[X&Y] Just Get Her Out Of The House, Already...
Published: Thu, 02/11/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here's my annual take on Valentine's Day. This
time I'm mixing things up and throwing a whole new twist on meeting
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NOT TO BE UNDERESTIMATED: THE POWER OF UNDERSTANDING
What you're about to read below about Valentine's Day has
EVERYTHING to do with understanding
By now, hundreds of you already have the Chick Whispering
along with the ten audio modules that come along with it.
And some of you are sending me rave reviews. Guys are now dating
their dream woman when they were tempted to "settle" before.
Other guys have noticed that their girlfriends aren't nagging them
anymore.
Still others are acing
tremendous consistency.
It's all because they UNDERSTAND
You can do so also, regardless of what you've heard all your life.
The answers are here:
Chick Whispering
Right now, I've added THREE fast-action bonuses into the mix for
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personally.
No kidding, just schedule the call when you'd like and we'll hammer
out those sticking points in real-time...no matter where in the world
you live.
But I can only offer all of this through Sunday night at midnight
Texas time, and I reserve the right to pull the plug early on the
fast-action bonuses if strong demand forces me to. After all, I
actually will be scheduling REAL CALLS with you guys.
So the sooner you're in on this, the better:
Chick Whispering
And now, get ready to feel A LOT better about Valentine's Day...
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JUST GET HER OUT OF THE HOUSE, ALREADY...
OK, this is Thursday night (Friday afternoon already for those of
you Down Under), which means Valentine's Day is ALREADY HERE.
That's right. For all intents and purposes, it's HERE.
If you're dating severalwomen (which I hope you are), you've
likely already got your "long weekend" schedule in order. Or at
least, you'd BETTER have it in order.
Because see, here's the thing.
This year V-Day falls on a Sunday. This means that you can
effectively see differentwomen on Friday night, Saturday
afternoon, Saturday night, Sunday afternoon, AND Sunday night if
you choose to.
No politics to worry about and no drama. What a HUGE gift for you.
After all, let's face it. Last year February 14th was on a
Saturday, which took a lot of that flexibility away.
I mean, only the woman you spent Saturday with was going to feel as
if she was important to you. You just can't be in five or six places
at once, even if there are severalwomen in your life whom you think
very highly of.
I think you'll recall that last year I recommended the solution of
simply leaving town for a long weekend getaway.
Well this year you're off the hook. Enjoy your weekend with all
thosewomen .
But what's that you say? That's all for some other guy? You don't
want to "give in" and even ACKNOWLEDGE Valentine's Day?
Okay...maybe you've concluded it's all way too expensive, or even
"commercial".
Or maybe you don't exactly have five differentwomen lined up and
it's just as well...there's too much PRESSURE associated with
February 14th.
Well, I can understand your point on both counts. No doubt.
BUT...the real-world truth is that Valentine's Day need not be
expensive OR pressure-packed.
What in the world can I possibly mean by that?
Here's the deal. Over the past few days, having seen what so many
guys are dealing with online I've come to some brand new realizations
about Valentine's Day.
For starters, it really is true thatwhat women want most is
SOMEONE TO BE WITH on Valentine's Day. And for the most part,
that's ALL THERE IS TO IT.
Seriously, gentlemen. They just CAN'T HANDLE the idea of being
alone.
It makes them feel utterly, well...unloved.
Imagine your most hardcore rejection fear or your most brutal
validation of your darkest "limiting belief". That's how many
women end up feeling if they're
home alone on February 14th.
If you're a woman, not having a date for Valentine's Day is like
not being asked to the prom.
Meanwhile, here we all are as guys getting our boxers all up in a
wad thinking we've either got to show up with diamond earrings and
a chauffeur-driven limo outside to whisk her off to Ruth's Chris
steak house, or not at all.
Not so fast, Casanova.
Any high quality woman is going to feel MORE PRESSURED by such a
lavish display. And "pressure" was allegedly the big problem with
Valentine's Day anyway, wasn't it?
Well guess what? WE are the ones who generally create all the
pressure.
Hey, listen...if you've been dating a woman for a while and you
genuinely adore her then by all means do something extra special
for Valentine's Day with her.
I'll be the first to recommend it. After all, you're probably
dating her exclusively anyway.
And the irony is at that point you're probably WAY PAST attempting
to "impress" her with lavish, uncalled-for displays of conspicuous
consumption. The two of you should be real with each other by now.
But what aboutwomen you're only casually dating and or...um...haven't
even MET yet?
Know this: If they're reasonable human beings (and let's not
forget thatwomen are still the same general species as we are),
they're not going to have UNREASONABLE expectations for Valentine's
Day dates.
