[X&Y] Masculine, Confident...And BAD? What's Up Here?
Published: Sat, 02/06/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS SPECIAL EDITION
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THE "BAD BOY": HAS THE "BIG FOUR" BECOME THE
THE "BAD BOY": HAS THE "BIG FOUR" BECOME THE
"BIG FIVE"?
After I e-mailed you yesterday with all of this talk about how true
it is that women want a "Bad Boy", I got an UNPRECEDENTED
After I e-mailed you yesterday with all of this talk about how true
it is that women want a "Bad Boy", I got an UNPRECEDENTED
amount of questions in response.
They were all variations on the following:
"Wait...Scot, does this mean that the 'Big Four' is now the 'Big
Five'? Do I really HAVE to be a 'Bad Boy' in addition to being a
confident, masculine man of character who makes women feel
comfortable in his presence?"
"Hey McKay...I thought you were all about being a GREAT MAN.
What's all this about being a BAD all of the sudden?"
Good questions, aren't they?
And deserving of equally good answers they are.
Let's go ahead and deconstruct all of this, once and for all.
I think the MAJOR ISSUE here is the nearly universal usage of the
terms "Nice Guy" and "Bad Boy" to describe what are perceived to be
the ONLY OPTIONS you have as a guy.
"But hold on...am I really doomed to either be 'Mr. Nice Guy' or
some jerk? Isn't there a MIDDLE GROUND?"
That's the thing. If you're in the MIDDLE between "Mr. Nice Guy" and
"Idiot/Jerk" (I/J), you're still a LITTLE OF BOTH. That just makes
you incongruent, and definitely NOT "confidence inspiring".
So there has to be a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT OPTION.
That option is...drum roll...is STILL to be a GREAT MAN. Nothing has
changed.
I lay the formula for THAT out completely in The Master Plan for you.
A GREAT MAN is neither a soft "milk toast" nor some psychopathic,
criminal misogynist.
NOBODY walks all over him. He refuses to be manipulated.
AND...when he has a great woman in his life, NOBODY WALKS ALL OVER
HER either. And nobody gets away with MANIPULATING HER.
That's right, he can stand up TO a woman, even as he stands up FOR
a woman.
This comes off as EXTREMELY masculine to a woman. The confidence is
central to the attitude, even as the level of SECURITY a woman feels
as a direct result is nothing short of IMMENSE.
But here's the big question: Once you have ignited a woman's
femininity in the way only a "Big Four" man can, THEN WHAT?
What do you DO with her? How do you structure your LIFESTYLE with
her?
Well, THAT is EXACTLY what Carlos Xuma had in mind when he released
The Bad Boy Formula yesterday:
The Bad Boy Formula
You see, there's SOMETHING about a "nice guy" that women like...and
that's being treated right.
They just can't stand the insincere, wussy, pushover who is usually
underneath.
And similarly, there's SOMETHING about a "bad boy" that women like
also...and it's NOT being lied to, getting physically mistreated or
feeling humiliated in public.
WHAT IS IT THEN?
And more importantly, HOW CAN WE BE THAT GUY *AND* A "BIG FOUR" MAN
AT THE SAME TIME?
I gave you a hint yesterday. It's about being NAUGHTY instead of
EVIL, remember?
Guys with Harleys aren't perceived as "bad boys" because they're
doing BAD THINGS. It's the thrill of the lifestyle that attracts
women.
Women are BORED. And what they want is a guy who will SET THEM FREE
to go feel a little ADRENALINE course through their veins for a
change.
"Mr. Nice Guy" won't lead her there. He'll never take risks.
But see, as far as the "Big Four" goes it's not that women want you
to build them a safe environment, necessarily. They want YOU to
PERSONALLY make them FEEL safe.
Read that last sentence again, because it contains ALL THE MAGIC.
In other words, the MORE OUTRAGEOUS and ADVENTUROUS the behavior
you can pull off, all the while making the woman at your side feel
like you've ABSOLUTELY GOT IT ALL UNDER CONTROL, the hotter she'll
get for you.
ESPECIALLY if it feels to her like she's getting away with something
"naughty".
That's a fact. And that's where the "Big Four" man puts his mojo
into practice on a REGULAR BASIS...from the moment he meets a great
woman and FOREVER after.
