[X&Y] The Best Days And Times To Schedule Dates
Published: Sun, 01/31/10
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WHAT'S INSIDE: What are the best days and best times to actually
schedule a meeting with a woman? Getting this right is one of the
"hidden" factors that will make or break your dating life. Here
are the objective, practical ideas you're looking for...
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WHAT'S INSIDE: What are the best days and best times to actually
schedule a meeting with a woman? Getting this right is one of the
"hidden" factors that will make or break your dating life. Here
are the objective, practical ideas you're looking for...
=====
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Valentine's Day gift card was a pretty cool idea.
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you guys were ALL OVER IT.
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That's right. Click on the link below and you'll automatically get
a $20 gift card applied to anything you get from his store:
Give Women Incredible Pleasure
David is, of course, the world-renowned expert in teaching us as
men how to give women incredible pleasure.
I particularly recommend his Select Women Wisely course, which is
specifically designed to give you everything you need to make solid
decisions when choosing women, thereby avoiding the disastrous
consequences that inevitably come from being in any kind of
relationship with the WRONG ones:
Select Women Wisely
When David first introduced Select Women Wisely a few months ago,
you guys were ALL OVER IT.
I can't think of a better time to get our act together on being
effective choosers (as opposed to chasers) than RIGHT NOW...two
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So then, what about planning meetings with all the women you're
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you...
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THE BEST DAYS AND TIMES TO SCHEDULE DATES
Lately we've covered how to get a woman to meet you for the first
time, and how to make sure that can lead to a second meeting.
We've also covered where to go and what to do on dates.
But there's one particular factor that almost never gets discussed
by ANYONE in the field of dating and seduction advice.
That's WHEN to schedule a date. I mean, what are the best days--and
specific times on those days--to arrange meetings with women?
The answer is "it depends", which is precisely why you may not have
seen much written on this subject.
But by now you know how much we enjoy covering completely original
topics...and this certainly applies. So let's go for it.
The very first thing you want to do when planning what day and time
to schedule the date is to ask several crucial questions. How to
proceed will depend on the answers.
First, you may ask, "What is the goal of this meeting?"
If you have met someone online and never seen her in person before,
the goal should be to simply find out if there's any reason to
schedule a real date.
This means, of course, that the first meeting shouldn't be treated
as a date per se, and therefore shouldn't be SCHEDULED as if that's
the expectation.
For example, you'd want to meet Tuesday morning for coffee before
work rather than Friday night at 7.30 pm. That way a brief
timeline is firmly built in, as opposed to the expectation that an
entire evening is going to be spent together.
However, on the other hand if you've been dating someone for a
while and you'd like to go exclusive with her, you'd do well to
arrange a date where you've got plenty of time--perhaps on that
weekend night where there's no question that she's been given first
priority above and beyond any other women.
You may even schedule a full-on "weekender", which definitely
should only ever be reserved for women you are serious about.
This leads to the second question, naturally. "What priority am I
giving this particular woman I'm going to meet with?"
Let's face it, how much you're into any particular woman will
contribute to the kind of vibe you want to send out when together
on dates.
Therefore to your strategy as to when to schedule those meetings
must be in line with that.
If you're still on the fence about her, you may want to meet for
lunch and/or drinks after work on weekdays, just so you have some
quality time with her without that expectation for a long,
drawn-out experience.
That's assuming, of course, that you know how to "decompress" from
work effectively before meeting a woman shortly thereafter. If you
haven't figured that out, then NEVER schedule ANY meeting with ANY
woman for those times.
But assuming you've got that part handled, it leaves those
prime-time weekend evenings for women you are already pretty much
psyched about.
And make no mistake, gentlemen. Weekend evening dates tend to
After all, if you've been reading these newsletters and absorbing
what we talk about around here, you should have PLENTY of women to
choose from. So don't make them wait...
Select Women Wisely
So then, what about planning meetings with all the women you're
going to be meeting? Here are some objective, practical ideas for
you...
=====
THE BEST DAYS AND TIMES TO SCHEDULE DATES
Lately we've covered how to get a woman to meet you for the first
time, and how to make sure that can lead to a second meeting.
We've also covered where to go and what to do on dates.
But there's one particular factor that almost never gets discussed
by ANYONE in the field of dating and seduction advice.
That's WHEN to schedule a date. I mean, what are the best days--and
specific times on those days--to arrange meetings with women?