Again...THEY JUST WANT OUT OF THE HOUSE.
I've talked to no fewer than five guys this week who have gotten
some traction with a woman--or up to TWENTYwomen --online since I
gave you the tip about early Feb. being the ULTIMATE time to try
Match.com or PlentyOfFish.
And what are they ALL doing? They're scheduling dates with them
all for sometime AFTER Feb. 14th.
Not surprisingly, in several cases thewomen they're talking to are
expressing some disappointment--if not flat-out reticence.
Is this because thesewomen feel like they're missing out on
chocolates, flowers and jewelry?
I know that's what OUR first thought may very well be as guys...which
may lead us to think we're dealing with some shallow "gold
diggers" here anyway.
WRONG.
The truth is this: If she LIKES you and you AREN'T asking her out
for Valentine's Day, then she's AUTOMATICALLY ASSUMING that you
like SOME OTHER WOMAN way, way more than her.
That's right...she's feeling DEPRIORITIZED.
As Allen Iverson once said, "It's not about the money."
Except this time it's REALLY NOT.
OK, sure. Being the "chooser" rather than the "chaser" is exactly
where you want to be.
But by avoiding Feb. 14th altogether all you're REALLY doing is
sending the message she's WAY, WAY down the "totem pole".
Think like a woman here. Because SHE can't possibly fathom sitting
home alone by choice on Valentine's Day, she's all but certain YOU
CAN'T EITHER.
Therefore, even if you're really psyched to meet her she's
convinced you AREN'T.
Don't kid yourself. That's not an enviable position to be in...for
either of you.
To make things work withwomen online, you DO need to at least show
INTEREST...which is not to be confused with "pre-approval" or
"goddess worship".
This isn't rocket science.
So if you're setting upfirst dates about now (or even second or
third dates) withwomen you barely know, do this.
Just call out the heart-shaped, red and white "elephant in the
room". SPELL IT OUT.
Say, "Hey look...for better or worse we're just getting to know each
other here right when it happens to be Valentine's Day. I want you
to know that there's no pressure. Let's just hang out, GET OUT OF
THE HOUSE when it happens to be February 14th and simply enjoy
ourselves."
Then what?
You plan a low-key trip to the park, ice-skating or WHATEVER that
isn't going to break the bank. And you see how well you get along.
And if you ignite her femininity successfully, you kiss her.
In other words...wait for it...it's BUSINESS AS USUAL as far as your
dating life goes.
If you really want to, spring for a humorous card signed "Friends,
[Your Name Here]".
Buy a pack of Valentine's Day Reese's Cups and tell her if she's a
nice girl you'll share one of them with her.
Avoid the pressure. HAVE FUN WITH THIS.
Because after all, if you're hiding out this weekend in the name of
avoiding Valentine's Day hassles, what are you REALLY doing?
You're denying yourself an ENTIRE WEEKEND full of terrificwomen ,
that's what.
And life's too short for that.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Did you get your hands on Episode 36 of The Chick Whisperer
with Adam Gilad yet? If not, here's the iTunes link. Getchasum:
The Chick Whisperer Podcast
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
No kidding, just schedule the call when you'd like and we'll hammer
out those sticking points in real-time...no matter where in the world
you live.
But I can only offer all of this through Sunday night at midnight
Texas time, and I reserve the right to pull the plug early on the
fast-action bonuses if strong demand forces me to. After all, I
actually will be scheduling REAL CALLS with you guys.
So the sooner you're in on this, the better:
Chick Whispering
And now, get ready to feel A LOT better about Valentine's Day...
=====
JUST GET HER OUT OF THE HOUSE, ALREADY...
OK, this is Thursday night (Friday afternoon already for those of
you Down Under), which means Valentine's Day is ALREADY HERE.
That's right. For all intents and purposes, it's HERE.
If you're dating several
likely already got your "long weekend" schedule in order. Or at
least, you'd BETTER have it in order.
Because see, here's the thing.
This year V-Day falls on a Sunday. This means that you can
effectively see different
afternoon, Saturday night, Sunday afternoon, AND Sunday night if
you choose to.
No politics to worry about and no drama. What a HUGE gift for you.
After all, let's face it. Last year February 14th was on a
Saturday, which took a lot of that flexibility away.
I mean, only the woman you spent Saturday with was going to feel as
if she was important to you. You just can't be in five or six places
at once, even if there are several
very highly of.
I think you'll recall that last year I recommended the solution of
simply leaving town for a long weekend getaway.
Well this year you're off the hook. Enjoy your weekend with all
those
But what's that you say? That's all for some other guy? You don't
want to "give in" and even ACKNOWLEDGE Valentine's Day?
Okay...maybe you've concluded it's all way too expensive, or even
"commercial".