And to be "naughty", you don't have to be ILLEGAL...just OUT OF THE
BOX.
And getting THAT job done is the "formula" that Carlos Xuma is
offering you the keys to right here:
The Bad Boy Formula
So does this mean that the "Big Four" really is the "Big Five"...
with the addition of "Bad Boy"?
Even I'll admit it's tempting to say so.
But deep down, I really do believe that being the adventurous,
outrageous man who can lead women safely down "naughty" paths still
comes down to raw, old-school MASCULINITY.
After all, everything we're talking about here IGNITES FEMININITY.
And where there's sexual polarity, there's attraction.
That's why I really like what Carlos has accomplished here with The
Bad Boy Formula. I think there's a BIG, BIG PIECE missing from how
most of us view our masculinity.
I think we still put FAR too many "limits" and "boundaries" on it.
The crux of it is this: What kind of response from a woman do you
REALLY want...even as a "Big Four" man?
Do you want to release that inner mischief and "naughtiness" in her
that you INSTINCTIVELY KNOW would leave you breathless?
And do you want her to release it JUST FOR YOU?
I think all of us would answer that question the same way.
Well then, you've got to LEAD accordingly, "bad boy".
Don't let this day go by without taking a closer look at what Carlos
has going on here. I think it'll truly fry your circuits--especially
after having read what I just shared with you:
The Bad Boy Formula
Have fun out there with the ladies tonight, guys. Test and approve
some of that inner "bad boy" in you and watch women ignite before
your very eyes.
And if you get back home later feeling like you've got to tighten up
your plan a bit, then click that link above and make it happen like
there's no tomorrow.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. This would be a good opportunity to answer the questions I get
from time to time about why I always close my newsletters with
"Be Good".
It's actually been a popular phrase here in the Western United States
for several years now.
And now you know the secret why...it's because it's the universal
"secret handshake" between guys who GET IT as far as what we talked
about today is concerned.
Basically, guys tell each other that instead of "see you later"
because it's a humorous way to acknowledge they NEED to, knowing
we're all probably going to go out and create "trouble". Nice.
Oh...and if you want a "quick start" to testing and approving your
"bad boy" mojo, actually NICKNAME one of your favorite women
"Trouble" this week and watch how her demeanor toward you becomes
slightly more feline and mischievous.
P.P.S. By the way, I'm 2/3 of the way editing episode 36 of The
Chick Whisperer. It's destined to be a classic...stay tuned.
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They were all variations on the following:
"Wait...Scot, does this mean that the 'Big Four' is now the 'Big
Five'? Do I really HAVE to be a 'Bad Boy' in addition to being a
confident, masculine man of character who makes women feel
comfortable in his presence?"
"Hey McKay...I thought you were all about being a GREAT MAN.
What's all this about being a BAD all of the sudden?"
Good questions, aren't they?
And deserving of equally good answers they are.
Let's go ahead and deconstruct all of this, once and for all.
I think the MAJOR ISSUE here is the nearly universal usage of the
terms "Nice Guy" and "Bad Boy" to describe what are perceived to be
the ONLY OPTIONS you have as a guy.
"But hold on...am I really doomed to either be 'Mr. Nice Guy' or
some jerk? Isn't there a MIDDLE GROUND?"
That's the thing. If you're in the MIDDLE between "Mr. Nice Guy" and
"Idiot/Jerk" (I/J), you're still a LITTLE OF BOTH. That just makes
you incongruent, and definitely NOT "confidence inspiring".
So there has to be a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT OPTION.
That option is...drum roll...is STILL to be a GREAT MAN. Nothing has
changed.
I lay the formula for THAT out completely in The Master Plan for you.
A GREAT MAN is neither a soft "milk toast" nor some psychopathic,
criminal misogynist.
NOBODY walks all over him. He refuses to be manipulated.
AND...when he has a great woman in his life, NOBODY WALKS ALL OVER
HER either. And nobody gets away with MANIPULATING HER.
That's right, he can stand up TO a woman, even as he stands up FOR
a woman.
This comes off as EXTREMELY masculine to a woman. The confidence is
central to the attitude, even as the level of SECURITY a woman feels
as a direct result is nothing short of IMMENSE.
But here's the big question: Once you have ignited a woman's
femininity in the way only a "Big Four" man can, THEN WHAT?
