, if you think women respond well to being walked through a
"process" you're thinking more like a software engineer than a
Chick Whisperer. And by the way, I also know a car salesman who
wants to know what it'll take to get you to buy this Hyundai TODAY.
Third, by "patience" reaping "massive, untold dividends" I mean a
HALF-HOUR'S worth, not like six months' or a year's worth. So
going about things the RIGHT way isn't even about having to wait
around longer than necessary, anyway.
Intrigued yet as to what this alternative solution I'm hinting at
might be?
You should be.
After all, women WANT to be touched by guys they're attracted to.
And news flash: They'd LOVE to have the freedom to TOUCH YOU
BACK also.
Note the use of the word FREEDOM.
If you've succeeded at attracting her sexually (and if she's on a
date with you, congratulations), then the issue at hand is 100%
related to her FEELING COMFORTABLE ENOUGH in your presence.
That is...as long as you continue to IGNITE FEMININITY with
masculinity.
Suffice it to say that Zig Ziglar sales tactics tantamount to
"walking the customer up the 'Yes Ladder'" probably don't make YOU
feel comfortable about buying that Hyundai, do they?
So your "kino escalation" tactics are likely to have the same
effect on what attraction you've created thus far with any high
quality woman who's intelligent enough not to be "gamed".
As the old saying goes, "people love to BUY, but they HATE to be
sold."
If she LIKES you, then how exactly DO you get inside her head and
LEAD in a way that ignites her femininity and MAKES HER WANT
Note the use of the word FREEDOM.
If you've succeeded at attracting her sexually (and if she's on a
date with you, congratulations), then the issue at hand is 100%
related to her FEELING COMFORTABLE ENOUGH in your presence.
That is...as long as you continue to IGNITE FEMININITY with
masculinity.
Suffice it to say that Zig Ziglar sales tactics tantamount to
"walking the customer up the 'Yes Ladder'" probably don't make YOU
feel comfortable about buying that Hyundai, do they?
So your "kino escalation" tactics are likely to have the same
effect on what attraction you've created thus far with any high
quality woman who's intelligent enough not to be "gamed".
As the old saying goes, "people love to BUY, but they HATE to be
sold."
If she LIKES you, then how exactly DO you get inside her head and
LEAD in a way that ignites her femininity and MAKES HER WANT
TO touch and be touched?
Well, for the first step it's time for a refresher on what exactly
this nebulous concept of "femininity" is made of.
You know instinctively what it is already, because it's what YOU
are really attracted to as a man. It's even what is PHYSICALLY
BEAUTIFUL about her to you represents.
Life-sustaining, nurturing energy. Bringing about laughter and
happiness. Building social circles and bringing people together.
Hospitality. FUN.
Hey, there's a reason why "Joy" is a girl's name, isn't there?
What you've got to do is bring AS MUCH OF THIS to the surface as
you can on EVERY DATE you go on with ANY WOMAN.
And what state of mind is the ABSOLUTE ULTIMATE expression of
Well, for the first step it's time for a refresher on what exactly
this nebulous concept of "femininity" is made of.
You know instinctively what it is already, because it's what YOU
are really attracted to as a man. It's even what is PHYSICALLY
BEAUTIFUL about her to you represents.
Life-sustaining, nurturing energy. Bringing about laughter and
happiness. Building social circles and bringing people together.
Hospitality. FUN.
Hey, there's a reason why "Joy" is a girl's name, isn't there?
What you've got to do is bring AS MUCH OF THIS to the surface as
you can on EVERY DATE you go on with ANY WOMAN.
And what state of mind is the ABSOLUTE ULTIMATE expression of
every single, blasted aspect of femininity that I've just laid out on the
table for you?
PLAYFULNESS.
There it is, in broad daylight. As simple and uncomplicated as
the day is long.
Yet, most of us as guys show up for dates with a pocket full of
Kryptonite, doing the best we can to UTTERLY DIFFUSE the
table for you?
PLAYFULNESS.
There it is, in broad daylight. As simple and uncomplicated as
the day is long.
Yet, most of us as guys show up for dates with a pocket full of
Kryptonite, doing the best we can to UTTERLY DIFFUSE the
superpower of playfulness dead in it's tracks.
Scratch that. We pound any semblance of it on the head with a
SHOVEL until it stops twitching.
Seriously. What are we thinking, being so dead serious on dates?
We obviously aren't thinking that she's going to be ANYWHERE
Scratch that. We pound any semblance of it on the head with a
SHOVEL until it stops twitching.
Seriously. What are we thinking, being so dead serious on dates?
We obviously aren't thinking that she's going to be ANYWHERE
CLOSE to "comfortable" with being "kinoed".
Dinner tables. Movie theatres. Serious "interview questions".
Forget it.
Instead, sit her in your car and tell her you've got a surprise for
her that's incredibly fun...and make her guess what it is.
Then take her ice skating. Pick her up when she falls and tell her
she's only got two weeks to be ready for the Olympics, so she'd
better step it up.
Take her to the shopping mall and people watch. Then go into some
funky store and try stuff on. Bring out the most unthinkable old
lady hat and tell her it would look great on her.
[Ed. Note: Taking her to a shopping mall is NOT to be confused
with a "shopping date". RUN AWAY from women who suggest
Dinner tables. Movie theatres. Serious "interview questions".
Forget it.
Instead, sit her in your car and tell her you've got a surprise for
her that's incredibly fun...and make her guess what it is.
Then take her ice skating. Pick her up when she falls and tell her
she's only got two weeks to be ready for the Olympics, so she'd
better step it up.
Take her to the shopping mall and people watch. Then go into some
funky store and try stuff on. Bring out the most unthinkable old
lady hat and tell her it would look great on her.