Or maybe you don't exactly have five different
it's just as well...there's too much PRESSURE associated with
February 14th.
Well, I can understand your point on both counts. No doubt.
BUT...
expensive OR pressure-packed.
What in the world can I possibly mean by that?
Here's the deal. Over the past few days, having seen what so many
guys are dealing with online I've come to some brand new realizations
about Valentine's Day.
For starters, it really is true that
SOMEONE TO BE WITH on Valentine's Day. And for the most part,
that's ALL THERE IS TO IT.
Seriously, gentlemen. They just CAN'T HANDLE the idea of being
alone.
It makes them feel utterly, well...unloved.
Imagine your most hardcore rejection fear or your most brutal
validation of your darkest "limiting belief". That's how many
If you're a woman, not having a date for Valentine's Day is like
not being asked to the prom.
Meanwhile, here we all are as guys getting our boxers all up in a
wad thinking we've either got to show up with diamond earrings and
a chauffeur-driven limo outside to whisk her off to Ruth's Chris
steak house, or not at all.
Not so fast, Casanova.
Any high quality woman is going to feel MORE PRESSURED by such a
lavish display. And "pressure" was allegedly the big problem with
Valentine's Day anyway, wasn't it?
Well guess what? WE are the ones who generally create all the
pressure.
Hey, listen...if you've been dating a woman for a while and you
genuinely adore her then by all means do something extra special
for Valentine's Day with her.
I'll be the first to recommend it. After all, you're probably
dating her exclusively anyway.
And the irony is at that point you're probably WAY PAST attempting
to "impress" her with lavish, uncalled-for displays of conspicuous
consumption. The two of you should be real with each other by now.
But what about
even MET yet?
Know this: If they're reasonable human beings (and let's not
forget that
they're not going to have UNREASONABLE expectations for Valentine's
Day dates.
Again...THEY JUST WANT OUT OF THE HOUSE.
I've talked to no fewer than five guys this week who have gotten
some traction with a woman--or up to TWENTY
gave you the tip about early Feb. being the ULTIMATE time to try
Match.com or PlentyOfFish.
And what are they ALL doing? They're scheduling dates with them
all for sometime AFTER Feb. 14th.
Not surprisingly, in several cases the
expressing some disappointment--if not flat-out reticence.
Is this because these
chocolates, flowers and jewelry?
I know that's what OUR first thought may very well be as guys...which
may lead us to think we're dealing with some shallow "gold
diggers" here anyway.
WRONG.
The truth is this: If she LIKES you and you AREN'T asking her out
for Valentine's Day, then she's AUTOMATICALLY ASSUMING that you
like SOME OTHER WOMAN way, way more than her.
That's right...she's feeling DEPRIORITIZED.
As Allen Iverson once said, "It's not about the money."
Except this time it's REALLY NOT.
OK, sure. Being the "chooser" rather than the "chaser" is exactly
where you want to be.
But by avoiding Feb. 14th altogether all you're REALLY doing is
sending the message she's WAY, WAY down the "totem pole".
Think like a woman here. Because SHE can't possibly fathom sitting
CAN'T EITHER.
Therefore, even if you're really psyched to meet her she's
convinced you AREN'T.
Don't kid yourself. That's not an enviable position to be in...for
either of you.
To make things work with
INTEREST...which is not to be confused with "pre-approval" or
"goddess worship".
This isn't rocket science.
So if you're setting up
third dates) with
Just call out the heart-shaped, red and white "elephant in the
room". SPELL IT OUT.
Say, "Hey look...for better or worse we're just getting to know each
other here right when it happens to be Valentine's Day. I want you
to know that there's no pressure. Let's just hang out, GET OUT OF
THE HOUSE when it happens to be February 14th and simply enjoy
ourselves."
Then what?
You plan a low-key trip to the park, ice-skating or WHATEVER that
isn't going to break the bank. And you see how well you get along.
And if you ignite her femininity successfully, you kiss her.
In other words...wait for it...it's BUSINESS AS USUAL as far as your
dating life goes.
If you really want to, spring for a humorous card signed "Friends,
[Your Name Here]".
Buy a pack of Valentine's Day Reese's Cups and tell her if she's a
nice girl you'll share one of them with her.
Avoid the pressure. HAVE FUN WITH THIS.
Because after all, if you're hiding out this weekend in the name of
avoiding Valentine's Day hassles, what are you REALLY doing?
You're denying yourself an ENTIRE WEEKEND full of terrific
that's what.
And life's too short for that.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Did you get your hands on Episode 36 of The Chick Whisperer
with Adam Gilad yet? If not, here's the iTunes link. Getchasum:
The Chick Whisperer Podcast
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