The answer is "it depends", which is precisely why you may not have
seen much written on this subject.
But by now you know how much we enjoy covering completely original
topics...and this certainly applies. So let's go for it.
The very first thing you want to do when planning what day and time
to schedule the date is to ask several crucial questions. How to
proceed will depend on the answers.
First, you may ask, "What is the goal of this meeting?"
If you have met someone online and never seen her in person before,
the goal should be to simply find out if there's any reason to
schedule a real date.
This means, of course, that the first meeting shouldn't be treated
as a date per se, and therefore shouldn't be SCHEDULED as if that's
the expectation.
For example, you'd want to meet Tuesday morning for coffee before
work rather than Friday night at 7.30 pm. That way a brief
timeline is firmly built in, as opposed to the expectation that an
entire evening is going to be spent together.
However, on the other hand if you've been dating someone for a
while and you'd like to go exclusive with her, you'd do well to
arrange a date where you've got plenty of time--perhaps on that
weekend night where there's no question that she's been given first
priority above and beyond any other women.
You may even schedule a full-on "weekender", which definitely
should only ever be reserved for women you are serious about.
This leads to the second question, naturally. "What priority am I
giving this particular woman I'm going to meet with?"
Let's face it, how much you're into any particular woman will
contribute to the kind of vibe you want to send out when together
on dates.
Therefore to your strategy as to when to schedule those meetings
must be in line with that.
If you're still on the fence about her, you may want to meet for
lunch and/or drinks after work on weekdays, just so you have some
quality time with her without that expectation for a long,
drawn-out experience.
That's assuming, of course, that you know how to "decompress" from
work effectively before meeting a woman shortly thereafter. If you
haven't figured that out, then NEVER schedule ANY meeting with ANY
woman for those times.
But assuming you've got that part handled, it leaves those
prime-time weekend evenings for women you are already pretty much
psyched about.
And make no mistake, gentlemen. Weekend evening dates tend to
send women into "steady girlfriend mode".
Meanwhile, when weekends are conspicuous by their absence from
Meanwhile, when weekends are conspicuous by their absence from
your dating schedule with a particular woman, she instinctively knows
she's not being seen as "girlfriend material" just yet. Something
to keep in mind.
The third question to ask is a two-part one. "What is the woman's
lifestyle like, and how does it mesh with mine?"
Not everyone works 9-5. For example, if she's a waitress you're
likely going to have to think out of the Friday/Saturday night box
no matter how much you like her.
Such a woman may be the perfect candidate for one of my all-time
favorite experiences to share with a woman I see as "girlfriend
material": The laid-back Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date (I
hesitate to use the acronym, but suit yourself).
Never underestimate the chemistry-packing potential of the Outdoor
Weekend Afternoon Date.
Bring your dogs out to the park together and see if they get along
as well as the two of you do.
Or take an hour drive to the winery out in the country just to get
away from the stress of town. Women will love you for planning
this sort of thing...when all you to do otherwise was sit around and
watch sports on a Sunday afternoon anyway.
Face it...BOTH of you need to get out of the house, and this does the
trick.
On the other hand, a certain woman you are dating may be, say, a
flight attendant. This presents yet another scheduling challenge.
The BAD NEWS is she'll be gone for three days in a row, and
probably never the same ones from week to week. BUT...the
she's not being seen as "girlfriend material" just yet. Something
to keep in mind.
The third question to ask is a two-part one. "What is the woman's
lifestyle like, and how does it mesh with mine?"
Not everyone works 9-5. For example, if she's a waitress you're
likely going to have to think out of the Friday/Saturday night box
no matter how much you like her.
Such a woman may be the perfect candidate for one of my all-time
favorite experiences to share with a woman I see as "girlfriend
material": The laid-back Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date (I
hesitate to use the acronym, but suit yourself).
Never underestimate the chemistry-packing potential of the Outdoor
Weekend Afternoon Date.
Bring your dogs out to the park together and see if they get along
as well as the two of you do.
Or take an hour drive to the winery out in the country just to get
away from the stress of town. Women will love you for planning
this sort of thing...when all you to do otherwise was sit around and
watch sports on a Sunday afternoon anyway.
Face it...BOTH of you need to get out of the house, and this does the
trick.
On the other hand, a certain woman you are dating may be, say, a
flight attendant. This presents yet another scheduling challenge.