What do you DO with her? How do you structure your LIFESTYLE with
her?
Well, THAT is EXACTLY what Carlos Xuma had in mind when he released
The Bad Boy Formula yesterday:
The Bad Boy Formula
You see, there's SOMETHING about a "nice guy" that women like...and
that's being treated right.
They just can't stand the insincere, wussy, pushover who is usually
underneath.
And similarly, there's SOMETHING about a "bad boy" that women like
also...and it's NOT being lied to, getting physically mistreated or
feeling humiliated in public.
WHAT IS IT THEN?
And more importantly, HOW CAN WE BE THAT GUY *AND* A "BIG FOUR" MAN
AT THE SAME TIME?
I gave you a hint yesterday. It's about being NAUGHTY instead of
EVIL, remember?
Guys with Harleys aren't perceived as "bad boys" because they're
doing BAD THINGS. It's the thrill of the lifestyle that attracts
women.
Women are BORED. And what they want is a guy who will SET THEM FREE
to go feel a little ADRENALINE course through their veins for a
change.
"Mr. Nice Guy" won't lead her there. He'll never take risks.
But see, as far as the "Big Four" goes it's not that women want you
to build them a safe environment, necessarily. They want YOU to
PERSONALLY make them FEEL safe.
Read that last sentence again, because it contains ALL THE MAGIC.
In other words, the MORE OUTRAGEOUS and ADVENTUROUS the behavior
you can pull off, all the while making the woman at your side feel
like you've ABSOLUTELY GOT IT ALL UNDER CONTROL, the hotter she'll
get for you.
ESPECIALLY if it feels to her like she's getting away with something
"naughty".
That's a fact. And that's where the "Big Four" man puts his mojo
into practice on a REGULAR BASIS...from the moment he meets a great
woman and FOREVER after.
And to be "naughty", you don't have to be ILLEGAL...just OUT OF THE
BOX.
And getting THAT job done is the "formula" that Carlos Xuma is
offering you the keys to right here:
The Bad Boy Formula
So does this mean that the "Big Four" really is the "Big Five"...
with the addition of "Bad Boy"?
Even I'll admit it's tempting to say so.
But deep down, I really do believe that being the adventurous,
outrageous man who can lead women safely down "naughty" paths still
comes down to raw, old-school MASCULINITY.
After all, everything we're talking about here IGNITES FEMININITY.
And where there's sexual polarity, there's attraction.
That's why I really like what Carlos has accomplished here with The
Bad Boy Formula. I think there's a BIG, BIG PIECE missing from how
most of us view our masculinity.
I think we still put FAR too many "limits" and "boundaries" on it.
The crux of it is this: What kind of response from a woman do you
REALLY want...even as a "Big Four" man?
Do you want to release that inner mischief and "naughtiness" in her
that you INSTINCTIVELY KNOW would leave you breathless?
And do you want her to release it JUST FOR YOU?
I think all of us would answer that question the same way.
Well then, you've got to LEAD accordingly, "bad boy".
Don't let this day go by without taking a closer look at what Carlos
has going on here. I think it'll truly fry your circuits--especially
after having read what I just shared with you:
The Bad Boy Formula
Have fun out there with the ladies tonight, guys. Test and approve
some of that inner "bad boy" in you and watch women ignite before
your very eyes.
And if you get back home later feeling like you've got to tighten up
your plan a bit, then click that link above and make it happen like
there's no tomorrow.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. This would be a good opportunity to answer the questions I get
from time to time about why I always close my newsletters with
"Be Good".
It's actually been a popular phrase here in the Western United States
for several years now.
And now you know the secret why...it's because it's the universal
"secret handshake" between guys who GET IT as far as what we talked
about today is concerned.
Basically, guys tell each other that instead of "see you later"
because it's a humorous way to acknowledge they NEED to, knowing
we're all probably going to go out and create "trouble". Nice.
Oh...and if you want a "quick start" to testing and approving your
"bad boy" mojo, actually NICKNAME one of your favorite women
"Trouble" this week and watch how her demeanor toward you becomes
slightly more feline and mischievous.
P.P.S. By the way, I'm 2/3 of the way editing episode 36 of The
Chick Whisperer. It's destined to be a classic...stay tuned.
=====
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things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
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