[Ed. Note: Taking her to a shopping mall is NOT to be confused
with a "shopping date". RUN AWAY from women who suggest
anything of the sort.]
Do ANYTHING where there are other people around, action is afoot,
possibilities are endless, and talking/moving about freely is
actually ALLOWED.
Stop trying to IMPRESS her, for once, and start HAVING FUN with
Do ANYTHING where there are other people around, action is afoot,
possibilities are endless, and talking/moving about freely is
actually ALLOWED.
Stop trying to IMPRESS her, for once, and start HAVING FUN with
her.
I solemnly promise you that even if you are with a "poker faced"
woman, she'll spring to life in a way that will think you've waved
a MAGIC WAND over her.
Speaking of magic, watch what happens next.
About the sixth time you pick her up from the ice skating rink, she
may push you so YOU fall down also.
When it happens, don't get mad or something and see that as some
"violation of your social value".
See it for what it is: SHE TOUCHED YOU...and VOLUNTARILY so.
And after you try to put that ridiculous looking hat on her, she
may push you away and hit you on the shoulder...laughing. This also
means SHE'S COMFORTABLE TOUCHING YOU.
Need more examples? Fine.
If you're watching a DVD together and wondering what to do next,
change the channel, throw the remote into the chair across the
room, start laughing, and say "I'm going into the kitchen to get a
drink".
If you're cooking dinner together, flick water from the faucet on
her out of the blue.
And always, ALWAYS, watch her reaction.
Women respond to PLAYFULNESS like kitties respond to Kibbles N'
Bits. You have my word on it.
By the way, here's something GOLDEN.
If a woman EVER responds to any sort of playful banter from you
EXACTLY IN KIND (e.g. she pushes you down on the ice rink after you
pick her up, she splatters water back at you, etc.) stop
EVERYTHING, look her in the eye for about one full second and KISS
HER.
It's time.
Then, while kissing her, bite her lower lip ever so slightly,
pause, and say "Meow, you're sexy". She'll kiss you even harder.
Need I explain to you the upgrade in sheer, visceral exhilaration
level this scenario provides over ANY meager success fomented by
trying to move from "light brush on the arm" to "touching her on
the shoulder"?
Wow...she finally relented and let you feel her up. Great. That was
anti-climactic back in seventh grade--and nothing has changed since.
Like I said, do what I'm talking about here the right way and the
"patience" necessary on your part could be as miniscule as twenty
minutes or a half hour...about as much time as it takes you to run
your "kino" routine anyway.
So stop being so serious, and free a woman up to be PLAYFUL the
next time you have an opportunity.
Start focusing on her FEMININITY instead of her SEXUALITY and
I solemnly promise you that even if you are with a "poker faced"
woman, she'll spring to life in a way that will think you've waved
a MAGIC WAND over her.
Speaking of magic, watch what happens next.
About the sixth time you pick her up from the ice skating rink, she
may push you so YOU fall down also.
When it happens, don't get mad or something and see that as some
"violation of your social value".
See it for what it is: SHE TOUCHED YOU...and VOLUNTARILY so.
And after you try to put that ridiculous looking hat on her, she
may push you away and hit you on the shoulder...laughing. This also
means SHE'S COMFORTABLE TOUCHING YOU.
Need more examples? Fine.
If you're watching a DVD together and wondering what to do next,
change the channel, throw the remote into the chair across the
room, start laughing, and say "I'm going into the kitchen to get a
drink".
If you're cooking dinner together, flick water from the faucet on
her out of the blue.
And always, ALWAYS, watch her reaction.
Women respond to PLAYFULNESS like kitties respond to Kibbles N'
Bits. You have my word on it.
By the way, here's something GOLDEN.
If a woman EVER responds to any sort of playful banter from you
EXACTLY IN KIND (e.g. she pushes you down on the ice rink after you
pick her up, she splatters water back at you, etc.) stop
EVERYTHING, look her in the eye for about one full second and KISS
HER.
It's time.
Then, while kissing her, bite her lower lip ever so slightly,
pause, and say "Meow, you're sexy". She'll kiss you even harder.
Need I explain to you the upgrade in sheer, visceral exhilaration
level this scenario provides over ANY meager success fomented by
trying to move from "light brush on the arm" to "touching her on
the shoulder"?
Wow...she finally relented and let you feel her up. Great. That was
anti-climactic back in seventh grade--and nothing has changed since.
Like I said, do what I'm talking about here the right way and the
"patience" necessary on your part could be as miniscule as twenty
minutes or a half hour...about as much time as it takes you to run
your "kino" routine anyway.
So stop being so serious, and free a woman up to be PLAYFUL the
next time you have an opportunity.
Start focusing on her FEMININITY instead of her SEXUALITY and
watch her get really, really excited about making you feel like a man.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. What I've given you today is PURE GOLD. Since we're on a
roll, next time I'm going to free you from feeling like you're
"shallow" EVER AGAIN for thinking a woman's looks are important.
P.P.S. Unless you've been hiding under a rock, you know that I've
been giving Christian Hudson's Unbreakable program my highest
recommendation. A BIG REASON for that is because Christian and
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. What I've given you today is PURE GOLD. Since we're on a
roll, next time I'm going to free you from feeling like you're
"shallow" EVER AGAIN for thinking a woman's looks are important.
P.P.S. Unless you've been hiding under a rock, you know that I've
been giving Christian Hudson's Unbreakable program my highest
recommendation. A BIG REASON for that is because Christian and
his team GET IT when it comes to EVER SINGLE THING I've shared
with you today.
Christian's down to the eleventh hour, and the latest window of
opportunity to snap up Unbreakable is closing very soon. Here's
the link:
http://bit.ly/64F9YX
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the link:
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