The BAD NEWS is she'll be gone for three days in a row, and
probably never the same ones from week to week. BUT...the
GOOD NEWS is she'll also be completely open on the days she
IS in town.
This means that if you're not exactly a 9-5 guy yourself, you can
feel free to schedule that Holy Grail of amazingly decadent events
with the decidedly mischievous vibe...the one that invariably
supercharges chemistry to the max.
I'm talking, of course, about the infamous Weeknight Date That
Begins At 11pm And Ends Whenever It Ends.
Heck, even if you ARE a 9-5 guy it's worth planning a day off from
time to time just to experience this once in a while. Suffice it
to say that NOTHING ignites femininity more when it's done right.
And by "done right", I mean get a drink or two, listen to some
music, then walk hand-in-hand in your city at 2am with nobody else
on the street like you own the place.
Make her laugh too loud and feel like she's probably waking
everyone up. Then kiss her to make sure it doesn't happen again.
If you can, lie down in the street downtown at 3am and watch the
lights change. It worked for the guy in "The Notebook", even after
he pretty much did everything else wrong...right?
Magical. Memorable. Incredible. You can imagine where such an
evening can lead.
No matter what kind of schedule your lifestyle and hers are on
however, you ALWAYS do well to know exactly what a woman's timeline
looks like when planning a meeting with her.
For instance, it's a good idea to know if she's got a 6a flight to
catch on a Saturday morning before assuming she'll be able to stay
out all night on Friday. See what I mean?
Here are a few final "silver bullets" for you.
First, if you are budget-minded, realize that a woman's
expectations that money will be spent are HIGHEST for evening
dates--especially weekend evenings.
To make a great first impression while genuinely getting to know a
woman, the casual daytime dates are almost always the biggest
winners.
Second, if you have a sneaking suspicion that a date has the
potential not to end well for ANY REASON, yet you want to begin
from the perspective of assuming it will, I'd HIGHLY suggest
scheduling the meeting for EARLY evening.
This way, whether it's on a weeknight OR a weekend, if things get
cut short sooner than later you'll still have the opportunity to
make the most of the evening otherwise.
So for example, you may really like a woman but have felt a strange
vibe from her over the phone for the past couple of days.
You meet for a quick bite to eat at 5.30 on Friday night with the
agenda purposefully left open for the rest of the evening.
If things get weird or flat-out fly south, you can be over and done
with the whole thing by 7. But if everything's cool after all, you
can continue to hang out as planned. Not bad either way.
Finally, the converse to allowing that built-in "margin for error"
on a date would be scheduling a first meeting with a woman that you
have the gut feeling may turn out VERY WELL.
A weekend morning breakfast meeting is the GOLDEN TICKET here.
Think about it. It's a casual type of first date that gives the
FIRST IMPRESSION that the meeting is meant to be a short one.
But if you REALLY HIT IT OFF, you can bounce to Starbucks for a
better second round of coffee than IHOP had.
If that goes well, the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date can kick in
later.
I'm telling you, this is a masterpiece.
I have fond memories of several Saturday morning breakfasts that
led to women becoming a pleasant part of my life for weeks or
months thereafter. In fact, I still have the receipt from the
$14.63 spent at IHOP the first time I ever met Emily.
Remember, if you are a "big four" man then you don't have to worry
as much about "leaving her wanting more" as other guys do.
Instead, if you really dig the woman you met at breakfast, you can
make her practically fall in love with you by dinner. From there
the only limits are your own.
So definitely give the decision to what day and time to schedule
dates the attention it deserves.
The payoff is bigger than simply getting better control over your
dating life.
Getting this right can literally make or break how your relationships
with specific women turn out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. As you know, I just spoke at the iDate conference in Miami
over the weekend. Most of the online dating industry's most
influential executives were there, and it was an amazing
opportunity.
There were some incredible "secret" insights to be gained from the
event that could directly affect your online dating success.
I'll be sharing the juiciest ones with the guys who are in the Power
Sessions inner circle. So if you're in, look forward to that.
If you're not a Power Sessions member, what are you waiting for?
Power Sessions guys get the most advance teaching I offer. Here's
where you can find out more:
Power Sessions For Men
P.P.S. More podcasts are coming VERY soon. Emily and I are about
to record an all-new X & Y On The Fly about jealousy, and Adam
Gilad will be my next co-host for The Chick Whisperer.
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to "xandy@aweber.com". Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.
This means that if you're not exactly a 9-5 guy yourself, you can
feel free to schedule that Holy Grail of amazingly decadent events
with the decidedly mischievous vibe...the one that invariably
supercharges chemistry to the max.
I'm talking, of course, about the infamous Weeknight Date That
Begins At 11pm And Ends Whenever It Ends.
Heck, even if you ARE a 9-5 guy it's worth planning a day off from
time to time just to experience this once in a while. Suffice it
to say that NOTHING ignites femininity more when it's done right.
And by "done right", I mean get a drink or two, listen to some
music, then walk hand-in-hand in your city at 2am with nobody else
on the street like you own the place.
Make her laugh too loud and feel like she's probably waking
everyone up. Then kiss her to make sure it doesn't happen again.
If you can, lie down in the street downtown at 3am and watch the
lights change. It worked for the guy in "The Notebook", even after
he pretty much did everything else wrong...right?
Magical. Memorable. Incredible. You can imagine where such an
evening can lead.
No matter what kind of schedule your lifestyle and hers are on
however, you ALWAYS do well to know exactly what a woman's timeline
looks like when planning a meeting with her.
For instance, it's a good idea to know if she's got a 6a flight to
catch on a Saturday morning before assuming she'll be able to stay
out all night on Friday. See what I mean?
Here are a few final "silver bullets" for you.
First, if you are budget-minded, realize that a woman's
expectations that money will be spent are HIGHEST for evening
dates--especially weekend evenings.
To make a great first impression while genuinely getting to know a
woman, the casual daytime dates are almost always the biggest
winners.
Second, if you have a sneaking suspicion that a date has the
potential not to end well for ANY REASON, yet you want to begin
from the perspective of assuming it will, I'd HIGHLY suggest
scheduling the meeting for EARLY evening.
This way, whether it's on a weeknight OR a weekend, if things get
cut short sooner than later you'll still have the opportunity to
make the most of the evening otherwise.
So for example, you may really like a woman but have felt a strange
vibe from her over the phone for the past couple of days.
You meet for a quick bite to eat at 5.30 on Friday night with the
agenda purposefully left open for the rest of the evening.
If things get weird or flat-out fly south, you can be over and done
with the whole thing by 7. But if everything's cool after all, you
can continue to hang out as planned. Not bad either way.
Finally, the converse to allowing that built-in "margin for error"
on a date would be scheduling a first meeting with a woman that you
have the gut feeling may turn out VERY WELL.
A weekend morning breakfast meeting is the GOLDEN TICKET here.
Think about it. It's a casual type of first date that gives the
FIRST IMPRESSION that the meeting is meant to be a short one.
But if you REALLY HIT IT OFF, you can bounce to Starbucks for a
better second round of coffee than IHOP had.
If that goes well, the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date can kick in
later.
I'm telling you, this is a masterpiece.
I have fond memories of several Saturday morning breakfasts that
led to women becoming a pleasant part of my life for weeks or
months thereafter. In fact, I still have the receipt from the
$14.63 spent at IHOP the first time I ever met Emily.
Remember, if you are a "big four" man then you don't have to worry
as much about "leaving her wanting more" as other guys do.
Instead, if you really dig the woman you met at breakfast, you can
make her practically fall in love with you by dinner. From there
the only limits are your own.
So definitely give the decision to what day and time to schedule
dates the attention it deserves.
The payoff is bigger than simply getting better control over your
dating life.
Getting this right can literally make or break how your relationships
with specific women turn out.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. As you know, I just spoke at the iDate conference in Miami
over the weekend. Most of the online dating industry's most
influential executives were there, and it was an amazing
opportunity.
There were some incredible "secret" insights to be gained from the
event that could directly affect your online dating success.
I'll be sharing the juiciest ones with the guys who are in the Power
Sessions inner circle. So if you're in, look forward to that.
If you're not a Power Sessions member, what are you waiting for?
Power Sessions guys get the most advance teaching I offer. Here's
where you can find out more:
Power Sessions For Men
P.P.S. More podcasts are coming VERY soon. Emily and I are about
to record an all-new X & Y On The Fly about jealousy, and Adam
Gilad will be my next co-host for The Chick Whisperer.
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to "xandy@aweber.com". Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most
creative subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.